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OMFG UNBELIEVABLE DRAMA
18 years ago
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Okay I feel I need to say something about the DRAMA infection that is being passed around like a aids in back alley junkie convention.
And I will be the first to admit I've had my paw in my fair share of it in the past before I got edumacated.
Thing is you all need to discount ANY information you did not get first paw, what does this mean? It means YOU SAW IT HAPPEN! Not well CumGuzzlingWolf, who heard it from PedoBear who heard it from ScatCat, said “Yadda yadda yadda.” If you didn't see it happen then you don't know what really happened so you can't have a reasonable opinion of the events.
Next there is no TRUTH! Sorry but truth does not exist in this reality. This doesn't mean that everyone is lying, it just means everyone has their own point of view of the TRUTH. If you feel that you must put your 2 pennies worth in on ANY disagreement get BOTH points of view FROM the people that are disagreeing first paw. Meaning LISTEN to each person explain what is going on privately then spend at least 5 mins thinking before shooting off your mouth.
Neutrality is often the best course of action. Deciding not to decide is tough but unless the two people arguing have agreed to let YOU be the arbiter in their dispute you don't need to be deciding who's right and who's wrong.
Also NEVER tell anyone you MUST choose sides, if you are not for, you are against. Two people disagreeing should not be allowed to become a war. Especially when I've seen the war go on long after the 2 people disagreeing have long since dropped the subject.
Something we should all do before tossing our 2 pennies into the ring is asking ourselves a few questions?
1: Am I really adding anything that needs to be said?
2: Is what I'm going to say going to help or harm the situation? (Remember we are supposed to do no harm in this life)
3: Has it already been said?
4: Does this disagreement even really affect me?
Another question we should ask is of both the people disagreeing, Is my advice even welcome right now?
Another point is for the 2 morons that are starting this whole crap load. You really need to NOT be spreading a personal disagreement to public forums UNTIL you have resolved the argument. Someone says or does something to piss you off there is ONLY one person you should be talking to this about and guess what it's the person that ticked you off in the first place. I have seen 4 days worth of drama come from a simple misunderstanding that could have been cleared up with an IM and a simple apology.
Not all your dirty laundry needs to be hung out on the line unwashed.
Everyone is whining about how immature and and whiny the fandom has become lately but nobody wants to do their part to STOP WHINING! You have 2 ears and one mouth use them in that proportion and remember that gooey stuff between your ears and mouth is supposed to act like a filter so that everything that goes in your ears doesn't fall out your mouth.
PS: If you are thinking that I'm applying this to your own personal drama that is going on right now. . .guess what. . .YOU'RE WRONG! I could care less about your drama. But if you feel that I'm talking about your personal situation right now maybe you should think about what you are doing.
And I will be the first to admit I've had my paw in my fair share of it in the past before I got edumacated.
Thing is you all need to discount ANY information you did not get first paw, what does this mean? It means YOU SAW IT HAPPEN! Not well CumGuzzlingWolf, who heard it from PedoBear who heard it from ScatCat, said “Yadda yadda yadda.” If you didn't see it happen then you don't know what really happened so you can't have a reasonable opinion of the events.
Next there is no TRUTH! Sorry but truth does not exist in this reality. This doesn't mean that everyone is lying, it just means everyone has their own point of view of the TRUTH. If you feel that you must put your 2 pennies worth in on ANY disagreement get BOTH points of view FROM the people that are disagreeing first paw. Meaning LISTEN to each person explain what is going on privately then spend at least 5 mins thinking before shooting off your mouth.
Neutrality is often the best course of action. Deciding not to decide is tough but unless the two people arguing have agreed to let YOU be the arbiter in their dispute you don't need to be deciding who's right and who's wrong.
Also NEVER tell anyone you MUST choose sides, if you are not for, you are against. Two people disagreeing should not be allowed to become a war. Especially when I've seen the war go on long after the 2 people disagreeing have long since dropped the subject.
Something we should all do before tossing our 2 pennies into the ring is asking ourselves a few questions?
1: Am I really adding anything that needs to be said?
2: Is what I'm going to say going to help or harm the situation? (Remember we are supposed to do no harm in this life)
3: Has it already been said?
4: Does this disagreement even really affect me?
Another question we should ask is of both the people disagreeing, Is my advice even welcome right now?
Another point is for the 2 morons that are starting this whole crap load. You really need to NOT be spreading a personal disagreement to public forums UNTIL you have resolved the argument. Someone says or does something to piss you off there is ONLY one person you should be talking to this about and guess what it's the person that ticked you off in the first place. I have seen 4 days worth of drama come from a simple misunderstanding that could have been cleared up with an IM and a simple apology.
Not all your dirty laundry needs to be hung out on the line unwashed.
Everyone is whining about how immature and and whiny the fandom has become lately but nobody wants to do their part to STOP WHINING! You have 2 ears and one mouth use them in that proportion and remember that gooey stuff between your ears and mouth is supposed to act like a filter so that everything that goes in your ears doesn't fall out your mouth.
PS: If you are thinking that I'm applying this to your own personal drama that is going on right now. . .guess what. . .YOU'RE WRONG! I could care less about your drama. But if you feel that I'm talking about your personal situation right now maybe you should think about what you are doing.
ginaookami
~ginaookami
Well said!
