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How do you know when a friendship ends?
14 years ago
I've had my best friend for over 18 years, now. Met in kindergarten and been in all the same classes until graduating high school. Even kept up with each other when I moved away to California and he was the first to welcome me when I came back to Florida. To say the least we've been through thick and thin. Hell, I was best man at his wedding.
Here's my problem though. I'm not sure we're still in a friendship any longer. My evidence it has been 6 months since we've talked. Not a big shocker because we're both adults with our own lives, jobs, and relationships that we're involved with (Mine 5+ years running and his 2ish.) but we at least would take one night a month to just be the two of us to hang together. The last time I physically saw him was a few days after his birthday. He seemed a little distracted and his wife kept calling every few minutes. Completely understandable considering they were married in June and it was December. We left with our usual jabs of "Find me on Facebook because you know I wont be looking for you." I thought we were cool.
Then one day when I was feeling really low I called him. We have a police of call whenever, if I don't pick up leave a message, and I'll call back in two minutes. (Seriously, he's gotten worried a few times when I was in class so my phone was off, and he left a message voice or text every 2 to 4 mins for the last 30 min of class.) So I left my message, and thought nothing of it. When he didn't call back I chalked it up to him being busy and left a text to call when he had his next day off, so we could have a few beers. I went on with my life, but a few weeks later when our usual meeting day came around he never showed. I called no answer. I left a massage about a re-schedule whenever and left it at that. The next month came around and again no word from him and a no show on Beer Night. I left a text not bothering to call. Since he didn't pick up any other time I called. When he didn't come around the next month I didn't even text. The next I just started scheduling work since I hadn't got a single text or call.
Now I've found out from his mom's Facebook that he lives only a few minutes drive down the highway from me. He used to live an hour and a half away. I've helped this boy move every time he's changed places and he's helped me move every time I change places. So you now understand why this is a bit of a shock to me. Thankfully I haven't seen anything about his wife being pregnant because I was supposed to be a Godparent. I just kinda feel like crap that I now have to keep up with his life through his families Facebook. (Trust me when I say he and his wife are the only ones in his family I don't have on my friends list.)
Then again I could just be over reacting, right? it's only been six months. Maybe he got a new phone, forgot to tell me, and lost my number... why does this sound so much like a girls who's been dumped and not want to face it... I'm just being crazy right? I still have my best friend right?
Here's my problem though. I'm not sure we're still in a friendship any longer. My evidence it has been 6 months since we've talked. Not a big shocker because we're both adults with our own lives, jobs, and relationships that we're involved with (Mine 5+ years running and his 2ish.) but we at least would take one night a month to just be the two of us to hang together. The last time I physically saw him was a few days after his birthday. He seemed a little distracted and his wife kept calling every few minutes. Completely understandable considering they were married in June and it was December. We left with our usual jabs of "Find me on Facebook because you know I wont be looking for you." I thought we were cool.
Then one day when I was feeling really low I called him. We have a police of call whenever, if I don't pick up leave a message, and I'll call back in two minutes. (Seriously, he's gotten worried a few times when I was in class so my phone was off, and he left a message voice or text every 2 to 4 mins for the last 30 min of class.) So I left my message, and thought nothing of it. When he didn't call back I chalked it up to him being busy and left a text to call when he had his next day off, so we could have a few beers. I went on with my life, but a few weeks later when our usual meeting day came around he never showed. I called no answer. I left a massage about a re-schedule whenever and left it at that. The next month came around and again no word from him and a no show on Beer Night. I left a text not bothering to call. Since he didn't pick up any other time I called. When he didn't come around the next month I didn't even text. The next I just started scheduling work since I hadn't got a single text or call.
Now I've found out from his mom's Facebook that he lives only a few minutes drive down the highway from me. He used to live an hour and a half away. I've helped this boy move every time he's changed places and he's helped me move every time I change places. So you now understand why this is a bit of a shock to me. Thankfully I haven't seen anything about his wife being pregnant because I was supposed to be a Godparent. I just kinda feel like crap that I now have to keep up with his life through his families Facebook. (Trust me when I say he and his wife are the only ones in his family I don't have on my friends list.)
Then again I could just be over reacting, right? it's only been six months. Maybe he got a new phone, forgot to tell me, and lost my number... why does this sound so much like a girls who's been dumped and not want to face it... I'm just being crazy right? I still have my best friend right?
