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love story (a lesson to those looking for one)
14 years ago
your new beginning
Growing up i had no healthy relationships around me.
When i was young my parents divorced and even till this day i deal with the pain they continue to cause each other.
my brother growing up had no male roll model so he never really learned how to treat a woman right but i think slowly he's getting close (he's 3 years older than me and has had many many relationships but non that have lasted for a year that i recall)
I have few friends and even fewer close friends but many acquaintances that call me a friend.. I am reserved
I have seen teen love grow and fail and regrow
I think my greatest teachers of love were 1 of my close friends, 1 kinda acquaintance kinda friend, and my mother
-my close close friend has a worst up bringing than mine and had no good relationships around her that she could base a good relationship on.. Sadly it shows a lil in not only her love life but also what friends she allows so close to her heart even though i can see from a mile away they will only cause short term happiness but longer term pain...
I’m so glad though that as she and i grow together, she is starting to not just see what not so great characteristics those around her have but also to act a bit more on it. There are often 2 kind of ppl that are drawn to her.
The super needy and easily depressed
Or bi polar angry, anger issues and slightly abusive
She’s finally starting to take a stand and make the man she loves understand the not so great things he has done in their past. That will hopefully lead to a future for them both together(though he still has growing up to do and they both need to speak up more to each other)
But even that relationship i was not that comfortable using as a roll model as a healthy relationship for me (sorry love!)
-the kinda friend has i think never gone a month without dating someone or trying to get a person to ask her out. i watch every relationship she got in crash and burn and now she's back with a guy that she and him have gotten together and fallen apart 3 times in the past. They are a cute couple but both idiots at love.. True idiots
I used many of her mistakes to teach me what not to do. Like being ditsy and super ticklish may get the guys drooling and wanting you but it was always the kind of guys that would treat you wrong and only want you in bed
-my mother
I love her so much and she teaches me so much even the things she's not proud of in her past. She teaches me how to spot someone who was a user just by their conversation and how they made you feel during and after you would talk with them
She taught me so much and even though she never had a 100% great relationship she could tell me how to spot a healthy one
I guess i have her to thank for my current great relationship with the man i love. He and i tell each other when something’s wrong and aren't afraid to show affection. Though even after being with him for this long, I’m still nerves saying some things to him, but he encourages me that i can tell him anything and it will not scare him away no matter what
He accepts all parts of me that not all people accept
heh now I’m getting all teary and emotional -^^;
Last night he and i cried for hours because we missed each other so much and we realized how so in love we were. How we never wanted to leave the other ever.
How our love has the potential to last forever if we so choose
But it’s up to us
You don't have to have a roll model to find the perfect love
You don't have to have the exact relationship that those around you have because it’s probably not the one that will make you happy when you have it
You can have the relationship that works for you and that can be what you want it to be if you both work for it
When i was young my parents divorced and even till this day i deal with the pain they continue to cause each other.
my brother growing up had no male roll model so he never really learned how to treat a woman right but i think slowly he's getting close (he's 3 years older than me and has had many many relationships but non that have lasted for a year that i recall)
I have few friends and even fewer close friends but many acquaintances that call me a friend.. I am reserved
I have seen teen love grow and fail and regrow
I think my greatest teachers of love were 1 of my close friends, 1 kinda acquaintance kinda friend, and my mother
-my close close friend has a worst up bringing than mine and had no good relationships around her that she could base a good relationship on.. Sadly it shows a lil in not only her love life but also what friends she allows so close to her heart even though i can see from a mile away they will only cause short term happiness but longer term pain...
I’m so glad though that as she and i grow together, she is starting to not just see what not so great characteristics those around her have but also to act a bit more on it. There are often 2 kind of ppl that are drawn to her.
The super needy and easily depressed
Or bi polar angry, anger issues and slightly abusive
She’s finally starting to take a stand and make the man she loves understand the not so great things he has done in their past. That will hopefully lead to a future for them both together(though he still has growing up to do and they both need to speak up more to each other)
But even that relationship i was not that comfortable using as a roll model as a healthy relationship for me (sorry love!)
-the kinda friend has i think never gone a month without dating someone or trying to get a person to ask her out. i watch every relationship she got in crash and burn and now she's back with a guy that she and him have gotten together and fallen apart 3 times in the past. They are a cute couple but both idiots at love.. True idiots
I used many of her mistakes to teach me what not to do. Like being ditsy and super ticklish may get the guys drooling and wanting you but it was always the kind of guys that would treat you wrong and only want you in bed
-my mother
I love her so much and she teaches me so much even the things she's not proud of in her past. She teaches me how to spot someone who was a user just by their conversation and how they made you feel during and after you would talk with them
She taught me so much and even though she never had a 100% great relationship she could tell me how to spot a healthy one
I guess i have her to thank for my current great relationship with the man i love. He and i tell each other when something’s wrong and aren't afraid to show affection. Though even after being with him for this long, I’m still nerves saying some things to him, but he encourages me that i can tell him anything and it will not scare him away no matter what
He accepts all parts of me that not all people accept
heh now I’m getting all teary and emotional -^^;
Last night he and i cried for hours because we missed each other so much and we realized how so in love we were. How we never wanted to leave the other ever.
How our love has the potential to last forever if we so choose
But it’s up to us
i guess the moral of this weird lil story is...You don't have to have a roll model to find the perfect love
You don't have to have the exact relationship that those around you have because it’s probably not the one that will make you happy when you have it
You can have the relationship that works for you and that can be what you want it to be if you both work for it
togetheri hope everyone can find love out there and even if you have a broken heart right now, learn from it and leave your heart open enough to let someone in to fix it <3
hunter0167
~hunter0167
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