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Important life update...RANT.
14 years ago
Um...I might be single fairly soon.
I am so stressed, so unhappy, and just always at the verge of having an anxiety attack. I can't do it anymore.
I work 40 hours a week. I pay the rent and all the utilities. I put food on the table. All he does it play games and watch movies. All I want from him is to spend an hour or two a day and tidy up the place, but that's asking far too much of him. It's just unfair. And I should be the one to cook all the meals too. Yup. How is that fair? I get he's depressed from losing his job. But that was LAST APRIL! More than a year ago. I've been holding it together for this long, but I'm ready to break. I can't do it anymore. I can't be the only one to compromise.
I'm going to lay this all out for him, as I've tried to do a few times to just have him walk away and tell me he doesn't want to hear it. He needs to step up and start taking responsibility. He isn't a kid, and I'm not his mother. He also needs to be at least semi affectionate again. He's been very cold to me for almost the entire time since he lost his job, and I just can't go on like this. I don't think it's asking too much. I give our relationship 110%, and I get about maybe 2% out of him. I want at least 50% back. I know dudes aren't usually all mushy, and I can deal with that. I like to spoil whomever I'm with anyway, but I want at least some kind of acknowledgment. And just to know I'm loved and appreciated.
Alright, done now.
I am so stressed, so unhappy, and just always at the verge of having an anxiety attack. I can't do it anymore.
I work 40 hours a week. I pay the rent and all the utilities. I put food on the table. All he does it play games and watch movies. All I want from him is to spend an hour or two a day and tidy up the place, but that's asking far too much of him. It's just unfair. And I should be the one to cook all the meals too. Yup. How is that fair? I get he's depressed from losing his job. But that was LAST APRIL! More than a year ago. I've been holding it together for this long, but I'm ready to break. I can't do it anymore. I can't be the only one to compromise.
I'm going to lay this all out for him, as I've tried to do a few times to just have him walk away and tell me he doesn't want to hear it. He needs to step up and start taking responsibility. He isn't a kid, and I'm not his mother. He also needs to be at least semi affectionate again. He's been very cold to me for almost the entire time since he lost his job, and I just can't go on like this. I don't think it's asking too much. I give our relationship 110%, and I get about maybe 2% out of him. I want at least 50% back. I know dudes aren't usually all mushy, and I can deal with that. I like to spoil whomever I'm with anyway, but I want at least some kind of acknowledgment. And just to know I'm loved and appreciated.
Alright, done now.
Tazer_Silverscar
~deltaru
Not sure if this will work with your guy, but it certainly worked with my Dad... of course it's a last resort, but it might be a good idea to give him an ultimatum. Shape up or ship out. Given he's your biggest drain on resources, it's not right for him to be so selfish, and he can't be expecting you to do everything. I really hope this sorts out though, because splitting is really quite sad... =(
OlwenSirpa
~olwensirpa
OP
Yes. I've tried talking to him. I've tried to give him an ultimatum. He always walks away or just turns up the volume and says he doesn't want to talk about it. :( Trust me. I really don't want to. I just don't know what else to do. It's going to be I tell him I need at least a week to think, and that he better be thinking too. If he wakes up and realizes he needs to shape up, he can come back, but if things are just going to stay the same, I can't do it anymore. For my own mental well being.
Tazer_Silverscar
~deltaru
Can't turn the volume up on something that's unplugged. You've gotta step in and take control before it gets much worse...
