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14 years ago
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[left]Ok, guys... The drama lama has bee knocking on my door since monday. I'll explain everything from there. This isn't a plea for pity, this isn't a cry for attention, this happened and it's proving to be difficult.
On monday, my parents happened to stumble over some furry paraphernalia in my room. How they found it, or what they did to find it isn't that important. Unfortunately it led to a raid in my room and my parents found most of everything. My fursuit, badges, pictures, and they claim they got into my computer to see what I have been writing(I haven't been, and my computer is under password... So I don't know if that was true.). All-in-all, my mother then did research about furry and realized that I had been going to the furcons.
Now, I am going to pause for a moment to explain something. I made extravagant lies for my parents, claiming that I was going off for culinary adventures when I was actually going to the furcons. Their anger and pain for my lies is completely understandable, and I don't hold any anger towards them. I hurt them, and lied to them about all things furry. This led to what I called and 'intervention' for my furry 'lifestyle'.
After work on Monday, I came home to this gathering and they discussed exactly what they found furry was and what they wanted. They gave me the whole, “This is our house, and as long as you live in it, you have to live by our rules,” speech. My mother was apparently caused emotional trauma as a child, which led to this next part.
From her research, she learned that the two 'creators' of furry are pedophiles that still today lobby for the legalization of pedophilia. Now, I didn't know this, and I never knew furry had official 'creators'. I have hear stories about a bunch of different people who claim to have 'made furry' but that's another conversation. All-in-all, my mother said that it hurt her that I even associated myself with an organization that was created/backed pedophiles.
I learned later that she had read a story that I had stupidly printed out. It was a collection of stories, only two of them I cared for, and one of them contained pedophilia. In what I saw, this led her to believe that her son was a pedophile. So with them thinking I am a pedophile, not that they said to my face, “I think you're a pedophile”, and thinking that furry is a demonic influence in my life, they told me that if I wanted to keep living in their house, I would need to throw out all my furry paraphernalia. It's currently all bagged up and by the door. I'm not allowed to throw it away, or else I would take up the multiple offers there have been to save it. They're going to go through it and then throw it all away themselves.
The next part was complete disassociation with the furry community. I can hang out with them, sparingly, as a 'normal' person, but I can't be a furry. We talked about this one for quite a while, and the ideal situation would be for me to be completely cut-off, but they know that's not reasonable. Also, I have to leave my door wide opened. Can't close it at all, aside from two minutes to change.
There are other, less important facets, but I want to discuss my parent's actions. I fully think, and understand that this is their act of love. That they want to save me from myself, from the devil's influence, and try to pull me out. My mother continues to say that 'I don't know what it feels like to be free anymore'. Maybe she is right, though I don't think she is. They brought Christianity into the conversations, explaining how fetishes were sick and how people who were part of this fandom had something wrong with them. My dad said we were a 'Secret Society of Misfits'.
I also know I brought this upon myself. I wove the lies, I knew this was coming. I didn't know it was going to be so severe... but I knew that the hammer would eventually fall, and it's fallen right on my balls. Jackass style. I am a Christian, mind you, and it's why I can understand this all. You all have become my closest friends, and I have had some wicked times. I don't want to stop, and they know it. Hell, by typing this message right now, I am defying them. No access to anything furry, whatsoever.
Now, I'm going to start looking for a place to move out. I could go through the motions, like I always do. Do what they want, fake a smile, and convince them I am happy with them. I could do it, but I refuse to do it anymore. I have been living like that since we bought the restaurant. I don't care if I fail, and end up moving back into the house. At least I tried to make things work. At least I tried to preserve myself, and my love for my family. By moving out, I don't want to be subjugated from them. I'm doing this to preserve my love for them. To preserve the relationship, so I don't end up hating them again.
So I leave you with this, if you're in Southern California and you have a job... Hit me up. :P Orange County is the best area. La Habra/Brea/Fullertonish. I'm not leaving you guys, hell, you've become my second family kinda. A great support group. You all rock, and this won't be the last time you hear from me. I'm Casey Perez and Odarious still. :P
I may add more later, but I gotta go![/left]
But I won't. Because this isn't my battle. All I can do is offer you my support, and find some way to talk to you. Your family is wrong. Dead wrong, and I would not stand for it. Clearly, neither have you or you would have stayed without complaint. I want to be there for you, to hug you, to hold you close and tell you that I won't let anything happen...but i'm too far away. Odie...my dear little Odie...
*He growled and sighed* I want to do more than what I can currently do. But know if it weren't for the fact of your calm composure about this, I would be up in arms, rage personified. No one harms you, or they deal with me!
Goodluck man.
and for her think you're a pedophile is just down right sickening god.. "oh the furry creators are pedophiles! you can't be one!" god it makes me wanna punch something hearing that I think that there was more than ONE FUCKING Person who mad the whole fandom and alot were not pedophiles.. sorry if I'm ranting but I really hope everything gets better for you >:
BAH! I want to hold you so bad right now ]:8\
It's a sucky situation, and I have multiple views of understanding on the whole subject...
From your parents, especially your mother, anything that taints her perception of you as a good and wholesome being must be completely evil, especially if it's even remotely related to pedos. Not to mention that, but fetishes themselves just add to the problem. It really is unfortunate...
From an outside point of view though, I can see that in doing what they are, they're not actually thinking of you in their actions. Mind you, I come from a Catholic household myself, so I understand the religious side quite well. Anyway, like I said, they're not stopping to see what you've put into being a fur, and I doubt you've been given a chance to explain yourself much either. The fact that a good portion of your furry history is going to end up in the trash while they scrutinize it is what I view most as not thinking of you. Thinking of you would be looking past what they've found and working it out, learning more about what Furry really is other than a pedophile story. What is happening is nothing but a pressing of their values on you to be what they want you to be. That is not love.
I'm not saying they don't love you, however, the actions they're taking are not ones of love. I'm definitely not telling you to hate them or anything. What I am saying is that if you plan on continuing your furry lifestyle, you may want to be more analytical of what actions have been taken out of "love".
I can't say that furry is holy, but then my beliefs deviate just a bit from the absolute strictness of what the various religions out there (including the one I identify with most) teach. By a bit, I mean a lot.
Good luck dude... And cripes I feel bad for you getting your stuff trashed like that. Even the fursuit? D:
I'll pray you get through these times.
Your parents are blind Odie, you're a man now, and it's time you stood up to them, whether they're your parents or not. Your privacy was invaded in a huge way, how you allowed it is beyond me.