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I hate my boyfriend's father
7 months ago
So, today it seems that my boyfriend's Ferzu account was deleted, and it could only have been his father due to his hatred of furries. My boyfriend was born in 1980 and lives on his own, but his father has a copy of the keys to take care of the cats in case of an emergency. His parents are divorced, and his mother loves furries, going so far as to have helped him buy a partial fursuit, which his father keeps demanding that he MUST throw away along with all his other furry stuff because all furries are "evil". He has taken to having to hide his fursuit in his own home because of his father who doesn't even live with him. Anyway, I went on Ferzu this morning to chat with my boyfriend and noticed that his account and out entire chat history is missing. So, I messaged him via Telegram and this is the conversation.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 8:50 AM]
Hey Aaron, I cannot find your Ferzu account anymore.
Skratch Trak, [3/26/2025 8:52 AM]
That’s weird.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 8:53 AM]
My complete message history with you there is gone.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 8:55 AM]
Your not even listed among my network on Ferzu anymore.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 8:58 AM]
Either you were banned without knowing or someone shut down your account. I don't know if this if me being paranoid, but could your father have had something to do with it? Maybe hired someone to shut it down?
Skratch Trak, [3/26/2025 8:59 AM]
Yeah, he did see my account not long ago when he came over and he wasn’t happy about it.
Skratch Trak, [3/26/2025 9:00 AM]
But it might be just a glitch or something. I’ll try logging back in later. Has any other Ferzu users been talking about technical issues?
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 9:00 AM]
Not to my knowledge.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 9:01 AM]
Does your dad have keys to your place?
Skratch Trak, [3/26/2025 9:02 AM]
Yes he does have keys in case I need him to come over and help take care of my cats if I need him to.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 9:02 AM]
He could have let himself in and shut down your account while you were at work.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 9:03 AM]
You need to make sure none of your furry belongings are missing.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 9:04 AM]
Just saying that with his hatred of furries, I wouldn't put either of those past him.
Skratch Trak, [3/26/2025 9:07 AM]
Yeah. I will check when I get home. He might be there now. He knows when I’m not home if he wants to snoop around. I will not be happy.
Skratch Trak, [3/26/2025 9:08 AM]
If my account was logged in on my computer he might have deleted it. I don’t know. I’ll find out later.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 1:26 PM]
Let me know what you find out.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 8:50 AM]
Hey Aaron, I cannot find your Ferzu account anymore.
Skratch Trak, [3/26/2025 8:52 AM]
That’s weird.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 8:53 AM]
My complete message history with you there is gone.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 8:55 AM]
Your not even listed among my network on Ferzu anymore.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 8:58 AM]
Either you were banned without knowing or someone shut down your account. I don't know if this if me being paranoid, but could your father have had something to do with it? Maybe hired someone to shut it down?
Skratch Trak, [3/26/2025 8:59 AM]
Yeah, he did see my account not long ago when he came over and he wasn’t happy about it.
Skratch Trak, [3/26/2025 9:00 AM]
But it might be just a glitch or something. I’ll try logging back in later. Has any other Ferzu users been talking about technical issues?
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 9:00 AM]
Not to my knowledge.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 9:01 AM]
Does your dad have keys to your place?
Skratch Trak, [3/26/2025 9:02 AM]
Yes he does have keys in case I need him to come over and help take care of my cats if I need him to.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 9:02 AM]
He could have let himself in and shut down your account while you were at work.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 9:03 AM]
You need to make sure none of your furry belongings are missing.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 9:04 AM]
Just saying that with his hatred of furries, I wouldn't put either of those past him.
Skratch Trak, [3/26/2025 9:07 AM]
Yeah. I will check when I get home. He might be there now. He knows when I’m not home if he wants to snoop around. I will not be happy.
Skratch Trak, [3/26/2025 9:08 AM]
If my account was logged in on my computer he might have deleted it. I don’t know. I’ll find out later.
John Bandow, [3/26/2025 1:26 PM]
Let me know what you find out.
If he was worried, he needed to call the police for a wellness check or enter the house with them.
Has your BF filed a police report? Because that's essentially unlawful entry and potentially a cybercrime.
Also, give the father an ultimatum.
"This is my life, not yours. Continue to cause problems, and you can count on me not helping keep you alive in your old age."
That should do it.
Not cool.
Ok, so: First thing you want to do is have your BF contact the furzu help/tech support and try to open a ticket about it. If he can't because of the lack of account, you might want to open it on his behalf. That's the best chance of having the account restored. The sooner the better.
Second thing is to change the lock: asking for the key back is probably not a great move because A) the dad could have made another copy and B) he might refuse, start something over it that just makes this messier.
THIRD thing: ask the father directly about this. See what he says. The information is important. Record everything you can if possible. (don't know your area's consent rules for this) I agree with him on the ACAB front, but cops might get involved without either of you asking them to if things escalate. So paper and audio trails of things are good. Also photos of everything so you have a record of what you have in case something ends up stolen. For insurance and legal purposes.
This is a shitty situation and I'm sorry you guys are going through it.
"My dad did not admit to anything but he did say that Ferzu was causing problems in my life and that I need to stay off social media including Facebook. I don’t know what to think about that. Maybe he’s right. Maybe he’s not. I’m feeling confused."