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14 years ago
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Today is the 2 year anniversary of the house fire that took the lives of both my grandmother and my aunt.
Something I've realized on here is that people tend to get all bent out of shape over things that are relatively small... rather than to be thankful for the things they do have.
I'll admit to whining/complaining on here; I realize people need to vent... but I find it utterly disrespectful to the people who care for you to say that "your life is over", etc etc... Basically, if you don't want to actually talk about it, why say anything in a public area? Can't you write in a RL diary and get the same effect, minus the people asking, "Whats wrong? D:" and trying to get you to talk about it? (Sorry if you take this personally, I see too many of these journals, and I do feel the need to say something.)
If you genuinely feel that your life is over, look around... realize that there is plenty to live for-- you just have to actually stand up on your own two legs and keep moving. No sense in sitting and dwelling on the past-- the past won't change. You're the one who has to get up and be a stronger person.
I feel like I've grown so much in the two short years since the death of my grandmother-- When she passed away, I remember that she and I were NOT on speaking terms... I had gone so far as to tell her I never wanted to see her again. That still haunts me to this day, because I could have been a better person and just told her that I loved her and was simply angry with her... but instead, I wanted to make her hurt. And I did... I just didn't realize that she would no longer be in my life at all come the next day. I went through the biggest battle of my life after that... I felt absolutely AWFUL... I thoroughly considered suicide... but what would that do? Nothing. It wouldn't bring back the two people who died... and would have likely killed my dad. He had just lost the only 2 people in his family (parents, siblings, etc) that he had anything much to do with, and losing his first child would certainly not help.
So, again, I ask... what in the world REALLY makes a person think life is over? Loss of a pet? Debt? These things are small and temporary... unfortunate, but manageable. Please think of the people who care for you when you get into these moods...
Something I've realized on here is that people tend to get all bent out of shape over things that are relatively small... rather than to be thankful for the things they do have.
I'll admit to whining/complaining on here; I realize people need to vent... but I find it utterly disrespectful to the people who care for you to say that "your life is over", etc etc... Basically, if you don't want to actually talk about it, why say anything in a public area? Can't you write in a RL diary and get the same effect, minus the people asking, "Whats wrong? D:" and trying to get you to talk about it? (Sorry if you take this personally, I see too many of these journals, and I do feel the need to say something.)
If you genuinely feel that your life is over, look around... realize that there is plenty to live for-- you just have to actually stand up on your own two legs and keep moving. No sense in sitting and dwelling on the past-- the past won't change. You're the one who has to get up and be a stronger person.
I feel like I've grown so much in the two short years since the death of my grandmother-- When she passed away, I remember that she and I were NOT on speaking terms... I had gone so far as to tell her I never wanted to see her again. That still haunts me to this day, because I could have been a better person and just told her that I loved her and was simply angry with her... but instead, I wanted to make her hurt. And I did... I just didn't realize that she would no longer be in my life at all come the next day. I went through the biggest battle of my life after that... I felt absolutely AWFUL... I thoroughly considered suicide... but what would that do? Nothing. It wouldn't bring back the two people who died... and would have likely killed my dad. He had just lost the only 2 people in his family (parents, siblings, etc) that he had anything much to do with, and losing his first child would certainly not help.
So, again, I ask... what in the world REALLY makes a person think life is over? Loss of a pet? Debt? These things are small and temporary... unfortunate, but manageable. Please think of the people who care for you when you get into these moods...
Today was lame, and has left me in a foul mood. And I think about what exactly my problems are, and say to myself, "It could be worse. These are all manageable things that lots of people would love to have to deal with if they were their only problems. They are just First World Problems, so quit yer bitching," and feel.. Well, I still feel pissed off, but it helps take the edge off.
I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for giving me another reason to call a few of my family members, just to say hi.
I'm glad that my loss can help others-- I do call my family often now that I no longer live with them... never know when they'll be gone for good. :c
And everyone has those days, I just feel people should put things more into perspective and realize that 99% of the "untolerable" problems we think we have could be worse and that they're survivable. :)
Or, at least... I want to keep telling myself this. lol