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Some Issues with the Fur Community
3 months ago
So.. I have been in the fur community for a little over 20 years, and I've always noticed some constants in the community that are legitimate problems, such as:
Drama/Cancel Culture - It's always been a meme in the fur community, even back in it's early days, that drama is their main focus and.. I, honestly, believe it. Every month, there's some dipshit online who'll cause drama or try to cancel someone over something meaningless like digitigrade legs, ferals, animalistic/non-human genitalia, ABDL, being over 30 years old etc. because, by their words, it's "morally wrong" when it is not. I can almost always guarantee you that they legitimately don't care what they're causing issues for, they just like to stir the pot and make everyone angry, some, legitimately are that braindead, though. It's emotionally draining and is a major motivator as to why some furs leave the community. Personally, I am into things that these drama furs absolutely hate and while I would never harm anyone nor anything, they don't give a flying fuck about that, they want me gone and want me dead.
Lack of Child-Friendly Spaces - Now, this is probably hypocritical coming from someone who draws porn but hear me out. There is absolutely no child-friendly spaces for furs that minors can go to which results in one of the biggest issues in the fur fandom which is child predation. This is due to minors having to share spaces with fully grown adults and having to deal with all the cons of that and I know this from experience since I joined the community when I was 9. I've been groomed and sexually assaulted from the age of 12 all the way up to 19 which has led me to being extremely wary of intimate relationships and while I am in an intimate relationship, it doesn't mean I am not cautious of my partner. I love him dearly and I've been with him for 10 years but my trauma makes it really hard for me to open up and be vulnerable to him but I am still trying.
Homicidal Hatred and Total Apathy - So this is one that feels like a more recent issue with the fur community but has been a constant one for the past 10-15 years, at least. Furs seem to go for two complete extremes which is just.. murderous/homicidal hatred and complete numbness/apathy towards certain groups of individuals in the fur community. The fur community is supposed to be friendly and welcoming but... it's anything but that if you're into certain kinks which are nothing but fantasy. I've experienced this first hand because of the kinks I am into and I will not go into here. It's another big reason why some furs leave the community and why I barely take part in it. I don't like being treated like shit for, basically, no reason and I hate having to trauma dump to prove a point that I'm not going to hurt anyone nor anything but here we are.
Lack of Social Awareness - So this is a specific one and that there's really not much anyone can do about it other than call out that kind of behaviour but it's so common to come across furs who will just straight up tell you that they want to fuck you in some way. It's really fucking creepy and I genuinely don't know how so many furs lack such social awareness and this is coming from someone who is struggles A LOT socially. I don't want to know that you want to fuck me and my sona, alright?
But yeah.. these are just the issues I've noticed and dealt with my entire time I've been a fur. If I ever feel distant, now you know why.
Drama/Cancel Culture - It's always been a meme in the fur community, even back in it's early days, that drama is their main focus and.. I, honestly, believe it. Every month, there's some dipshit online who'll cause drama or try to cancel someone over something meaningless like digitigrade legs, ferals, animalistic/non-human genitalia, ABDL, being over 30 years old etc. because, by their words, it's "morally wrong" when it is not. I can almost always guarantee you that they legitimately don't care what they're causing issues for, they just like to stir the pot and make everyone angry, some, legitimately are that braindead, though. It's emotionally draining and is a major motivator as to why some furs leave the community. Personally, I am into things that these drama furs absolutely hate and while I would never harm anyone nor anything, they don't give a flying fuck about that, they want me gone and want me dead.
Lack of Child-Friendly Spaces - Now, this is probably hypocritical coming from someone who draws porn but hear me out. There is absolutely no child-friendly spaces for furs that minors can go to which results in one of the biggest issues in the fur fandom which is child predation. This is due to minors having to share spaces with fully grown adults and having to deal with all the cons of that and I know this from experience since I joined the community when I was 9. I've been groomed and sexually assaulted from the age of 12 all the way up to 19 which has led me to being extremely wary of intimate relationships and while I am in an intimate relationship, it doesn't mean I am not cautious of my partner. I love him dearly and I've been with him for 10 years but my trauma makes it really hard for me to open up and be vulnerable to him but I am still trying.
Homicidal Hatred and Total Apathy - So this is one that feels like a more recent issue with the fur community but has been a constant one for the past 10-15 years, at least. Furs seem to go for two complete extremes which is just.. murderous/homicidal hatred and complete numbness/apathy towards certain groups of individuals in the fur community. The fur community is supposed to be friendly and welcoming but... it's anything but that if you're into certain kinks which are nothing but fantasy. I've experienced this first hand because of the kinks I am into and I will not go into here. It's another big reason why some furs leave the community and why I barely take part in it. I don't like being treated like shit for, basically, no reason and I hate having to trauma dump to prove a point that I'm not going to hurt anyone nor anything but here we are.
Lack of Social Awareness - So this is a specific one and that there's really not much anyone can do about it other than call out that kind of behaviour but it's so common to come across furs who will just straight up tell you that they want to fuck you in some way. It's really fucking creepy and I genuinely don't know how so many furs lack such social awareness and this is coming from someone who is struggles A LOT socially. I don't want to know that you want to fuck me and my sona, alright?
But yeah.. these are just the issues I've noticed and dealt with my entire time I've been a fur. If I ever feel distant, now you know why.
Bantam
Been in the fandom about 20 years as well, and I agree with all your points
Kori
~kamoto
OP
Yeah.. I wish they'd change for the better but I feel like all that I've mentioned has just been getting worse and worse to the point where I have to hold everyone at a distance because I can't trust them not to treat me like garbage.
