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...mothers...(strong language and ranting follows)
15 years ago
My mother pisses me off so damned much sometimes. She called me up today to bitch me out about what is going to be done about christmas, now that my mate and I are broken up. She then went into a rant about how I should not go after someone else so soon after breaking up and how I should not even be a furry because being a furry will affect my job possibilities after I get out of school.
I am sorry, but even aside from the fact that they have no control over me at this point, my mother is being an unreasonable cunt. Her bitching about me being a fur pissed me off so much because she, when she and my dad were here for my graduation from the BFA program, was more or less totally cool with me being a furry. Now, with the reaction she gave me tonight, she is basically saying that she either lied then about how she felt about it, or she's lying now, which do I trust and how can I know when to trust her again?
And the bitch wonders why I don't tell her everything and keep things from her.
The whole shit-storm started when she asked me about a note I'd put on my x-mas list about wanting my stuff from when I was little, my stuffed animals and the like. I had put that on there because I thought we were all cool about that, APPARENTLY I was wrong.
I am seriously considering calling her back and telling her that if she is going to act this way, than I do not want to spend christmas with her, because I do not want to be lectured to about my own damned life, which is going quite well without her loitering over my shoulder and prying into my every move.
I am sorry, but even aside from the fact that they have no control over me at this point, my mother is being an unreasonable cunt. Her bitching about me being a fur pissed me off so much because she, when she and my dad were here for my graduation from the BFA program, was more or less totally cool with me being a furry. Now, with the reaction she gave me tonight, she is basically saying that she either lied then about how she felt about it, or she's lying now, which do I trust and how can I know when to trust her again?
And the bitch wonders why I don't tell her everything and keep things from her.
The whole shit-storm started when she asked me about a note I'd put on my x-mas list about wanting my stuff from when I was little, my stuffed animals and the like. I had put that on there because I thought we were all cool about that, APPARENTLY I was wrong.
I am seriously considering calling her back and telling her that if she is going to act this way, than I do not want to spend christmas with her, because I do not want to be lectured to about my own damned life, which is going quite well without her loitering over my shoulder and prying into my every move.
I don't know if it's possible, and excuse me for sticking my nose where I certainly don't have the right to, but I've found that a straightforward talk, emotions left at the door, can help tremendously.
Give yourself time to chill, sleep on it etc, and then decide if you think a conversation like that would help make the holidays go a bit smoother. I hope everything turns out well!
Seriously though, I notice a trend with parents. When you're happy, successful, and have a weird facet of your life that surprises parents... they'll tend to ignore it, or be ok with it as long as you're doing well in life. The instant they feel like you're not doing well, they'll persuade you to stop doing the "weird" things because to them, that's what is preventing your success. It's not correct, by any means, but it's just what parents do.
It's really hard to find that balance between an overprotective parent and a neglectful parent sometimes, and having one of each I can tell you I do prefer the overprotective one because they at least have their good moments. Neglectful parents are always bad. Just tell her she's being unreasonable and socially inappropriate, and that being rude isn't the way to convince someone to visit them. Works on my mom all the time.