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5 months ago
Hi there, thanks for joining me on this wild ride through the world of transformation smut. If you're reading this I'm assuming you like my work and I am truly overjoyed to share it. Connecting with tf people is one of my greatest joys haha.
I've been asked a number of times what happened to me, and I'm fine with sharing an answer, but it's often long-winded and complicated, and tough to sum up with a pat answer that explains anything. It's easier to have a response here rather than try to explain it elsewhere.
I have had the outrageous good fortune to be partnered and later married to the same sweet guy since 2001. Imagine, almost 25 years with someone who's among the kindest and gentlest people you've ever met, it's been a blessing! I love him dearly, and don't regret a single bit of our time together. HOWEVER, it took me far too long to come to terms with all this transformation stuff I kept thinking about, and halfway through the marriage had to admit to several things I'd been keeping quiet. I had to explain that in spite of very clearly being into guys, what truly got me going was this thing I'd kept hidden from you for a decade, this transformation stuff that is my genuine sexuality if I had to define it. Oh, and I'm asexual and really don't want to have sex anymore...
As you can imagine, it was tough, but we got through it and are now very happy. We opened our marriage because I felt bad to deprive him of the sex he very much wanted to have and I couldn't fake anymore. He dated guys and expanded his circle of friends dramatically, I hang out with them most of the time these days and we're an awesome trivia team. I started searching for other people like me that I could finally, FINALLY, share this thing with, and I found them, some right near where I live! One thing leads to another and I fall deeply in love, and it can't work out because I can't leave my husband, I love him too much! I felt like I was hurting too many people by getting too close and not being able to be what they wanted me to be for them. Couple all that drama with my preexisting mental health struggles and I got lost in a deep and hazy depression funk. Suddenly, like rip van winkle, I get medicated and finally feel free of all that silly sadness, only to find I haven't been here in years. I've truly missed being able to share art again and god willing have little intention of leaving again.
Me and my boo are still going strong, he's amazingly supportive of my tf art, he doesn't get it, but hey, I don't get all that physical sex nonsense but you don't see me making fun of him!
Thanks for reading, and be well.
-Sergio
I've been asked a number of times what happened to me, and I'm fine with sharing an answer, but it's often long-winded and complicated, and tough to sum up with a pat answer that explains anything. It's easier to have a response here rather than try to explain it elsewhere.
I have had the outrageous good fortune to be partnered and later married to the same sweet guy since 2001. Imagine, almost 25 years with someone who's among the kindest and gentlest people you've ever met, it's been a blessing! I love him dearly, and don't regret a single bit of our time together. HOWEVER, it took me far too long to come to terms with all this transformation stuff I kept thinking about, and halfway through the marriage had to admit to several things I'd been keeping quiet. I had to explain that in spite of very clearly being into guys, what truly got me going was this thing I'd kept hidden from you for a decade, this transformation stuff that is my genuine sexuality if I had to define it. Oh, and I'm asexual and really don't want to have sex anymore...
As you can imagine, it was tough, but we got through it and are now very happy. We opened our marriage because I felt bad to deprive him of the sex he very much wanted to have and I couldn't fake anymore. He dated guys and expanded his circle of friends dramatically, I hang out with them most of the time these days and we're an awesome trivia team. I started searching for other people like me that I could finally, FINALLY, share this thing with, and I found them, some right near where I live! One thing leads to another and I fall deeply in love, and it can't work out because I can't leave my husband, I love him too much! I felt like I was hurting too many people by getting too close and not being able to be what they wanted me to be for them. Couple all that drama with my preexisting mental health struggles and I got lost in a deep and hazy depression funk. Suddenly, like rip van winkle, I get medicated and finally feel free of all that silly sadness, only to find I haven't been here in years. I've truly missed being able to share art again and god willing have little intention of leaving again.
Me and my boo are still going strong, he's amazingly supportive of my tf art, he doesn't get it, but hey, I don't get all that physical sex nonsense but you don't see me making fun of him!
Thanks for reading, and be well.
-Sergio
Oh, and depression meds? I told my other friend who's on depression medication that it's like remembering how to have feelings again and no longer seeing the world through a filter. It's life changing.
Always glad to have ya here, Sergio. Thanks for sharing your story, you wonderful bean. ❤️
I do feel like a bit of a weight has been lifted now that I've firmly figured out what the heck I am. A sexuality based almost entirely around people turning into donkeys and rats is a tough one to pin down haha.
We had another hurdle as one of my friends with benefits went into his own relationship, which made me realize I had strong feelings for another man, and I didn't think it was fair for him that I couldn't be with him further. Eventually, I asked my partner if I could open up, and they reluctantly agreed for my happiness, though they were struggling with their own. However, we talked about what they needed and worked on making sure they felt special and loved. In the end, it worked out and both my relationships are very strong today!
I forgot to add my parther is into TF but not comfortable rping with me, thoguh we can at least chat similar likes and triggers we grew up with. my boyfriend also likes TF and we regularly add that to our irl fun to great effect
So wonderful you figured out what works for you and your happiness. Being able to share a day-to-day life with a tf person must be lovely, especially if the kinks line up. :3
From everyone I've ever heard describe you as a person, they have always said extremely positive things. It's awesome to have you back and to see that everything they have said has been proven completely true! It's my sincerest hope we'll continue to see more of you around and that your heart will find the happiness it has been striving for. We're all beautiful people, unique and yearning for connection, stumbling our way through one step at a time.
The best is yet to come.
However, do you know for sure that your asexuality is not the result of an imbalance in your body? I am genuinely inquiring. It does happen sometimes. I would suggest a daily intake of Vitamin D (ideally D3) and Vitamin K (ideally K2).
I wish to make no attempt to pry. I could completely lack understanding of your situation because it is not mine. I am merely skeptical of sexualities outside of the Kinsey Scale -- though, again, I don't wish to cause offense. Truly.