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Things to consider BEFORE getting married
7 months ago
WARNING: If you aren't in the mood to read this, you don't need to read this (especially since this may contain sensitive stuff). If you wish to read this, read with caution.
But this is useful info, and I want to share this somewhere, because many parents in the world didn't consider the following things before marriage. There had been cases of divorce, and not every family is functional, and not all families can get help when they need. So here are the things to consider before getting married:
1.Did you and whoever you are considering marrying GRADUATE college, or at least can get by in life very easily and make a lot of money? If not, then I suggest not getting married. Families need a LOT of money.
(EDIT: And having children will take up a lot of your money.)
2. Pregnancy is PAINFUL... no kidding... and if you want kids anyway, either find ways for pregnancy to be easier, OR adopt someone in need. Because not everyone can survive pregnancy without abortion, and in some places, abortion is illegal, and surely for good reason...
3. Taking care of your kids for a lot of your life truly is very hard... From changing diapers, to teaching them things, to getting them to behave, to taking them to/from school, to preparing them for their futures... and all that. And to make it harder, neither ever abusing them at all nor being nice to them all the time will do because abusing them can TRAUMATIZE them... and hurt them not just in the short run, but in the long run, too... and abusing them can make them future child abusers or maybe even SCHOOL SHOOTERS... arguing in front of your children count, too. And being nice to them all the time may sound like the best idea, but that might make your child think it's okay to break some rules of society and such, and make them entitled for sure.
4. Make sure you and someone you are considering getting married with can always be in good terms.
5. (ADDED Jul 19, 2025) Consider how many children you want to have. More children would increase population and can be a part of increasing traffic and resources being depleted faster. Not only that, two or more children can be stressful, too, because not only it can be overwhelming to multitask, but your children have a high risk of getting into fights with each other, and nobody should have to deal with fights alone, and things not improving.
I might have forgotten some stuff, but that's all I can think of for now. Anyway, I don't think I can handle all that, especially not after seeing and hearing about and experiencing a whole lot, so I prefer not getting married in real life, even though weddings are beautiful and lovely (I like to attend weddings). However, I'm not saying don't get married, but consider those things before doing so. Do you think you can handle it?
But this is useful info, and I want to share this somewhere, because many parents in the world didn't consider the following things before marriage. There had been cases of divorce, and not every family is functional, and not all families can get help when they need. So here are the things to consider before getting married:
1.Did you and whoever you are considering marrying GRADUATE college, or at least can get by in life very easily and make a lot of money? If not, then I suggest not getting married. Families need a LOT of money.
(EDIT: And having children will take up a lot of your money.)
2. Pregnancy is PAINFUL... no kidding... and if you want kids anyway, either find ways for pregnancy to be easier, OR adopt someone in need. Because not everyone can survive pregnancy without abortion, and in some places, abortion is illegal, and surely for good reason...
3. Taking care of your kids for a lot of your life truly is very hard... From changing diapers, to teaching them things, to getting them to behave, to taking them to/from school, to preparing them for their futures... and all that. And to make it harder, neither ever abusing them at all nor being nice to them all the time will do because abusing them can TRAUMATIZE them... and hurt them not just in the short run, but in the long run, too... and abusing them can make them future child abusers or maybe even SCHOOL SHOOTERS... arguing in front of your children count, too. And being nice to them all the time may sound like the best idea, but that might make your child think it's okay to break some rules of society and such, and make them entitled for sure.
4. Make sure you and someone you are considering getting married with can always be in good terms.
5. (ADDED Jul 19, 2025) Consider how many children you want to have. More children would increase population and can be a part of increasing traffic and resources being depleted faster. Not only that, two or more children can be stressful, too, because not only it can be overwhelming to multitask, but your children have a high risk of getting into fights with each other, and nobody should have to deal with fights alone, and things not improving.
I might have forgotten some stuff, but that's all I can think of for now. Anyway, I don't think I can handle all that, especially not after seeing and hearing about and experiencing a whole lot, so I prefer not getting married in real life, even though weddings are beautiful and lovely (I like to attend weddings). However, I'm not saying don't get married, but consider those things before doing so. Do you think you can handle it?
