Furry - fetish, Lifestyle or Escapism?
14 years ago
General
Exploring the depths of internet and talking with sum people it furtherly cemented my suspicion - we have an strange fandom. Not strange in a bad way tho, but people are quite sceptical about it and sum also like to bash at furry fandom I know, im chewing on an old shoe here, but theres a question i keep asking people - how do you define furry? Is it a fetish, lifestyle or escapism (hence the title)? I mean, everyone had an ready answer, from escapistic fantasies (humans are boring), fetish (its so exotic) and lifestylish (i am a shark!) - but the question remains: what of these three is the fandom?
It can be easely descirbed as fetish, since it has all the things in it fo dat. It embodies the animalistic Nature that sits in every one of us, lets us live out sum of the fantazies and provied great escapism, since the fursona doesnt represent us, but our mind. In my theory, if furry was fetish, 99% of the people would hate their body, at least on their subconciousness level, cuz imagening themselves as anthromorphic creatures surely lets em forgett their own body - its not entirely truth, but its an idea. Lifestyle is some other thing, since nobody cant really describe what a furry lifestyle is, which leads us to bunch of people refusing bath and wearing collars - just kidding, but there are idiots in every fandom, not just the furry one. True, we have Otherkinns (speaking of idiots...), but also sum stray Zoo- and Pedofiles - I wont deny there arent any in Fandom, but there are enough of those in other fandoms or as free agents (lawl) - so leaving those behind, what xactly is a furry lifestyle? Wearing collars, acting like animals? I dont know, that comes mostly as derp to me, but i can roll with it. And the last one is escapism - imagening yerself as a hulky anthro tiger is always better then plane old human. I can mostly relate to this when it comes to describing furry fandom, but then again, thats just me.
Ok, enough of my chitchatter, i like theorizing a lot and ya should take it with bunch of salt ;3 But yeah - what does Furry Fandom mean to you? One of three options mentioned before? All three together? or sumthing completely different?
It can be easely descirbed as fetish, since it has all the things in it fo dat. It embodies the animalistic Nature that sits in every one of us, lets us live out sum of the fantazies and provied great escapism, since the fursona doesnt represent us, but our mind. In my theory, if furry was fetish, 99% of the people would hate their body, at least on their subconciousness level, cuz imagening themselves as anthromorphic creatures surely lets em forgett their own body - its not entirely truth, but its an idea. Lifestyle is some other thing, since nobody cant really describe what a furry lifestyle is, which leads us to bunch of people refusing bath and wearing collars - just kidding, but there are idiots in every fandom, not just the furry one. True, we have Otherkinns (speaking of idiots...), but also sum stray Zoo- and Pedofiles - I wont deny there arent any in Fandom, but there are enough of those in other fandoms or as free agents (lawl) - so leaving those behind, what xactly is a furry lifestyle? Wearing collars, acting like animals? I dont know, that comes mostly as derp to me, but i can roll with it. And the last one is escapism - imagening yerself as a hulky anthro tiger is always better then plane old human. I can mostly relate to this when it comes to describing furry fandom, but then again, thats just me.
Ok, enough of my chitchatter, i like theorizing a lot and ya should take it with bunch of salt ;3 But yeah - what does Furry Fandom mean to you? One of three options mentioned before? All three together? or sumthing completely different?
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I also like aviation and roller coasters (I spend more time fantasizing about the former than furry), but I have yet to see someone try to tell me that my other interests are anything more than a hobby.
For me, my furry-ness is mostly fetish, but is also deeply entwined with my spiritual path. I wouldn't call furry a lifestyle for me, since it has little effect on my day-to-day life, goals, or choices. I wouldn't call it escapism either. It is largely fantasy, certainly, but more of a hobby than an escape.
For others, furry is markedly different. Some take it further than I do, some less far. Some don't fetishize it all, and others see no spiritual side. Furry-dom is too individual and unique a self-identification for many generalities to consistently apply.
Furry is a fandom. Just as anime fans tend more toward cosplay than do traditional science fiction fans, and hard sci fi folks tend more toward atheism, while fantasy fans tend to be Pagan-ish, every fandom has its trends and general themes. Furry has its own quirks and differences from other fandoms, as do they all, but it's just a fandom, with all the diversity and undefinability that any fandom entails.
One werewolf's $.02
Later in life (but not much later), I developed a sensual fetish for monsters - basically anything humanoid and not gross (like zombies), no matter how otherwise alien. Werewolves were my favorite, I think because of the wild, primal power, and the need to chain them up on the full moon.
Between the two, and the crush I had on Disney's cartoon Robin Hood as a child, I think becoming a furry was inevitable.
Which is basically the same answer. Furry isn't my spirituality, but it's related, and it is a strong sensual fetish for me, as well as a hobby/interest.
What about you? And <off topic> why is this the journal I was online to catch in time to be the third poster, huh? *rolls eyes* I'm never online when you post your free art journals. *grin* I think it's super cool when you do those though, even if I never win.</off topic>
I think animals sometimes hold up a mirror for us to understand ourselves better too, so in that regard, furry and psychology may often be related interests. I wonder if that had anything to do with why the Egyptians pictured their gods the way they did.
So yes - animals as gods has to do with the same urge to empower our body with the animalistic traits, altho we tend to define it psychologicly rather then religiously
but the rest, yeah. totally.
As for vore. . . that's an interesting take on it. Never really thought of it that way. What about people who like vore because they want to be eaten? Not saying it can't be the same thing, but just curious if you think so.
I also think there's an aspect of ... submissiveness? service? To surrender so completely as to be devoured, and better yet, to become a part of the adored, worshiped object of desire, forever, as cells in the beloved's body. It's like loving someone so much you want to cease being yourself and just be a subset of the person you love. The ultimate self-effacement.
Not my kink (I'm more of a Dominant, myself, and I value my submissives too much to want to eat them), but I think there's beauty to the concept, from the perspective of the one eaten. It's the eaters I don't get - part of why I was so interested in your take, relating it to a kind of disconnected, un-symbolic cannibalism. It kind of feels that way to me sometimes.
I mean, I suppose in consensual soft vore, the eater is just enabling the one eaten to have the desired experience - just a D/s take on merging, which I can kind of wrap my head around. And I guess the hard vore version is partially about the same impulses to imagine "the things I could do if I was evil" that inspires murderous vampire characters and the like. I suppose there's a certain liberation there. . . but it's still definitely not my kink.
I really like the rebirth cycle aspect you describe though, especially for soft vore. I think that could make a powerful story, on a mythic symbolism sort of level.
Well, Dominant Vorefans hardly follow the "asumeonestraits" aspect of the canibalism, i rather think its living out our animalistic side and, if we want to go psychological, reliving the father figure, that eats their children in almoust every mythology. Also, being a devourer fastens ones positon in the food chain, making them feel more important and powerfull then their prey, so its as always, a power fantasy.
As for story, that would be an interresting thing - altho it has been rewritten in every legend of human kind so far. I would say, give Joseph Campbells "The Hero with a thousand faces" a read - great lecture and really gives an understanding how humans work :3
D/s is interesting. Many submissives are very powerful, assertive people in their day-to-day lives. They run businesses, lead organizations, etc. Not all, obviously, but a surprising number. I think submissiveness is usually more about having 0 responsibility whatsoever. That's why a powerful person, used to being responsible for everything all the time, has sexual fantasies of giving up control and choice - let someone else do the hard part for a while. It's actually a saying in the kink scene that the submissive gets whatever they want, while the Dominant does all the work. *grin*
I do agree that some submissives are the way you describe - afraid to take responsibility for themselves in or out of the bedroom, and that's kinda sad, but sometimes healthy sexual kink can help such people become more assertive in other areas. I'm always wary of 24-7 D/s though. I always try to help my submissives become stronger, and I'm most attracted to submissives who start out strong. I also think the "weak" submissiveness you describe is more common in abuse situations than in consensual kink.
As for Doms. most of them come across to me as people afraid to admit their own powerlessness in the universe. They're like little dogs, yapping at the world, "grrr, I'm so big and bad!" and you just want to pat them on the head and give them a cuddle. And put them on a leash.
In the kink scene, you can always tell the true Doms by a certain quiet humility. They know their power, and they know it's all kind of silly and ephemeral, and they're just there to have a good time. I aspire to that level of confidence. I get there sometimes, but sometimes I'm still a little shih-tzu, barking at passing SUVs. *grin* It takes a pretty Zen attitude to be Dom all the time though - as mentioned above, being in charge can be a daunting responsibility. Still, I've tried being submissive, and it's not my thing. I can act the part and get in character enough to sort of enjoy it, but lack of responsibility doesn't comfort me, even if it's temporary. I don't think that makes me stronger or weaker than a genuine sexual submissive though. I just have different anxieties, and different ways of feeling safe and relaxed. Mine lead me to prefer being in charge.
I think you're pretty right on about Doms and vore, at least to an extent. It's not always a father figure, of course. There are myths of the mother-devourer too, and they're subtly different, and the predator-prey relationship excludes the parental aspect (and I think is more conducive to sexual metaphor too). Campbell was never as bad as some of his fans have been, of over-streamlining myths, to the point where they lose all subtle variety. It's a boredom-inducing trap that I discourage. The world of fiction and myth is more vibrant and varied than some would have you believe.
I'm currently a fan of the mythology theories of Wendy Doniger O'Flaherty. I don't think she's right about everything, but she seems pretty cutting-edge anyway.
BTW, I hope you don't mind how off topic this has gotten in your journal. Really interesting conversation though!
Also considering how long mankind has been anthropomorphising animals in art and fiction, I have to think there is some sort of primal, instinctive thing to it too.
The greatest strength of the fandom is also it's largest weakness - there is not catch-all definition of what makes up a Furry.
You can be in it for the art, or for the porn, or for a spiritual reason, or because you believe you have the soul or something else, or because you have a friend in it and don't want to be left out, or because you enjoy fantasy, or because you played a game once with an anthro character, or because you thought it was fun to imagine what you would look like as an animal.
And then you get into what "degree" a person is involved. Only have a character because your friend has one, believes you have an animal soul, love porn and think this is the easiest way to get some, and so on.
We are a giant melting-pot of values and degrees. Our diversity gives us a lot of strength, but it also explains why it's so hard for us to get along sometimes, or how we can seem so fractured.
For others though I can see why they see it as only a sexual thing and I can see why others see it as a lifestyle.
I would say it's neither a lifestyle, fetish, or escapism. It's a fandom focused on anthropomorphic animals or creatures. This does not mean people do not use it as a lifestyle (this is often an excuse for performing inappropriately in RL, btw), fetish, or for escapism, but those do not define what the fandom is.
I'd say the reason animals are the focus historically is as a mirror to view ourselves.
We want to know who we are, what we are capable of, why we do what we do, and so much more. Historically the best way to try to come to some form of answers to these questions has been to look at animals [both as they are and with the ascribing of human thoughts and feelings upon them] and try to see what's what.
Animals are the closest things to ourselves without having been raised in the same situation as we were [if that makes sense,] especially when viewed from the past where different cultures wouldn't have been able to interact very well with one another.
All of the above, and more. What we call "furry fandom" is an umbrella term for a whole bunch of different strands, that have as the only connection between them the presence of anthropomorphic animal characters. There are fans of cartoon characters; fans of cartoon style; people with fetish for fur, scales, feather, tails etc.; people with xenophilia who just enjoy the mix of human and non-human and the thrill of strangeness that brings; people who find the mix of human and animal attributes aesthetically interesting and pleasing; totemists, who feel a deep connection with particular animal or animal archetype; otherkin-like folks who feel they are a particular animal or animal archetype deep inside; erotic fursuiters; non-erotic fursuiters; people who like making fursuits; people who want to make elaborate fictional worlds populated by animalistic characters; people who like making stories about people, using the resonance of animal archetypes and appearances; and so on.
It's a hopelessly broad meta-category of various things, really.
Personally, my "furriness" is a mix of fetish (of the xenophilia variety, where the important thing is the mix of human and animal), aesthetic appeal and escapism (not so much that humans are boring and I want to be a hyena; rather, anthropomorphs are nifty and I like to write and think about them!).
Later on, I developed an attachment for alien characters. Larry Niven's Ringworld series introduced a breed of aliens, called "puppeteers", who had very human traits and weaknesses. And after reading all three books, I found myself searching for puppeteer porn. Still I wasn't a furry. But now looking back, I see some patterns were forming.
Next year, I read all of David Brin's Uplift series books, starting from Startide Rising (a great book, it's a must-read for all wannabe aquatic furries). Again, I experienced the same pattern of emotions - from compassion, attachment, devotion, blushing, and there I was, searching for dolphin porn. But that grossed me out. I didn't want that. I don't want things to escalate in that direction. So then, what the fuck I wanted? I was puzzled.
Finally, two years ago, I accidentally found the furry fandom. And it was everything I wanted - everything I dreamed of all these years. Is it a kind of spirituality? I don't know.
Für mich selber ist Furry der Versuch eines etwas radikaleren Perspektivwechsels zu dem auch Überlegungen gehören, wie beispielsweise sich Gebrauchsgegenstände ändern müssen, um für eine andere, nicht humanoide Spezies immer noch nutzbar zu sein. Ob es nun Sitzgelegenheiten oder gar Kleidungsstücke sind die passen, bzw. ob die Spezies zur Werkzeugverwendung, die diese Gebrauchsgegenstände erzeugt, überhaupt körperlich geeignet ist. Und dieses Gedankenspiel kann sich auch auf andere Aspekte der spezieseigenen Kultur ausdehnen, die theoretisch sogar Lösungsansätze für unsere Probleme mit sich bringen kann, da es dieser fiktionalen Spezies mitunter an unserem kulturellen Kontext und seinen spezifischen Denkblockaden und Schubladendenken fehlt.
Aber so wie ich die Sache sehe wird Furry meistens einfach nur als ein Modifikator verwendet, der auf bereits Bestehendes in unserer Gesellschaft angewandt wird. Und diese gemeinsame Nutzung dieses einen Modifikators für was auch immer ist, was das Fandom in seiner teils widersprüchlichen Heterogenität einigermaßen eint.
It's not any of those three because it's not any of those three for everyone.
Furry is just a fandom of those interested in the anthropomorphism of animals.
Many of use use talking animals as a representative tool for ourselves [in the same way many create fan characters in other genres] but not everyone does this, as with using it as a fetish/lifestyle/whatever it cannot be applied to all as a definition of Furry. The only think that all have in common is an interest in the anthropomorphism of animals [real or imaginary.]