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Neer is still remembered
6 months ago
Keep Your Promises, Especially To Yourself.
I sadly did not know Neer as well as I would have liked. We crossed paths a few times and talked and what not, but little more than that. Each time however was a good time.
I... likely wouldn't be a part of this community, or looking at writing my first real novel in the near future, if it hadn't been for F.A. and the communities that appeared within it. I can't imagine the friends I wouldn't have or the purpose I'd lack if not for this site.
The few times I met Neer, or Wren, really reflected the spirit I think that drives F.A. still. There is always gonna be an unpleasant side to things as big as F.A. but at its core... its a place for all of us weirdos to exist in peace.
Drama happens, nastiness happens, just bad things happen... but it has consistently been welcoming and even celebrating of our collective weirdness, the weirdness that makes us who we are and not just a demographic.
I always got the same vibe from Neer, even at his lowest he was still accepting, still kind, he still made you feel welcome to be yourself, even encouraged.
I wish I'd known him better, he deserved to be known better. All I can do now is say, Thank you Neer. For living you made a lot of lives better. Not just by making a website, but by being who you were.
To those hit hardest by his passing, who are still grieving hard. I cannot begin to imagine what you've gone through, and I am sorry for that.
The road forward, will be twisting and winding but surviving loss does tend to follow a general direction.
The sense of loss... never totally goes away. It will however hit you less and less often, and will dominate your day to day less and less. You'll start to remember his smile more and the loss of it less. You'll start to live a life he would have wanted you to more and less and less feel the pain he wouldn't have wanted for you.
Hold on, and talk to people. You will slowly grow and that wound his passing left will dominate less and less. He would have wanted you to find joy again.
You don't have to stay strong, cry if you need to, go get some cheap dishes to shatter if you need to break something, then find someone to talk to. There's always someone out here on F.A. willing to listen when you need to vent. Strength will come later. Then you can be there for someone who's lost their friend too.
I... likely wouldn't be a part of this community, or looking at writing my first real novel in the near future, if it hadn't been for F.A. and the communities that appeared within it. I can't imagine the friends I wouldn't have or the purpose I'd lack if not for this site.
The few times I met Neer, or Wren, really reflected the spirit I think that drives F.A. still. There is always gonna be an unpleasant side to things as big as F.A. but at its core... its a place for all of us weirdos to exist in peace.
Drama happens, nastiness happens, just bad things happen... but it has consistently been welcoming and even celebrating of our collective weirdness, the weirdness that makes us who we are and not just a demographic.
I always got the same vibe from Neer, even at his lowest he was still accepting, still kind, he still made you feel welcome to be yourself, even encouraged.
I wish I'd known him better, he deserved to be known better. All I can do now is say, Thank you Neer. For living you made a lot of lives better. Not just by making a website, but by being who you were.
To those hit hardest by his passing, who are still grieving hard. I cannot begin to imagine what you've gone through, and I am sorry for that.
The road forward, will be twisting and winding but surviving loss does tend to follow a general direction.
The sense of loss... never totally goes away. It will however hit you less and less often, and will dominate your day to day less and less. You'll start to remember his smile more and the loss of it less. You'll start to live a life he would have wanted you to more and less and less feel the pain he wouldn't have wanted for you.
Hold on, and talk to people. You will slowly grow and that wound his passing left will dominate less and less. He would have wanted you to find joy again.
You don't have to stay strong, cry if you need to, go get some cheap dishes to shatter if you need to break something, then find someone to talk to. There's always someone out here on F.A. willing to listen when you need to vent. Strength will come later. Then you can be there for someone who's lost their friend too.
Growan
~growan
I never got to meet Neer, but I can sympathise with those who did. I lost my father not long ago, and seeing the things he left behind still causes a few stings. However he also taught me several games, and introduced me to a lot of music. As long as you keep the treasures he gave close, Neer will never be far. Just like Borni, Muscle Wolf and Dineegla.
