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Who's right? I need advice.
15 years ago
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Sometimes I feel like I'm loosing my way. I don't know the difference between right and wrong. So I'd really appreciate some input.
I moved out to the west-coast with my boyfriend for college. We rented a town house and moved out west. I ended up hating college and dropped out. I am currently looking for a job. He has a job at a banking call center and complains about it everyday. And it seems like lately, he's taken to holding hating his job against me. Whatever the conversation maybe it always ends as him saying, " Yeah well I worked (some number) of hours this week at work! And you haven't!" Don't get me wrong, I'm proud of him for keeping his job and trying hard to do better. But does that mean I have to do everything he asks of me?
Here's the conversation that set me over the edge today:
Him:* sitting down at computer* Get me some yogurt from the fridge.
Me: Uhh..? Why don't you get it?
Him: I just worked my ass off and I'm going to be working for the next 8 hours tomorrow.
Me: So you can't get your own yogurt?
Him: Fine, I'll do it. Just like I do everything else around here.
I don't mean to mix my personal problems in with the furry world but I really just need some words of wisdom or input. So my question is, is it far for me to get the yogurt? Or is he just making me for the sake of not wanting to get up from the computer?
I moved out to the west-coast with my boyfriend for college. We rented a town house and moved out west. I ended up hating college and dropped out. I am currently looking for a job. He has a job at a banking call center and complains about it everyday. And it seems like lately, he's taken to holding hating his job against me. Whatever the conversation maybe it always ends as him saying, " Yeah well I worked (some number) of hours this week at work! And you haven't!" Don't get me wrong, I'm proud of him for keeping his job and trying hard to do better. But does that mean I have to do everything he asks of me?
Here's the conversation that set me over the edge today:
Him:* sitting down at computer* Get me some yogurt from the fridge.
Me: Uhh..? Why don't you get it?
Him: I just worked my ass off and I'm going to be working for the next 8 hours tomorrow.
Me: So you can't get your own yogurt?
Him: Fine, I'll do it. Just like I do everything else around here.
I don't mean to mix my personal problems in with the furry world but I really just need some words of wisdom or input. So my question is, is it far for me to get the yogurt? Or is he just making me for the sake of not wanting to get up from the computer?
I'm sorry for this post, I hate talking about these subjects
Best of luck to you both!
I'm just being optimistic though.
I mean, people have bad ruts. Maybe he's kind of fallen into one?
I don't really think either of you are really at fault. He probably feels stressed out and wants to emphasize the fact that he's the breadwinner...you probably feel you are doing the best you can, and that he should be more understanding.
Best thing I can suggest is sit down and talk to him about this. It's not about something small like getting something from the fridge, it is much deeper than that. But I don't think it's anything a good talk can't solve.