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Being Real - Please Read :3
18 years ago
Real/Fake
Everyone likes to be real, don't like to be fake at all. then there are people who like living lies, and try to devastate people emotionally. But the thing is, EVERYONE is fake at some fucking point in there life, you cant just claim to be real. Its natural to be fake, Some people be fake to preserve feelings, some people be fake to avoid things that may hurt others or themselves.... But is it really worth living your life according to it, i know that being real is a life style and makes people feel great (The Law of Attraction applies here) You don't get what you want, you get what vibes you put out (i really need to apply that more on myself). when your being real, you want to put off vibes like your accepted and you want people to accept you. Everyone wants to be accepted by people.
But... is it really considered being real when you accept friends, and tell others behind there back how fake they are but continue to act like there your best friends? Is it honestly considered being real to keep friends and make fun of them behind there back telling people how fake they are!? i don't like putting people on the spot but everyone has some fake friend/friends that they want to keep around, but when you claim it as a life style, you should remove them from your life, there not going to be real with you so you shouldn't have to waste your time with them. :3
Forgiveness
When you forgive someone...its like giving them another chance. Being forgiving is something that shouldn't be taken lightly, there are people who abuse this(i have ): ), Forgiving someone.... when you forgive someone, that means you'd be ready for some... recovering. You shouldn't just ignore someone you just forgave just because they hurt you in the past, when you forgive someone your ready to make amends...not more wars. But there are people who forgive people falsely.... and thats just fucking wrong, you don't forgive someone just so you don't have to not deal with the guilt.... its not being real.... at least thats how it seems you know?
Change
Change is something that takes time, change can sometimes happen over night, but true change take time and lots of thought(IMO). Change can be for good, and some times change can be bad. It really matters how you view things.
My Test
But it also brings me to this, i started a new account and abandoned this one... i lost 6 friends, they don't talk to me anymore... its funny, i guess page views and Watchers makes friends...lol. But i knew these were fake friends, it just gave them no motivation to talk to me, cause I'm not "popular." I'm glad i lost them :3
My question
Why did we drift apart?
I kinda want my message sent, yet im not forcing anyone one to spread it :3
Also, This is going to be my Finished projects and junk account, while my
waffle is going to be OCs and unfinished work :3
Everyone likes to be real, don't like to be fake at all. then there are people who like living lies, and try to devastate people emotionally. But the thing is, EVERYONE is fake at some fucking point in there life, you cant just claim to be real. Its natural to be fake, Some people be fake to preserve feelings, some people be fake to avoid things that may hurt others or themselves.... But is it really worth living your life according to it, i know that being real is a life style and makes people feel great (The Law of Attraction applies here) You don't get what you want, you get what vibes you put out (i really need to apply that more on myself). when your being real, you want to put off vibes like your accepted and you want people to accept you. Everyone wants to be accepted by people.
But... is it really considered being real when you accept friends, and tell others behind there back how fake they are but continue to act like there your best friends? Is it honestly considered being real to keep friends and make fun of them behind there back telling people how fake they are!? i don't like putting people on the spot but everyone has some fake friend/friends that they want to keep around, but when you claim it as a life style, you should remove them from your life, there not going to be real with you so you shouldn't have to waste your time with them. :3
Forgiveness
When you forgive someone...its like giving them another chance. Being forgiving is something that shouldn't be taken lightly, there are people who abuse this(i have ): ), Forgiving someone.... when you forgive someone, that means you'd be ready for some... recovering. You shouldn't just ignore someone you just forgave just because they hurt you in the past, when you forgive someone your ready to make amends...not more wars. But there are people who forgive people falsely.... and thats just fucking wrong, you don't forgive someone just so you don't have to not deal with the guilt.... its not being real.... at least thats how it seems you know?
Change
Change is something that takes time, change can sometimes happen over night, but true change take time and lots of thought(IMO). Change can be for good, and some times change can be bad. It really matters how you view things.
My Test
But it also brings me to this, i started a new account and abandoned this one... i lost 6 friends, they don't talk to me anymore... its funny, i guess page views and Watchers makes friends...lol. But i knew these were fake friends, it just gave them no motivation to talk to me, cause I'm not "popular." I'm glad i lost them :3
My question
Why did we drift apart?
I kinda want my message sent, yet im not forcing anyone one to spread it :3
Also, This is going to be my Finished projects and junk account, while my
waffle is going to be OCs and unfinished work :3
Recently this persons had a change of heart, even tutored and donated the money to charity. But the worst part is, this person isnt doing it for the people who'd be helped. The said person is doing this for to boost their self esteem. I have confirmation from a friend of mine about that one. But the point stands. How do you deal with such a person? They only look out for their best interests and couldnt care less about yours. But if your best interests happen to coincide with this persons, theres a good chance this person will ignore you based on the supposed fact that whats this person has is theirs not anyone elses. Even if its worthless to them its still too good to give to others. Yet this is the same pesron who tutored for a charities benifit.
I know what you're talking about, and its incredibly difficult to understand and deal with. My advice is don't waste your time on others who dont want to spend a second of theirs on you. But at the very least remain civil because if you don't you risk becoming what you hate. Finding a ballance could never be any harder eh?
Friends come and go, mostly because people change. Some people say people dont change and it might be true. But, at different ages different things could happen to them in their lives which change their opinion about the big things in life. Genetics have a strong voice in who we are, but we can change how we respond to it which effectively changes who we are. You kinda almost had the answer to your own question if you just kept on thinking about it. But its much better to ask others what they think and compare to what you think. Makes it easier to see if you're the one whos in the wrong, and on what you're in the wrong about.
Long journals deserve long responses. Even short ones still deserve long responses. I guess to sum it all up, good questions deserve good answers. (difficult questions too.)
Don't know exactly id feel about this sort of person...so i don't know if i could even give any input, without knowing the person or someone like them.
i know i shouldn't ever waste my time acknowledge there existence, since they dont want to know anything about me, unless i was dead. Balance... i swear its joke, no one can find a proper balance, so many things tip the scale constantly. Its never easy to maintain balance. ):
Yeah, when i think about things, i only have a few angles to work from, but when i get help and ask other (i hate asking people but i force myself) I know m wrong most of the time, but its nature, no one likes to lose, but I'm willing to try Even if theres some doubt that I'm wrong. :3
Short questions do deserve long answers, but short questions can be missleading
Dont worry about it, its essentially solved between me and the person as far as im concerned. We'll still contribute to common group comments etc basically remaining civil but nothing remotely like a friendship.
Haters are a funny bunch because hating is hard work. But so is making friends and building relationships. Balance is a funny topic. Its like perfection, its a nice goal, but its an optimistic goal. Theres always a bigger fish in the sea.
I guess i sometimes do the same, recently there have two occasions i found myself defending something which i knew was wrong. I quickly started making an effort to stop because i was in the wrong and appeared to refuse to accept it but felt guilty about it... If you have nothing to lose then you have everything to gain, but if you have everything to lose then you have nothing to gain. Goes straight back to balance. HURRAY!@# lol.
And long questions can becoming confusing. (Hey look... its balance again... balance, balance, balance....)
On a much more happier note Merry christmas!@# if its not too late for you yet... only 40 mins left for me. And happy holidays too!
Also, I would rather not go through the trouble of figuring out who's fake and who's real. I usually thought that applied to famous people or people who claim to excel in a talent.
....I was probably no help on this topic. Sorry.
but i guess, its also there choice if they dont want you around if they dont care about you. .-.
i dont like the trouble, but there are people... that just dont need true friends...
However, you should always be true to others, and if conflicts arise, tell them what the situation is... and you shouldn't smile at someone that you really don'T like. You can make sure he knows that you don'T like him too much, even without shouting into his face - but you shouldn'T act as his best friend if you really despise him. It'S jsut wrong.
Hope that makes any sense.. I've the feeling I'm not really getting to a point here. Well, maybe with more time at hand and a less full belly, I'll be able to think more clearly *burps*
Still wish you a merry chrismas ^^