Sry to hear you gotten wierdos who ghost ya after art been done. I myself get alot of NSFW art with friends or SFW. And hmm dunno if there is anything you can do about some acting like that then just being very strict about who you get art with and maybe block the ones that creep ya out? I've gotten a few creepy notes from my uploads and my way of doing it was just ignoring their messages. You shouldn't let a few bad apples ruin the batch. If you really wanna upload NSFW art here on your main account also. And i Also hope you have a nice weekend too!

I think your oc is adorable so of course I'd like to see nsfw, but if you're worried about attracting the kind of people that come with that sort of content, perhaps make a separate nsfw account that you only use for uploads? That way you're still putting it out there for people to see but don't have those people invading your main account.

Just a fish's opinion 🐟

I felt this so so hard... It's the same exact reason I dont really allow people I dont know well, get nsfw with my characters, because I too have had people ghost me or just overall cease contact after they got what they wanted, so I 100% feel for you on this. I tend to wait a long while to get to know the person now before jumping into something lewd, thanks to too many bad experiences...

Ultimately, the way I look at it, is the art is of YOUR character too, and if you spent your portion on it (even if it was a gift), you have every right to upload it in the end. As for creepy or uncomfortable comments, I'd would just block the accounts doing so, especially if its a repeating offender. Like you don't owe a single reason to anyone especially if they are making you uncomfortable in your spaces.

Personally, from what you have said and what you have expressed in the past, I feel it might be in your best interest to keep your uploads SFW. Ultimately, the art you get should be first and foremost for you, and what you get and what you choose to upload should be what feels right to you; concerning yourself over what does well statistically or what people might want to see is the wrong approach, in my opinion.

This all being said, it is what feels most comfortable for you. If you decide you do want to share such artwork, obviously that will be the right call; just be sure to ask yourself if the potential for creepy comments, unwelcome art you did not approve of, or people fixating on NSFW art with you is something you will be comfortable with. You can obviously block people, but that is really just a bandage, so just be certain it isn't going to ruin the art for you. I know you deleted your old account and chose to keep this one SFW at first for a reason; are you happier and more comfortable now than you were with the NSFW content available on your FA account?

In summary, what is important in this regard is what you want, not what other people want or might want to see. This is your space, and you should be comfortable in it. If you want to upload your NSFW content, then you should do so. If you prefer to play it safe and not risk the sort of comments and people who make you uncomfortable, then you should stick to the SFW content.

The perspective I needed, thanks <3

Going to second this, absolutely. If it makes you uncomfortable, then don't post it. You're still cute and adorable, and seem like a really sweet and cool person who doesn't need that kind of drama. For your own protection I'd say, it's not worth it, but if you feel the emotional boost is worth it, maybe create a place elsewhere like Telegram or something that you can intentionally control access? That's mostly what I've done and it's been nice.

But take care of yourself, definitely!

As much as I'd love to see NSFW of Lavin, this is ultimately your gallery. You run it the way you want to. If you want to show off, put it elsewhere.

I have commissioned art in my files that I have never uploaded anywhere, will never upload anywhere, and paid extra for the artist to never upload them anywhere, all because of the way some people are in the community.

Sure, it sucks that I can't show those off, but it insulates me from any drama/controversy/whatever and it keeps me happy. I can live with the file existing in my Google Drive or in a small closed/invite-only discord server only friends go to.

As for avoiding the weirdos?

Uhhhh, sorry, but you'll come across 'em whether you want to or not. Best practice is to just keep any online person you meet at arm's length, unless you deduced they're genuine in being friends.

But... a month? A month isn't long enough.

So, there's this artist I met last year here on FA. I liked chatting with them, I love certain aspects of their art style, and even when they finished my commission, we kept talking. I eventually got a gift art or two from them several weeks/months later (because of delays in another commission), but that's not why I got close to them to begin with. I consider us friends. Why shouldn't I just randomly hit them up? Ask about their day? Tell 'em about mine? We don't even talk about art on the infrequent chance we get to chat.

I actually feel a bit pressured 'cause I haven't given anything back, and I intend on commissioning a gift art later this year.

You should pay attention to the time, effort, and consistency that any online person makes in reaching out to you. That will help in deciphering whether they are really interested in you, the person behind this account, or whether they are just out to use/exploit your relationship only to ditch you once they get what they want?

I'm in kind of the same boat as you Lavin. The sad reality is that people kind of treat you like a whore if they like your character. For me personally I just kind of keep my DM's closed and don't make myself approachable, for me FA is just an archive that I can reference if someone ever tries to steal my characters or art. Not really a social platform. So I guess the main point is, what are your goals and desires. if you just want to share art and porn then maybe it's best to not let people interact with you if they are coming from where you posted porn as that's a good signal of what they really want. what they are looking for. if you want to make real friends and relations you'll probably have to keep things SFW.

TL DR: What you put out there influences what you get and so you have to decide what you want.

As much as I'd love to see NSFW of your adorable dragon, it's more important that you do whatever makes you feel most safe and comfortable.
The bad peeps and weirdos are sadly going to still be around regardless, but try to ignore them as best you can.


I don't really have answers to what I'd do in your situation as I have no clue. Not that social and I tend to forget to check in with peeps.
As for the "would it be weird" part, I personally don't think so.
But again, do what makes you feel the most comfortable and safe, I'm just happy to see posts of the cutie.

That's awful. Really is.
It's really hit or miss with dms j
I find. But yeah getting manipulative for art is really some bottom of the barrel behavior.

Would a 2nd account work? Since most won't DM your SFW account being so creepy, but you have an easy all in one place link between the two for it all.

I'm a bit too late here ahaha, I just stumbled upon this when posting a sh*tpost shout. It might be a bit too late, but maybe I can share something from the perspective of a SFW only artist? I'm not sure if it would be useful, but I digress haha.

I might not have NSFW myself, but a lot of my friends do and some of them even stopped additionally because of the creepy, uncomfortable things people would say/do to them. I think unfortunately a lot of people don't understand that someone getting NSFW doesn't mean that they are comfortable with people acting that way towards them- there's a person behind the art. If this is something that you just feel incredibly uncomfortable with and don't want that kinda stuff directed towards you, you might not want to do it, or just make it incredibly clear that those kind of comments are not welcome.

But also, if you really want to post it yourself, that's the most important thing. If it's something that you want to do, and you want to show the public your NSFW, then you should do it! Ultimately, the most important thing is what you wish your gallery looks like. It's your page after all! If other people are pressuring you to do it, or you're doing it for the sake of your friends, your comfort and likes is honestly the bigger priority. And trust me, I know that NSFW gets a lot more views and it's nice having all of the comments and views and etc to add serotonin to your brain, but if bad NSFW interaction weighs heavier on your mind it might not be worth it.

People can really just... suck sometimes. Anyone who approaches you for NSFW and then drops you like dung is horrible. I'm really sorry that happened to you... I guess, since you asked about how to avoid weirdos- I probably don't get as many creepy people as people who get NSFW might do but I had some experiences. I just think that the best way to avoid them is to just... see how they treat you. I feel like if that person truly wanted to be your friend who who you are, once you said "no" to getting NSFW art with them they should have respected that and stopped asking. Someone who talks to you and then continuously pushes you for something you have already stated that you don't want is definitely someone with an ulterior motive to getting close with you. Don't be afraid to just not respond and just shut that kind of behavior down. Ghosting is not cool at all, but also at the same time you have no obligation to talk with people- especially people who treat you without respect. I feel like the people who truly care for you and who you are rather than what you provide will always treat you with respect and care about your feeling, and not continuously talk about what they want from you.

Ok I'm honestly just rambling at this point because I'm multi-tasking haha, but I guess what I would do is:

--What would you do in my situation?

Honestly I would just figure out your feelings on posting NSFW and being open about that kinda stuff. There is obviously both pros and cons to doing so that you seemed to have thought throughout about. Is it something you really want to showcase and would love to showcase, or just something you're kinda doing out of obligation? Are you ok with people potentially being creepy in your comments and being lewd to you (which probably would happen)? Is it possible to have a workaround, like making it very clear in your profile/descriptions that you don't want creepy comments? I would imagine different senarios in your brain: You posting the art, getting positive comments, getting creepy comments, people talking about the art to you, etc. If something seems really off and disgusting and makes you feel uncomfortable imaginging it- you probably shouldn't do it. If it seems alright to you, and you feel like you want to do it, then maybe you should try it out. You can always delete it afterwards if it just feels wrong to you. Again, I would just do what you think you would feel the most comfortable with/enjoy the most.


--Do you have any tips on how to avoid the weirdos?

Well... As someone who has had a lot of people still be creepy to me, I've always just been direct honestly. Like, "Hey, I'm sorry I don't want to talk about this/not really into this!" You also don't need to respond to people who approach you to be creepy. I think if you set clear and important boundaries, most of the time people will understand. Just don't be afraid to set a clear boundary if you feel uncomfortable with something! You're never the bad guy for doing so, and you can always do so in a kind and polite way! You also can just not respond to people being creepy, although I do prefer just telling them to not do such things to me haha. I think there are always going to be weirdos, especially when they see NSFW and think it's ok to treat you NSFW because you get NSFW, but if it's something that you personally don't take to heart then it might be good to just be clear about what you want.


--Is it weird to suddenly post nsfw content as I have been SFW only for years at this point?

I think in this case, not really. Your reason for being SFW is clearly stated and has to do with avoiding people using you for NSFW. Everyone is allowed to change their mind on things- if you feel comfortable with posting it again then you feel comfortable with posting it again. I mean, maybe I'm not the best person to say that because I don't usually check your profile + I have sfw mode on regardless but I would say for the most part it wouldn't be weird.

Also sorry I'm rambling on an old journal post X-X You probably already made your decision on the matter, but I still wanted to say something!

Hehe, never too late for a nice comment. Especially one you put quite a bit of thought into. I have decided to keep it SFW, yeah. The people I want to see my nsfw stuff can still see it via other artists, my discord or such. I simply had too many bad experiences with weird people, even to this day some people still go past the "hey that's nice/hot" territory into the "god I just want collar you and do weird stuff to you" xD

Many people on the internet simply don't seem to understand what is nice praise vs creepy comments

I think that is honestly the best choice! It's what I would have made in your shoes, but of course I didn't want to say that because of potential bias haha.

And yeah... That last part is unfortunately true ;-;