To me, love is caring, not just about the other person's happiness, but also about their health, wellness, safety, and comfort. And the three people I care most about,  nunya  raukue and  mikeyvulpine don't give a shit about their own health or mine, and don't listen to my advice. But  nunya impacts me most directly because he lives with me, and causes me undue stress, because I care about him and he doesn't tell me what's happening half the time.