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14 years ago
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So, I just finally bit the bullet and signed up for a Facebook account (because I kinda HAD TO in order to subscribe to stuff on Blip.TV, godammit...), and, when I went to check it out, I...freaked. People I haven't seen in years since I moved to this armpit are there, both friends and enemies. Worse, my ex has been active on it for years now and I recently learned about some of the horrible stuff she said about me there back when we first split up, stuff so bad my parents (also on there) apparently threatened to sue her for defamation of character if she didn't stop (for the record, they didn't tell me it was my ex specifically, saying "it's water under the bridge and we don't want to cause any more problems between you and this person," but since one of the lies was in reference to something I only told her and that backstabbing bitch of a friend of hers, and since my parents wouldn't care less if I hated THAT person or not, process of elimination...).
So...I have a chance to contact people I thought lost to me, if only to show them what a pathetic waste of space I've become since I essentially ditched them in an effort to save a marriage to a woman who told them lies about me in the interim that made me out to be a violent, abusive closet-gay sex fiend (yeah, because someone who is willing to wait 2 TO 4 YEARS BETWEEN LOVEMAKING SESSIONS is an abusive sexual predator), as well as expose myself to the world at large for the failure of humanity I ACTUALLY am, particularly those who previously delighted in my misfortunes when I knew them.
Fuck...I hate social networking.
So...I have a chance to contact people I thought lost to me, if only to show them what a pathetic waste of space I've become since I essentially ditched them in an effort to save a marriage to a woman who told them lies about me in the interim that made me out to be a violent, abusive closet-gay sex fiend (yeah, because someone who is willing to wait 2 TO 4 YEARS BETWEEN LOVEMAKING SESSIONS is an abusive sexual predator), as well as expose myself to the world at large for the failure of humanity I ACTUALLY am, particularly those who previously delighted in my misfortunes when I knew them.
Fuck...I hate social networking.
not only would that be pointless, it's making heck look worse because he'd be sinking to that hosebeast's level and this kind of crap always gets found out. that's literally like the worst thing you could suggest there.
But yeah, first idea to come to mind and I'm frequently on your side. I see no reason why you'd had any of these problems and no reason not to be on your side.
That said, social networking is kind of dumb anyway. People talking shit about each other on-line to the point of risking litigation, getting wrapped up in revealing their personal lives to strangers for no reason and competing for imaginary friends on the Web..mmm.... Ok, so it's a little like FA, but at least FA has art!
Luckily the only thing I have to annoy the crap out of me is two aunts who refuse to call anyone (including my parents who hate email) to keep in touch and comment on EVERYTHING I say like they're wise sages.
To be fair, I do still love my aunts, but its kinda annoying sometimes.
So I recommend HIGHLY working with who you can block seeing your content (very handy!), and who can randomly look you up, and it will be MUCH less stressful. I'm scared shitless someone from high school will find me (and I REALLY don't want to talk to anyone from high school), but after quite a few years (and adding the high school to one of the pages I'm connected with) I've yet to have ANY of them try to contact me. :) which makes me happy
So! Try to take advantage of the pieces that make those of us who are rough with keeping in touch IRL, keep tabs on people they do care about. I find its a very nice tool to ease into talking to someone you've been wanting to talk to.