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Advice about a delicate friend situation
15 years ago
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Okay, so I have this friend who is one of my best friends and we've been like that for YEARS. I'm talking about since 3rd grade, about 10+ years kind of friend.
We have a lot in common, anime included, but there's just a little problem that always sets me off with her.
She does everything I do.
Like, everything. If I do something that seems to be getting just a bit of attention, she copies me in some way or another.
I cut my hair a new way, she cuts her hair in a similar cut.
I decide I'm going to make something, she makes nearly the same thing.
I started making Pokemon suits, she starts.
I enter a costume contest, she does too.
I decide I'm going to community college before real college, she all of a sudden does the same.
I decide I'd rather not go into something artsy, and rather go into business (because I was always good at math and liked accounting), she all of a sudden abandons her dream of being a film maker and decides to study psychology (randomly).
It's pissed me off for years, but she is one of my friends and with the exception of this one behavior, I love her to bits.
So I just wanted to know how I should go about telling her that the whole copying me behavior is pissing me off and that I've seen her do it for almost as long as I've known her.
What recently brought it up is the fact that I started making plushies and things to try to raise some money for Anime Boston. I've gone back and forth for about a year and a half about if I should get a table at a convention to sell things, and recently I found out about U-Con. It's entirely free so I figured, why not? It doesn't cost anything, so there's no risk really. And anything I don't sell there I can online.
Anyway, I've been posting on Facebook about it for the past.... 2 weeks I'd say.
All of a sudden she's gotten back into plushie making (she did it once prior after I initially got into it to make some gifts for friends). And what's this? It's for upcoming conventions? Just like me? Really?
What sparked this idea?
I seriously want to strangle her right now, and I know that I shouldn't think such terrible things of her, but this is really NOT the first time this "coincidence" has happened.
So yeah, again, how would be a good way of bringing it up to her?
We have a lot in common, anime included, but there's just a little problem that always sets me off with her.
She does everything I do.
Like, everything. If I do something that seems to be getting just a bit of attention, she copies me in some way or another.
I cut my hair a new way, she cuts her hair in a similar cut.
I decide I'm going to make something, she makes nearly the same thing.
I started making Pokemon suits, she starts.
I enter a costume contest, she does too.
I decide I'm going to community college before real college, she all of a sudden does the same.
I decide I'd rather not go into something artsy, and rather go into business (because I was always good at math and liked accounting), she all of a sudden abandons her dream of being a film maker and decides to study psychology (randomly).
It's pissed me off for years, but she is one of my friends and with the exception of this one behavior, I love her to bits.
So I just wanted to know how I should go about telling her that the whole copying me behavior is pissing me off and that I've seen her do it for almost as long as I've known her.
What recently brought it up is the fact that I started making plushies and things to try to raise some money for Anime Boston. I've gone back and forth for about a year and a half about if I should get a table at a convention to sell things, and recently I found out about U-Con. It's entirely free so I figured, why not? It doesn't cost anything, so there's no risk really. And anything I don't sell there I can online.
Anyway, I've been posting on Facebook about it for the past.... 2 weeks I'd say.
All of a sudden she's gotten back into plushie making (she did it once prior after I initially got into it to make some gifts for friends). And what's this? It's for upcoming conventions? Just like me? Really?
What sparked this idea?
I seriously want to strangle her right now, and I know that I shouldn't think such terrible things of her, but this is really NOT the first time this "coincidence" has happened.
So yeah, again, how would be a good way of bringing it up to her?
I've mentioned it rarely to them though I've always found it hard and it never seemed to go anywhere so now I just kinda hint at something that seems to fit them more then me due to what I know about what they have done on their own.
In all though I'm afraid I can't think of a true way to bring it up without a bit of problems it is a very delicate situation. If anything maybe trying to sway her into something you believe she likes by thinking about doing it could make her jump on it first and then make her see that she enjoys it? Maybe a bit dirty though just a thought. Sorry if I wasn't much help but I really hope someone can. *nod* Best of luck!