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15 years ago
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I don't usually use this as a personal journal to air my whining. But this is about furries and the few places I can actually post it.
I'm a grad student in psychology. Today I was setting in our little lounge and I overheard this hot classmate of mine was talking to a guy. She brought up that she was a Something Awful moderator, and in the span of 2 minutes, while saying 4chan was worse than SA, she managed to completely offend me. She managed to shit all over both furries and BDSM in a single breath, two topics rather important to me.
Her words were exactly as follows: "And really, how is [a picture of a woman having sex with a dog] any different from a drawing of you having sex with an anthromorphic coyote person? Really."
The guy, whose roommate is apparently a furry, tried to explain it in terms of dominance and submissive personalities, and her reply was, "I don't know. See I have weird opinions about that too because I've read too much rape research and S&M is just an acceptable venue for violence against women. It's rape."
I just couldn't believe it.
What frustrates me the most is that I cannot say word one. Because the minute I do, it's going to end up on a Facebook, or it's going to get passed around to the grad students, and I am not going to out myself. Because it's none of their goddamn business. Also, this girl is opinionated, smart, talks fast, and while I haven't seen it, I bet she's argumentative. So she's going to counter every point that I make, and I really do not feel equipped to make a rigorous argument, nor should I have to defend my preferences and feelings. Those preferences and feelings will get shoved up under a microscope and I'm not dealing with that.
Were this simply something I saw on the internet, it would be easy to let go. Opinions of strangers or TV personalities, you can turn off. I just gag/block them or leave. But I have class with her three times a week. And I"m going to get pissed off all over again every time I see her.
And the piss-poor cherry on top, the insult to the injury, is that this is a girl I was attracted to; she's a hot redhead.
I'm a grad student in psychology. Today I was setting in our little lounge and I overheard this hot classmate of mine was talking to a guy. She brought up that she was a Something Awful moderator, and in the span of 2 minutes, while saying 4chan was worse than SA, she managed to completely offend me. She managed to shit all over both furries and BDSM in a single breath, two topics rather important to me.
Her words were exactly as follows: "And really, how is [a picture of a woman having sex with a dog] any different from a drawing of you having sex with an anthromorphic coyote person? Really."
The guy, whose roommate is apparently a furry, tried to explain it in terms of dominance and submissive personalities, and her reply was, "I don't know. See I have weird opinions about that too because I've read too much rape research and S&M is just an acceptable venue for violence against women. It's rape."
I just couldn't believe it.
What frustrates me the most is that I cannot say word one. Because the minute I do, it's going to end up on a Facebook, or it's going to get passed around to the grad students, and I am not going to out myself. Because it's none of their goddamn business. Also, this girl is opinionated, smart, talks fast, and while I haven't seen it, I bet she's argumentative. So she's going to counter every point that I make, and I really do not feel equipped to make a rigorous argument, nor should I have to defend my preferences and feelings. Those preferences and feelings will get shoved up under a microscope and I'm not dealing with that.
Were this simply something I saw on the internet, it would be easy to let go. Opinions of strangers or TV personalities, you can turn off. I just gag/block them or leave. But I have class with her three times a week. And I"m going to get pissed off all over again every time I see her.
And the piss-poor cherry on top, the insult to the injury, is that this is a girl I was attracted to; she's a hot redhead.
If she tries to out you, counter with
"I'm a Psyc major, A major part of what I study are the various personality archetypes and how they work together in various different relationship formats. It's an interesting field of study, actually. Granted, there are those relationships which are certainly unhealthy, but my research has shown that there are more abusive husbands of beaten housewives in standard relationships than there are abusive BDSM relationships, probably owing to the fundamental concept of a 'safe word'. Oh, sorry, didn't mean to start rambling on the topic, as you were saying?"
And on the topic of furries, you can counter with something like:
"Well, actually the practice which is currently known as 'furry' or 'anthro' has roots in a much more ancient practice known as 'Primalism', wherein the individuals, in order to attain a higher state of eroticism in the bedroom, would strive to loose themselves in the act, and become as primal as an animal in mating. The concept is still strong today as 'loosing yourself in the passion of lovemaking'. Some people have decided to try and take on aspects of animals, which are perceived as being more primal,in order to attain that state of primalism, wherein your conscious mind kind of lets go of control and lets the primal back part of your brain take over. You know, the part of your brain that says 'that guy is hot' without ever once consulting your rational mind that he's completely wrong for you. Again, there are those who take this to an exceedingly unhealthy extreme, but it has surprisingly little to do with 'bestiality'."
Do this from the perspective of "I'm a Psyc major. I may not necessarily agree with these views, however I've done research on the topic, and the research is quite fascinating". That way you don't look like you are supporting your lifestyle so much as speaking from a professional point of view of someone with a degree which is relevant to the topic at hand.
No, I don't think it has to do with Fiction. It stems from reading psychological studies on rape and attitudes of rape and female violence, and she's likely putting extrapolating. That BDSM itself is just making the behavior of violence against women acceptable.
But like I said, I don't want to argue with her. Or bring it up. Because goign down that path is likely going to result in more drama than it's worth.
And might I add that Facebook is the fucking devil.