I just have like...4-5 persons that starts a conversation with me but i am the one who mostly reaches out to them sometimes.. And sometimes posting a journal helps a bit more but depends of who's interested in reaching out to give some advice etc

yea I usually have to be the one to reach out to even get a conversation going if it even gets going that is. just how it is

just talk with them, treat them kindly & get to know them.

have tried time and time again, not saying its a wrong thing to do more so I just ended up left on read/ignored after a while. countless times so far, but will keep trying ofc

Happens to me too, don't worry.

got blocked for doing that before.

Such a mood sometimes. Life is just complicated, is not like you're always able to or interested in respond(ing) to everything that comes to you right on time if at all. And people have to balance time for life, time for self, and time for others so it can feel like you've fallen into someone's "lower priority" schedule, but it doesn't mean they don't like you.

Just being present and showing you care back can go a long way, even if it might not be apparent in the moment.

Even if it might feel being annoying, it's good to try signal from time to time that you don't want the relation die out, the other person might feel the same thing and is just awkward to contact you first.

Beats me, I don't even know how I got MY friends lmao.

totally get it

I'm not really sure at this point. Most people who are outside of my long-time-friends circle I'm actively apart of just stick to asking me how I'm doing, or if I'm doing anything interesting. To which, I don't generally have an answer that amounts to building any rapport with them. Ask simple questions, get simple answers. That sort of conundrum.

Most of my older circle of friends are people I've known for like, 10+ years or more. It was easier for me to socialize back then because I was a lot younger and had a lot more... social energy? I dunno, maybe I just actually had more interesting things going on cause I got out a lot more. Had money, had stuff to do, so I would often have stuff to talk about by proxy.

I think another big part of what kept me more socially active was that myself and my same-ish age social circles all loved to write, draw, RP, and were just overall a hell of a lot more creative and inclusive to new faces and ideas. Gets harder the more burned out you get approaching your late 20s, going into your 30s. =w=;

Ultimately, I don't know what would help me build up a friendship. I'm so burned out, it's hard to find the drive to approach others. Especially if they're always working, tired, burned out too.

Damn, I think the tl;dr here is, I have social anxiety, and I have a hell of a lot harder time making connections the older and more burned out I get from social anxiety induced stress. x.x

makes sense sometimes things fall into place. I get having long standing friendships hard to start those for myself

I care about you. I just don't have the strength to talk. T-T