So... Now what?
18 years ago
This is something I've needed to write for a while but just really wasn't sure what to say. A few months ago I basically announced my retirement from anthro and from art as a whole. At the time it was sincere, not a case of burnout or artist's block. Depression is a bitch of a thing, mainly because as they say it never rains but pours. There was a lot of bad shit going on in my life and I just honestly wasn't enjoying anything anymore. I just had the feeling that nothing mattered and nobody gave a shit, which included myself.
It was then that someone (I won't mention names) within the "community" did something, intentional or not, that just drove the point home - reinforced my idea that nothing I did was worth anyone's time, including mine. Maybe I took it too hard, or maybe it was just a case of bad timing, but I'll be honest, it hurt, and was very much the proverbial last straw.
But it's been a few months and I've certainly been busy. I figured out, I guess, that although art wasn't making me happy, neither was anything else, so why bother flushing it. I guess it just goes to show what you can accomplish when you just stop giving a damn. I'm doing better now I guess. Not great, but better.
I'll stop now before this gets any more depressing. I just wanted to thank those people that stayed there and offered encouragement.
It was then that someone (I won't mention names) within the "community" did something, intentional or not, that just drove the point home - reinforced my idea that nothing I did was worth anyone's time, including mine. Maybe I took it too hard, or maybe it was just a case of bad timing, but I'll be honest, it hurt, and was very much the proverbial last straw.
But it's been a few months and I've certainly been busy. I figured out, I guess, that although art wasn't making me happy, neither was anything else, so why bother flushing it. I guess it just goes to show what you can accomplish when you just stop giving a damn. I'm doing better now I guess. Not great, but better.
I'll stop now before this gets any more depressing. I just wanted to thank those people that stayed there and offered encouragement.
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I'm in the same boat, so I guess I know a lot how you feel. I may not have both barrels like you do given some of the things that's happened to you. Me, I've been pretty much flat out told nothing I do in the community is worth anything to anyone, even friends don't. With the comic, at least there's a chance but in the end it's just three of my characters. Even Jodi pretty much agrees. I think Ael and Namrepus are the only people who ever thought anything... strange thing is neither of 'em even seen the last works.
I aint always been the best kind of friend to have, but I DO hope I at least helped a bit when it came to letting you know that there are friends out there and that we think you're talented. Not to mention we as your friends just want to see you happy because like I said, that sense of humor of yours makes us happy, you should be able to enjoy some of that joy as well. "You should be able to eat the dinner you prepared along with everyone else."
I have been pretty much been booed out of the community for doing the same thing but... if you're feeling low say something about it, at least to friends you can rely on to listen and understand. It might not solve the problems but it might relieve some of the discomfort and who knows... someone might find the answer! Just don't do like I did and post it in a journal. THat's how I got dogpiled and virtually got my ass kicked by MY so-called friends. Go to someone specific you trust. I know I can always go to Ael, you're always good to pick up my spirits a bit, Tamar seems supportive of you (When he's got the time at least.)
At any rate, I hope to see you churn out more of your stuff out there. Carlitoish goodness!
But nice see ya.
If you need someone to talk to. I'm here.
I want you to stay strong and keep your head up.
It does go both ways. If I'm not commenting in the negative it does mean nothing stands out as wrong or off.
I know what it's like to feel unappreciated. I've done several Extinctioners and Jewel Vixen fics but almost never hear anything back for my efforts.
-Tef