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ten day meme day 5
15 years ago
Day One: Ten things you want to say to ten different people right now
Day Two: Nine things about yourself.
Day Three: Eight ways to win your heart.
Day Four: Seven things that cross your mind a lot.
**Day Five: Six things you wish you’d never done.**
Day Six: Five people who mean a lot (in no order whatsoever)
Day Seven: Four turn offs.
Day Eight: Three turn ons.
Day Nine: Two smileys that describe your life right now.
Day Ten: One confession
1. Although I don't regret it, the job I have pays very well, I wish I had gone and started it sooner like in my early twenties. At the time I started mortuary school I was 30.
2. Also there are times I wish I had stayed in Dallas. The only reason I moved back was I was in alot of debt, my school loan that I had thought and was led to believe was part of a government loan program was actually a private personal balloon loan, and I had to start paying on it immediately when it was due which was 4 months before graduation. There was no way I could get the loan differed and little I could do. I hadn't planned for that and I was with rent, bills a car payment and now the school loan my 10 dollar and hour student job at the funeral home there just wasn't going to cut it, at the time I only met a few friends i so I had no choice but to move back.
3. I won't name names and no one recent on in the fandom this mainly happened 5 years ago, I wish I either hadn't helped personally or financially. After hearing some hard luck story naturally I felt I thought I could help them out and help them get the rent paid or pay for a few of there bills. It was only after I heard from a friend they just used it for games and booze. After confronting them they had nothing to say nor did they offer to pay me back. This isn't the first time people have taken advantage of me nor will it keep me from helping others but it does make me take pause when deciding if its best to help out.
4. being too forgiving there has been a couple of times I wish I wouldn't have forgiven a person from hurting me so much. But I still would end up doing the same, I hate keeping a grudge.
5. I wish I stuck to just having one credit card, its so easy to let something like that spiral out of control so easily and how debt can really add up quickly. I had at the most 4 cards all nearly maxed out mostly during the time I was at school just to get by and cover utilities and thankfully after getting with a counseling service was able to get it back under control and I'm happy to say its been all paid off.
6. Wish I kept my pick up truck. Though I would of traded int in by now it would of been nice to have my ford explorer sport when I lived up there in Dallas. granted the gas mileage wasn't bad but the VW bug I was driving at the time did save me a bit of coin at the pumps. As of now though I'm pretty much done on pickups nothing against them but I'm of the type if your not using it to haul stuff, or work out of then why get it.
Day Two: Nine things about yourself.
Day Three: Eight ways to win your heart.
Day Four: Seven things that cross your mind a lot.
**Day Five: Six things you wish you’d never done.**
Day Six: Five people who mean a lot (in no order whatsoever)
Day Seven: Four turn offs.
Day Eight: Three turn ons.
Day Nine: Two smileys that describe your life right now.
Day Ten: One confession
1. Although I don't regret it, the job I have pays very well, I wish I had gone and started it sooner like in my early twenties. At the time I started mortuary school I was 30.
2. Also there are times I wish I had stayed in Dallas. The only reason I moved back was I was in alot of debt, my school loan that I had thought and was led to believe was part of a government loan program was actually a private personal balloon loan, and I had to start paying on it immediately when it was due which was 4 months before graduation. There was no way I could get the loan differed and little I could do. I hadn't planned for that and I was with rent, bills a car payment and now the school loan my 10 dollar and hour student job at the funeral home there just wasn't going to cut it, at the time I only met a few friends i so I had no choice but to move back.
3. I won't name names and no one recent on in the fandom this mainly happened 5 years ago, I wish I either hadn't helped personally or financially. After hearing some hard luck story naturally I felt I thought I could help them out and help them get the rent paid or pay for a few of there bills. It was only after I heard from a friend they just used it for games and booze. After confronting them they had nothing to say nor did they offer to pay me back. This isn't the first time people have taken advantage of me nor will it keep me from helping others but it does make me take pause when deciding if its best to help out.
4. being too forgiving there has been a couple of times I wish I wouldn't have forgiven a person from hurting me so much. But I still would end up doing the same, I hate keeping a grudge.
5. I wish I stuck to just having one credit card, its so easy to let something like that spiral out of control so easily and how debt can really add up quickly. I had at the most 4 cards all nearly maxed out mostly during the time I was at school just to get by and cover utilities and thankfully after getting with a counseling service was able to get it back under control and I'm happy to say its been all paid off.
6. Wish I kept my pick up truck. Though I would of traded int in by now it would of been nice to have my ford explorer sport when I lived up there in Dallas. granted the gas mileage wasn't bad but the VW bug I was driving at the time did save me a bit of coin at the pumps. As of now though I'm pretty much done on pickups nothing against them but I'm of the type if your not using it to haul stuff, or work out of then why get it.
Consider too that giving a man a fish feeds them for one day, while teaching them to fish feeds them for a lifetime. Buy them their rod, reel, first tackle box and bait and boot them out the door! And also like fish, guests smell bad after they've been around too many days...
"Never a borrower nor lender be," said Shakespeare. This really is biblical like good advice. It ruins friendships, sours relationships, can sometimes cause divorce! Business (which basically is the process of handling money) doesn't agree with the emotional bonds of friendship or love. One assumes an indifferent, measurable imbalance between parties; one isn't so cohesive and unilateral.
There is a purpose for anger and grudges. There are reasons for bad blood between feuding families. Sometimes there's just bad chemistry between people and you need to acknowledge it lest you fall victim repeatedly to its perils. It's up to you, ultimately, to make the adult decision on that kind of issue.
20/20 hindsight is marvelous, but don't get yourself too beat up over it. We don't get a do-over, practice run, on our decisions. Just this big ad-lib session, and we screw up cosmically bad. I'm sure we're a laugh riot for some dimension or other...
You're welcome, and I think you'll see you've become not a hardened person over time, just wiser. That's what experience teaches us. Lessons in wisdom. No shortcuts to it other than just growing older.