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14 years ago
Heya guys.
I've been thinking lately about friendship, and about what it means to different people. I've noticed that quite a few people seem to have this image that being someone's friend means you have to nurture and care for that relationship at all times, keeping in contact constantly to remind the person what they mean to you, visiting as often as possible, etc.. Sometimes this gets to the point that I feel like I'm balancing plates on all of my limbs, and if I'm not careful one of them may fall and break.
I guess I just wanted to shed some light on my perspective of the matter. No, there aren't any specific recent events that triggered this, I just felt like sharing some of my thoughts =)
To me, creating a friendship is like building a house. All the smiles, memories, good times/bad times, things you've done for one another are like materials, bricks with which to make your structure. When your time is done, you put down your tools and rest, maybe take a moment to look and treasure what you've constructed. When you have to part ways, that building remains. It doesn't crumble, and it doesn't decay. Each time you're reunited with these people, you have the oppourtunity to add to what you've made, reinforce it make it stronger.. But it never goes away, at least that's how it's always felt to me. And I feel that even when there is accidental decay or damage, a true friend is always willing to do what they can to touch up those rough spots and make it shine again.
It seems especially important to me in a fandom like this where sometimes you don't see some of your friends for years, maybe only at cons, or are friends online with people you've never even met face to face. If I had the mindset that time apart meant drifting away, I'd spend all of my time worrying about losing those friends and none of it enjoying what time I do have to spend with them.
Everyone has their own lives and often times life gets pretty busy, I understand and accept that. I'd like everyone to do the same for me, if it's not too much to ask. I know it can be rough..
To all of my friends out there, you'll always be in my heart, even if I don't get the chance to come and hang out with you or just chat as often as you like. I love all of you guys, and I can't wait to see you all again =3
Stay awesome!
Next con for you?
I still consider you a good friend Skroy, even with what little communication we've had with each other. :3
The feeling is mutual, miss ya buddy =)
And on that note.. We need to hang out more!
We should hang out at FC sometime, if you don't mind a fat crux to pal around with.
I spend my time with the people I trust and feel are worth investing into =)
and you need to come to MFM!
Wish everyone saw it this way! :P
FAVORITE PART!
:P
Nice perspective there!! *offers scritches*
*hugs*
BTW, the video montage kartfox did rocks!
And yes, he did an awesome job on it!
Speaking of which, can't wait to see you and squeak your nose at the next con :D
But yes, we need to hang more! Glad I got to hug ya at AC though :3
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for being too damn sweet
You were awesome from the first moment I met you, don't ever change!
;) *hugs*
stay try
DJ Zak
Yep.
i actually had a friend attack me over IM cuz i didnt keep in contact with them constantly...it destroyed our friendship for a while...
but i miss you like crazy hun n no matter how much or how little we get to talk or hang out, you are a great friend n i love you for that!
I see you as an online acquaintance but MFF might change that. :3 Hope to see you there! Maybe, we'll become friends too. xD
See ya at MFF dude! Keep on Rollin'!
-Tha GShep
The friendship is always there until you or your friend demolishes the building =3
:V
But the journal was meant to be about people that care for you and just don't have the time to always be around you.. Not about people who are jerks xP
You and I haven't done much, played some great games on Black Ops together, and with others too (like Doryuu!), and had fun at FCN. But with that little time, I certainly say you're a friend of mine :P
I'm glad you have this outlook on friendships, because so do I. Just wish more people did too.
Keep on letting it roll Skroy and be yourself man. Wouldn't have it any other way <3
You're the awesome for sharing these thoughts :) *hugs*
.... and if ever we do get the chance to meet face to face, I'll be that creeper that runs up and gives you a hug like we know each other. XD CAN OUR HOUSE BE A SAND CASTLE??? WITH A FLAG ON TOP???
Much love to you Skroy *hugs tight* See you at the next con!
I had another comment with more thought but figured it's just a repeat of what you said anyways lol
dancing duo FTW~~!!! *booty bumps diggyroo* We shall build our love...shack... wait... what o.o
Love you just as much!
Gotta stay true to you and hold onto your real friends no matter what. See you soon wuffer!
Y U NO WRITE?
U HAET ME!
BAWWWWW!
And you saying that has made me realise the same and I've stopped worrying about keeping friends as close as possible, as long as I can see them every now and then, we can still talk.
Thank you. :)
If only I could favourite journals! >.<
And at the moment my dream is to go to Anthrocon one day... Be so awesome! ^^
For now though, I need to get a job and save up for a plane out there from dreary lil Wales in the UK and a room etc for the con.
Thanks so much again.
I saw that movie a loooong time ago, almost completely forgot about! Probably helped me with this idea for sure X3
I must be different I suppose. To be in motion fills me with purpose. And that makes me feel better.
I have so many con buddies that I only see at cons. Only party with at cons.
but I love each and every one of them!