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How to get over your past
15 years ago
It seems simple. It is anything but.
1) Be willing to get over, conquer, and master your past. By any means necessary.
2) Make a list. Write down everything that has happened to you that is affecting your future in a negative manner. These are your problems, and what are holding you back. If you are not willing to get passed them, return to step one.
3) Start with the easy things first. these are usually the small, almost meaningless things.
4) Confront the problem if necessary. If it involves a person, work it out. if it is a person, discover what exactly is the problem about them. Accept that they are this way. And remember -- what's done is done. If you need assistance, seek outside help.
5) Continue on to the harder things...repeat step 4. Once things are settled, allow yourself to move on. You are better then the problem you face....don't let it control you. Remember....Violence is NEVER the answer. If you must resort to violence, return to step 1, and work out another path.
6) Conquer your problems...and then let them go. What happened in the past is something no one can change, and that's a fact. Things we can not change are things we need not worry over. Let them go.
7) If you manage to reach this point, you have succeeded. You should now be able to move on with your life...
People are not perfect, we all make mistakes. Shit happens. Always keep a shovel at the ready in order to get past the pile, as there are many on the road of life.
This has been a guide, brought to you by the Faithful Firepup, Hiken "Omen" Kiyoshi.
1) Be willing to get over, conquer, and master your past. By any means necessary.
2) Make a list. Write down everything that has happened to you that is affecting your future in a negative manner. These are your problems, and what are holding you back. If you are not willing to get passed them, return to step one.
3) Start with the easy things first. these are usually the small, almost meaningless things.
4) Confront the problem if necessary. If it involves a person, work it out. if it is a person, discover what exactly is the problem about them. Accept that they are this way. And remember -- what's done is done. If you need assistance, seek outside help.
5) Continue on to the harder things...repeat step 4. Once things are settled, allow yourself to move on. You are better then the problem you face....don't let it control you. Remember....Violence is NEVER the answer. If you must resort to violence, return to step 1, and work out another path.
6) Conquer your problems...and then let them go. What happened in the past is something no one can change, and that's a fact. Things we can not change are things we need not worry over. Let them go.
7) If you manage to reach this point, you have succeeded. You should now be able to move on with your life...
People are not perfect, we all make mistakes. Shit happens. Always keep a shovel at the ready in order to get past the pile, as there are many on the road of life.
This has been a guide, brought to you by the Faithful Firepup, Hiken "Omen" Kiyoshi.
I got a little tired of everyone telling me they "Can't move on. " and "Can't deal with it"....So I made a psychological list to help ^^;
If I missed anything....or anything doesn't make sense...let me know! ^^;
there are two ways to stop hurting over something in your past whether there's a way to work it out or not. one is to forget about it, and the other is to get to a point where you can remember it without reliving it. and the first way doesn't work. it's only after i get a point where i can recognize all the good things that happened too during bad times in my past that i can go back and try to rectify what i left undone--even if it's just in my own head. as long as you draw on it, no time is ever wasted.
until recently, saying that i had no regrets was my way of hiding--even from myself--that i wanted to relive times in my past. it hurt that i knew so much better after the fact but that, even so, i couldn't go back and change anything. yet, i knew i had to move on, so i just pushed it all to the side. after a while, i couldn't feel anything because everything around me hurt and was being thrown on top of the pile as a new regret. i began to automatically respond to everything, inherently painful or not, from friendly conversation to my own thoughts by pushing it away before it could get me.
when i admitted to myself that i had regrets, contrary to what i had always believed out of fear, i was able to feel things again. by telling myself i was going to move on whether i tried to or not, i was able to become more honest with myself. i started letting go of layer after layer of pain like a Snake who, for the first time, had discovered how to shed all the skin that had been rotting on his exterior for his whole life.
i had been afraid because i had believed in my gut that regretting things meant that i had had failures, times when i could have done things better. but it was because i was always growing that i kept understanding how to do things better than i had. instead of blaming myself for those things i had done badly, i should have been celebrating that i had been able to learn from my mistakes.
instead, i was always worried what people would think of me because i was always uncomfortable with the secret missteps i had made, and my life became nothing more than an exercise in hiding them from my friends. at the same time, i deserted my group of friends each time i made what seemed a significant step forward so that new friends i showed my face to might only know me by the things i did well. i was always lonely because, for one thing, no one knew me well enough to touch me... and, for another, because i hated myself so much i would try to spend as much time away from myself as possible.
in truth, i am a horrible person. i am passionate by nature and cannot help myself when i get lonely. i lie to get friends, put on masks so that no one knows me well enough to ridicule me, and am cold hearted. i believe that, to grow, everyone should have to go through the same pain i did; and i believe that i am better than almost everyone for all the introspection i have done over my painful life. i am happy everyone who's ever loved me (and that i've ever loved) has found someone better to be with because, on one's deathbed, the only thing he will have to judge himself by is how happy he made others during his life. life is a disease, and i have done nothing but harm.