I am confused isn't your icon girl giraffe with penis wont that be make it a futa.

What the difference?

Some don't like that terminology, intersex is the more preferred way of it more or less, some find it rude and disrespectful

Correct

Nnnnnooooo? Women with penises exist and aren't called "futa"s. That's a kind of really shitty term to just insta-use for women with dicks. It's also been a term used to replace trans-women or intersex people in games.

It's a word used by shit heads to erase actual groups of people and turn them into porn. R34 famously, tried to erase all terms of Trans etc from its site sometime last year or early this year and replace every form of it with 'futa'. It's dehumanising and it's erasure.

because nobody else decided to be actually useful let me do the honors here
the rule34 tagging system is a bit more geared towards the end user than the actual artists, and because for quite a lot of people "woman with dick = futanari" they probably won't let you remove that tag. i say probably because idk what the actual rules are.
that being said, just contact the rule34 staff at staff[at]booru.org and describe the issue you're having. even if you can't get the tags issue resolved maybe they can probably remove all of the art with your ocs from the site if you just say you do not wish to have your characters on there
that being said, i never had the pleasure of contacting r34 staff, nor have i ever been on the site for like 4 years atp - so ymmv. for all i know they might just ghost you.
good luck anyhow