Dating apps are poison to ones confidence and mind, they're business driven and the more you engage with the app the better (aka not actually finding anyone suitable so you stick to it)

It's unfortunately just putting yourself out there, go to pubs/conventions/public places of interest and chat with others, maybe finding someone online trough shared interests, like online games, message boards etc.

Do keep in mind it's important to pay attention to your well-being first and foremost, i've seen it frequently said that if you -need- a relationship rather than let one develop naturally then it'll be extra troublesome due to the pressure that'll build up from that need, and others will definitely pick up on that.

Just observations i've found, not facts or anything, good luck, it IS though and involves a lot of luck.

I've tried for a long time going in places (never works because of my anxiety) and trying to make connections online but it always fail. I just don't fit anywhere...