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Philosophy question: What is a relationship?
14 years ago
So it's late and I'm in a good thinking mood. So I wannthinking little talking, a little thinking.
What is the defenition of a relationship?
I'm asking this because I don't think I know. It's more than just two jackoffs jumping in bed and calling each other cute names. Or is it?
Are there different types of relationships? What does time do to a relationship? Is sex a defining factor? Is attractiveness a factor? Are we hardwired into liking what we like or do we have free will to actually choose what we want? What's desirable? Are there constants? How much does material possession play into itt?
I have so many questions and the thing is nobody is wrong. It's whatever makes you happy. Whatever makes the two of you happy. I need to figure these questions out for myself though.
I think that for me... I want someone I can respect. Someone whose proven themselves in my mind. I think I have high standards though. Even for someone who I want to spend forever with. I worry that if I find this person I won't be good enough for them.
But I don't think I've been in enough, just plain experiences with women. Mom wasn't around much so I think that has something to do with my current ineptitude with the fairer sex. I want to fix this. I want to talk to more women, be thief friends, learn from them. Figure out from these experiences what would be a good woman for me.
I think I'm. going to try and just talking to girls more. I put a lot of pressure on myself to find the one. But her and I have yet to cross paths. Or maybe we have and I just don't know it yet.
For all the women I know reading this. I want you to know I appreciate all of you for dealing with my blubbering bumbling self. I'm young, stupid, and trying to find answers. I'm going to and have made mistakes. All I can ask is for your forgiveness and understanding as I explore and try to figure out what a relationship is.
What is the defenition of a relationship?
I'm asking this because I don't think I know. It's more than just two jackoffs jumping in bed and calling each other cute names. Or is it?
Are there different types of relationships? What does time do to a relationship? Is sex a defining factor? Is attractiveness a factor? Are we hardwired into liking what we like or do we have free will to actually choose what we want? What's desirable? Are there constants? How much does material possession play into itt?
I have so many questions and the thing is nobody is wrong. It's whatever makes you happy. Whatever makes the two of you happy. I need to figure these questions out for myself though.
I think that for me... I want someone I can respect. Someone whose proven themselves in my mind. I think I have high standards though. Even for someone who I want to spend forever with. I worry that if I find this person I won't be good enough for them.
But I don't think I've been in enough, just plain experiences with women. Mom wasn't around much so I think that has something to do with my current ineptitude with the fairer sex. I want to fix this. I want to talk to more women, be thief friends, learn from them. Figure out from these experiences what would be a good woman for me.
I think I'm. going to try and just talking to girls more. I put a lot of pressure on myself to find the one. But her and I have yet to cross paths. Or maybe we have and I just don't know it yet.
For all the women I know reading this. I want you to know I appreciate all of you for dealing with my blubbering bumbling self. I'm young, stupid, and trying to find answers. I'm going to and have made mistakes. All I can ask is for your forgiveness and understanding as I explore and try to figure out what a relationship is.
ack! im rambling so i'll end here before i never stop XD
and i always say/yell at ppl that its mainly trust
but as of lately all the ones i been into are more like a mine field XD
im not really the best at explaining things =/ im more so the person that offers a sholder and listens for the most part
A relationship, in the sense that you mean, is whatever makes you two happiest. That's all. Wanting someone you can respect is a wonderful start, now you have to build on that. :)
Oh, and "be theif friend?" ~.^
Kitt3ns, don't "look" fur a girlfriend (and don't be their friend; they have enough of them); look fur women that are attracted to you. Goodness, there are so many attractive women out there. Good luck!
i sometimes feel just as lost as you do, homefry. i've been in plenty of relationships but i'm not sure i really know what love is. someday, someday!
Mutual respect, trust, shared or similar outlooks on life, and COMMUNICATION. That is a big one. You can't be afraid to discuss things or shut people out- but at the same time you have to be aware of your audience and what stage you may be in said relationship.
Who you need may not be who you think you want right now. Love pops up in unexpected places and hits you in the head like a mallet. I never thought I would meet someone online and here we are coming up on our 4th anniversary. I was in no way immediately attracted to him- it was after talking, realizing we had been talking for hours easily making each other laugh and smile, that I started noticing him in a different light. People can surprise you.
Good luck!