I didn't know you were really into BDSM until the past couple journals. Is it the pain that makes it so appealing? Just curious as to what kind of beating goes on. How could getting burned not hurt? Sorry, I just get kinda freaked out by bizarre fetishes...

In closing, have fun with the lifestyle, though it might be a good idea not to do anything that leaves a mark lest Harbor House come knocking x3

What drew me to it has more to do with serving, not the pain at all. I will admit that with the endorphins that pain releases the pleasure does mount. It's called flying, or sub space.

The Dom/sub Master/slave isn't that different then a marriage. The sub has a person in their life that matters more to them then anything, and they will do what ever the Dom wants in order to see them happy. In turn the sub is loved and cared for. The feeling of making someone happy is another benefit for a sub, it makes them happy. It really isn't all of that beating, whipping, and rough sex that porn and the media portrays it as. Sure it's there, but punishment whether for fun or discipline is not top priority.

I've been interested in the lifestyle since I was 15. It's much like a buffet, you can take what looks good to you and leave the rest. I am not into cutting or blood play. That is a little hardcore for me, and I have my limits set to no blood being drawn. I like spankings, being bound and helpless, blindfolded, flogging- the list goes on and on. It's all about heightening ones awareness to the world, or in some cases dulling it. For someone who's emotions run rampant and are difficult to control it is easy for me to release them through a spanking. I am free to scream, curse, cry and it is perfectly acceptable. I don't have to bottle it all inside, or try to express it with words for someone else to understand. It isn't all about sex or a kink, some of it is therapeutic. Yes, I have meds -I have a psychologist and a therapist to help me out, but sometimes a person needs a little more help then that.
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What I had done was called streaking or fire fleshing.

Fire Fleshing: This is where designs are made upon your body with the fuel and then set on fire then quickly blown out, wiped out, or smothered with a fire blanket.

http://www.submissiveguide.com/2010.....1/fire-play-2/

The reason why it doesn't hurt is because the fuel is what is being burned, not the skin. Once the fuel (alcohol) burns off the fire goes out. The swiping is just to make sure that the fire does go out. There is a really interesting sensation to it, but it is far from burning. There is a cool feeling, then a moment of a warm flash, then it's gone.

I like marks, temporary ones anyway. They help me focus or feel that flying sensation again.

Ah, I see. Thanks for clarifying for me. My thorough education in the liberal arts and human rights makes me think that a bit odd, but at the same time, that same education has taught me it would be doubly wrong of me to look down upon it. The "chattel principle" isn't exactly my thing, but if it is yours to an extent, that's cool. And yeah, I can get sadistic at times, but I don't do it out of love for the person I'm "punishing," nor do I use it for sexual pleasure; I'm just a sick jerk who likes to make people suffer. xD

Trust me, I'm all for human rights more then most people know. In fact being in BDSM makes me a new age feminist. True story. I went to a seminar on this. Did you know that if the vanilla world looked at sex the way the cake world views scene negotiations that there would be a decrease in rapes by 80%? I wish that I could make this shit up.

A Dom will never do something that a sub hasn't already agreed to. It is actually the subs in the relationship who hold the control, not the Doms. Even if you see that rough bondage scene in a porno I can assure you (unless the producers are armatures or assholes) that the sub has been talked through the scene step by step and agrees to it. What we see is the byproduct of the agreement, and that leads to misconceptions. We are hardly cattle.

This is an article a RL friend wrote on what a sub goes through when in a scene. It isn't at all what people see when they watch it happening.
http://cltampa.com/dailyloaf/archiv.....ss-in-bondage/

I was there when the top picture was taken. She was indeed flying high. She'll be talking about the different types of subs soon. I'll be mentioned in that article.

Funny joke I just heard recently in the BDSM group- "What does the sadist say to the masochist? ...NO." It might be an inside joke but think of the dentist scene from "Little Shop of Horrors," the one with Bill Murray. It's like that.

Ah yes, the scene with Bill Murray is my favorite part. ^.=.^ I'd be like Steve Martin; pissed that my victim is enjoying it. xD

I'm a bit shocked by that statistic. What study did that come from? I was under the impression that most rape was a selfish act of violence designed to dehumanize and subjugate a human being to satisfy a sense of inadequacy or assert a high personal standard of masculinity. More of an act of brutality than pent-up lust. That's just my impression, though.

Heh, I never knew. Yeah, it's kinda customary to jump in with both feet, especially when you're open and receptive. I've never had a chance, personally, to try anything all that interesting, but...then again, I've had a grand total of four sexual partners out of the four years since I lost my virginity. I'm still awkward in the bedroom as it is, so I just relegate my kinks to the fantasy realm.

But I'm glad to hear that you're enjoying yourself and that you have some protectors. That's always good. Be safe, but not too safe, lest you not have any fun! ^^