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Good lord.
14 years ago
So apparently my parents got a hold of the copy of "Heat #3" that i bought online. Now my mom is watching me like a hawk and says she is going to keep tabs on my spending. I really just want to tell them the truth, but i know that if i do then the outcome will NOT BE PRETTY! Both of my parents are homo-phobes, and i really want to tell them that i'm gay, That wouldn't work even if i had Jesus in my side in the argument. And they both don't understand the furry fandom, they think we fuck animals and drool over anything with fur. *sight deeply* I just don't know. Any suggestions on how i could tell my parents that i'm gay? If not, just encourage me to keep it a secret until i move out.
be honest and be yoursefl is the best approach. and tell both of them at once if you can. start one of the most personal adult decisions of your life on at least as much of a brave foot as you can. they might not approve, no. however having the fact out there that you are gay is going to release a lot of the tension you think is there and even if it starts rough, in time, it'll smooth out and theyll see you're not any different than you are already.
If it really comes to a bicker on what they think you should spend your money on, bring it badk to the point that this isn't about yoru spending, its about you choosing to express the way sexual signals are going off in your mind and how you react different to girls and guys. And recently turning 18 you need to have their support in giving you a little more space and not more restrictive.
To squash the point of the fear of "we're just pervs who fuck animals/in animal suits" say you'd have more evidence of how just ordinary normal we can be, there's meet and greets for bowling, restaraunt meets, movie nights, among other such events. But again, the focus is the announcement and getting them to at least acknowledge it.
In this, also tell them you'd really enjoy trying to get out to meet a few common freinds, white-lie a little and say you met a few during your day-pass visit to FurFright back in October, that are right in your area (more along the lines of the factual truth and not just me, but others too!) and if they'd give you a litlte slack you can show that you can not oonly go away and get out but come back safely and in one piece too.
And again, in time... things will get smoother. I wish you luck. I encourage you doing so. I waited until I was older 20's and truthfully, I always looked back and wished I had done it lots sooner. Parents .. even ones you think that might balk and deny... can be surprisingly supportive.
That is all I have to say.
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