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IM should stand for "Instant Mating"
15 years ago
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I'm on instant messenger getting to know someone, just talking about characters, ambitions, art, etc. when the person asks me, "By the way, will you be my mate?"
No...no, I will not and here's why.
I've only known you for a few minutes! By "mate," I assume you mean a boy/girlfriend, a life partner. For something to be your "mate," you have to know them for a while, be friends with them, I don't know...maybe meet them face to face! I realize some people can carry on a long-distance relationship over e-mails and instant messages, but I'm not one of those people. I'm not opposed to meeting people online and then finding them in the real world and becoming friends, but when you're asking someone to be your "mate" through instant messaging, you're not really falling in love with that person because you've never met that person! You've only fallen in love with their avatar, with what they choose to tell you and what they choose to put on the internet.
I realize some of you may be shocked by this, but I'm not an 8'2" tiger. As a person, I am very different from my character. There are things you may like in him that you do not like in me and vis-versa, so you can't see a picture of Jaroq, think he's hot, and ask me to be your "mate" judged solely on that image. Being "mates" online is akin to being boyfriend and girlfriend in middle school: you don't know what it means and all that it comes with, and in a matter of days, it's over either because you found someone knew or just got bored.
And I'm not ranting about one specific person, mind you. This has happened to me like five or six times!
Another thing while I'm on the subject of instant messaging: I'm sorry that I can't be online all day long. I'm not hooked up to my computer with a case of Red Bull, hot pockets, and no sunlight like a god damned WOW player. I have a job, I have friends outside of the fandom, and (dare I say it?) I want some time to myself every now and then! I cannot (nor do I want to be) on IM or on Second Life every waking moment of my life so you can about how much you want to fuck me!
Jesus Christ! Go outside and make some real friends!
No...no, I will not and here's why.
I've only known you for a few minutes! By "mate," I assume you mean a boy/girlfriend, a life partner. For something to be your "mate," you have to know them for a while, be friends with them, I don't know...maybe meet them face to face! I realize some people can carry on a long-distance relationship over e-mails and instant messages, but I'm not one of those people. I'm not opposed to meeting people online and then finding them in the real world and becoming friends, but when you're asking someone to be your "mate" through instant messaging, you're not really falling in love with that person because you've never met that person! You've only fallen in love with their avatar, with what they choose to tell you and what they choose to put on the internet.
I realize some of you may be shocked by this, but I'm not an 8'2" tiger. As a person, I am very different from my character. There are things you may like in him that you do not like in me and vis-versa, so you can't see a picture of Jaroq, think he's hot, and ask me to be your "mate" judged solely on that image. Being "mates" online is akin to being boyfriend and girlfriend in middle school: you don't know what it means and all that it comes with, and in a matter of days, it's over either because you found someone knew or just got bored.
And I'm not ranting about one specific person, mind you. This has happened to me like five or six times!
Another thing while I'm on the subject of instant messaging: I'm sorry that I can't be online all day long. I'm not hooked up to my computer with a case of Red Bull, hot pockets, and no sunlight like a god damned WOW player. I have a job, I have friends outside of the fandom, and (dare I say it?) I want some time to myself every now and then! I cannot (nor do I want to be) on IM or on Second Life every waking moment of my life so you can about how much you want to fuck me!
Jesus Christ! Go outside and make some real friends!
Characters are created in books. I write a book you fall in love with one of the characters please do not ask me to have some type of sexual romance with you or get mad because the character you like may not be my actual gender RL
Yes, I had a moment when I replied to that posting of Jaroq's profile. But I'm certainly not going to ask to "be your mate". It would feel insanely awkward to me. So I don't know how some people would do that anyway.
So case in point, Jaroq is a very desireable character from the way you portray him. Naturally, a lot of furries are going to make that clear. The difference is between those who back off and those who keep up the cybermolestation. lol
But in all seriousness, this fandom makes me stop and think about the people in it sometimes. People can know someone for like, a hour or two and automatically think their 'the one' and it's kinda sickening. Some furs were social outcast to start off with, so they cling to any little bit of attention they get online. Hard statement, but it's fact
Really? You love me? You've known me (and not -really- me) for all of a week and you love me? What are you like, 12?
Actually, that would explain a few things.
*offers cookies and a hug.*
I think I would flee if someone I barely knew asked me that.
Seriously, while I can understand not only the attraction to the sexy avatars and fursonas we create around here, but the swiftness of feelings developing (I tend to "click" right away with new friends if we're meant to have a tight relationship, and my heart also tends to care for others deeply far sooner than it should), there is a limit to such things. Even if you were talking about the real person and not their character, no one could get to know enough in that short a time to truly love them and become mates. It is indeed both ridiculous and sad.
It's important to get stuff like this out there and spread around, so people will realize why so many block and ignore them or just plain get annoyed, and back off--or better yet get some help and a life. Good for you, bud. :)
And while I am online far more than is likely healthy for me, even I am not here 24/7, so I hear you on that score too.
My thought is if people want to know me, they can meet me in person or just call. :D
Yeah, people around here can be creepy and quick to jump the gun, if there's even one to fire. I think a lot of furries and chronic onlie dwellers in general are just in love with the idea of being in love because they're deeply starved for attention, affection and approval, and the second they find some name on IM they share a few interests with, maybe have a few conversations, they glom onto them like a leech needily suck them dry. And not in the good way. It's distrubing and tragic.
I play slave characters well, because I act myself as a role player character how I would expect my submissive to behave, with dignity, intelligence, and a sense of self worth. Not some shallow, pity me, I'm abused pain-slut who likes to be raped and mistreated at every turn.
Stereotypes are bad.
And none of them share the same traits that you described. You do know that a wide range of people play that game right?
I feel ALOT better now X3
(yes- I was a person who felt lonely, insecure and jealous when I see people who 'love' eachother online. But you have reminded me I have real friends that I can talk to, face to face.)
People CAN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT TALKING WITH ME BY MICROPHONE
They ALWAYS think that if they talk to me they are like talking to a celebrity-like
In other words, "I KNOW THAT FEELING, BRO"