"When you loose one dream, you must find another."

What is it that you have ALWAYS wanted to do, but thought impossible?

I dont know... I've never thought of dreams... only life goals. I'm one of those people who sets standards like that pretty low, so when they get dashed again, I'm not too dissapointed.

Then make a new goal; to keep yourself self sustaining, and to find a new mate. I know losing love it hard, but we must struggle to carry on. *hugs*

I am sorry to hear that you are struggling. I really am not the one to give you advice on what path in life you should take. Just hang in there and spend some time thinking about what is best for YOU and not anyone else.

What I want is a mate, a life partner... But I dont have that anymore... I've never really thought about me, I've always been a caring individual, sometimes too caring as its gotten be nowhere recently... It just lets others walk all over me and use me.

do whatever feels like the right/best thing to do
sorry for all this happening *hug?*

do I do what my heart wants? Or do I ignore it?

follow your heart seems to be better

accept the one who owns my heart doesn't want me anymore... hence my problem..

you could always steal it back.....

HUN you're only 23! ( i know almost 24 but still) you're thinking too generally years dont just fly by like that! there's so much that u can do but you dont have to decide now, that would be ridiculous for you to decide your life in a day. things happen plans change you just have to pick yourself up and say "what can i do now?" not "what am i going to do now" i mean look at cody she's gone to college how many times now? she's not exactly successful with it but she's not just laying down and giving up and neither should you. you need to think about yourself for once what you want to do what you want to be and everything you can be i know its not your way but dammit its time for a change i'm tired of seeing you get hurt because you're a good person. i know this seems harsh but sometimes its needed to snap you out of it. always remember that i love you like noone else can and i always will

*hugs tight*

Welcome to the new world which we live in. Things kinda are suck, until you're around 30...if you're lucky.

*hugs*
Things always get better, dear! I know everybody says that, but it's true.
It's really only up from here. I've been there, (even though I'm a few years behind you) A really serious years and years long relationship came to a screeching hault and I had no idea what in the world I was going to do with myself.

What helps the most is surround yourself in positive company. :)

We do what we must - we do the worst thing, the most difficult thing.

We Endure.

Your goal, now, is survival; sometimes pure survival is a noble enough cause. Only work towards getting to the end of each day safely. You will heal, you will grow and you will gain strength. It takes time, I know... but it will work, with time.

So far, it's working for me. (*Holds your hand*)

thank you, those are some strong words that I can see you truly take to heart. Thank you.

After losing Fujin... geeze, nearly 6 years ago, now? --I had to relearn to shorten my goals, annoyingly so... it was "Get through The Day". Everyday.. for a LONG time. I grew, I gained strength, my mind's ability to remember things and concentrate's been improving....

I'm nowhere NEAR what I was, but I still have time.

You can do it... just have to work on rebuilding YOU first.

you move on get over it and still get your house and dog.. no man is worth giving up for.. no matter who it is.

being emo and sad does nothing for a person. if you want to go back to school.. go for it.. if you want your house.. do it.. do what you wanted to before.. just with out someone to hold you back?

Sounds like you still have that dream or goal of having that family, that mate, that dog you wanted. Hold on and never let go. Might sound cheesy, but those dreams and goals are what keep us going. The fact that you still have or remember them means you still want them, so spend a little time for yourself, get a firm hold of those dreams and keep going.

Relationships are one small way to enjoy life among a stream of other ways; making them tantamount to happiness sets one up for heartbreak.

*huggles* if you need some1 to talk to hun, feel free to text me at 802-275-6470.

Sorry to hear that *Hugz tightly* give yourself a little time and Im sure you will find the answers your looking for but first try to find a way to smile again <3

I held a puppy today.. its the first time I've smiled willingly in the last 48 hours. I think I need a puppy.

get a puppy stat!

This sounds crass, but go for the money. These days you need money to survive, never mind prosper. Healing will happen over time; it always takes time. Meanwhile, deal with survival; in other words, get a better income. (Besides, it'll keep you busy, keep your mind off your troubles.)

I'm working on the better income part actually, I've moved positions in my store to hopefully attempt to get near fulltime hours, or at the very least, learn more. It'll help now that I won't be spending all my money on him.

Almost literally a silver lining! Pity the cloud's so dark...

I think you might have answered your question there, Kitty - Working on yourself! Believe me. Personal development is an awesome hobby. I know I've got a long way to go here. Hah.

I wish I had the chance to talk to ya more. You seem like the gal who's not only full of so many potential skills and love-ability, but can't quite seem to find the right lover. I do notice you tend to hop in rather quickly though with your mateships, and not only that, place them in such incredibly high esteem before testing the waters. Of course, the higher you place your faith in one, the farther it has to fall.

We live in very... Nefarious times I must admit! Financially times are tough. Unemployment's quite up there and wages don't quite buy what they used to, and property prices are insane. Total market bubble. It would be quite smart to hold out on a purchase, financially speaking.

But this is a great time for working on one's self and doing what you want to do.

Hey... I'd really love to get the chance to strike up a proper conversation witcha. I feel like I'm due for a proper icebreaker and getting to know more about cha and your ambitions ^_^. You have much talent! I'd hate to see them get mired!

Be Strong. I recommend schooling, personally.. as it will open up many doors for you.. (not saying you don't have a lot open already) - your a tough person and you know it. Focus on your future and make it a good one.