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How can people be like that?
14 years ago
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How can you look at someone, and automatically assume what their life is like?
Why is it so okay, so socially accepted to mock and ridicule people for being overweight? Why is it okay to assume to that their weight is because they are extremely lazy and gluttonous?
I try to argue with people that many people have a valid reason to be overweight. Many people are born overweight. Many people have a medical condition. My mother has hypogylcemia. They spend their lives exercising daily and counting calories and are still overweight. Even if they aren't born that way, that is how they live, and yet nothing changes.
I know more overweight people who are hardworking and healthy than skinny people I know. The skinniest people I know, are the ones who are the most lazy, gluttonous, and unhealthy.
When I had severe depression and refused to eat, I was complimented on my weight. Even though the doctors told me my low weight could KILL me and I was extremely unhealthy and anemic. WHY would anyone consider that a good thing? Having some fat on you is a sign of good health. Of course it's not good to be morbidly obese, but why would you be so mean to someone who already knows they have a problem? It is an illness. You don't go up to someone who has cancer and treat them like shit because of their cancer. Even if it's their own fault (ie. smoking), smoking is a problem that is very hard to stop, and people go through great lengths to try and quit.
Yet, these people are treated like the scum of the earth on a daily basis. They eat anything and its 'oh look at that fatty eating a sandwich, they need to stop eating sandwiches if they want to stop being a fat lazy ass lolololol!' what if the sandwich is all they had to eat all day, and all they will have eaten for the rest of the day? Some people have a medical condition in which they NEED to eat. They are worrying all the time, they don't need to bullied and judged on a daily basis because of it. Treating someone badly for being fat is like treating someone badly for being gay. Except for with fat, you can't hide it. And both are extremely wrong to hate someone for.
Is it wrong to care about the well-being of strangers? Sometimes it seems like it's wrong to care at all. I get slapped in the face when I try to stand up for others or help them, yet I still do it anyway. Why is so easy to not care for everyone else?
Why is it so okay, so socially accepted to mock and ridicule people for being overweight? Why is it okay to assume to that their weight is because they are extremely lazy and gluttonous?
I try to argue with people that many people have a valid reason to be overweight. Many people are born overweight. Many people have a medical condition. My mother has hypogylcemia. They spend their lives exercising daily and counting calories and are still overweight. Even if they aren't born that way, that is how they live, and yet nothing changes.
I know more overweight people who are hardworking and healthy than skinny people I know. The skinniest people I know, are the ones who are the most lazy, gluttonous, and unhealthy.
When I had severe depression and refused to eat, I was complimented on my weight. Even though the doctors told me my low weight could KILL me and I was extremely unhealthy and anemic. WHY would anyone consider that a good thing? Having some fat on you is a sign of good health. Of course it's not good to be morbidly obese, but why would you be so mean to someone who already knows they have a problem? It is an illness. You don't go up to someone who has cancer and treat them like shit because of their cancer. Even if it's their own fault (ie. smoking), smoking is a problem that is very hard to stop, and people go through great lengths to try and quit.
Yet, these people are treated like the scum of the earth on a daily basis. They eat anything and its 'oh look at that fatty eating a sandwich, they need to stop eating sandwiches if they want to stop being a fat lazy ass lolololol!' what if the sandwich is all they had to eat all day, and all they will have eaten for the rest of the day? Some people have a medical condition in which they NEED to eat. They are worrying all the time, they don't need to bullied and judged on a daily basis because of it. Treating someone badly for being fat is like treating someone badly for being gay. Except for with fat, you can't hide it. And both are extremely wrong to hate someone for.
Is it wrong to care about the well-being of strangers? Sometimes it seems like it's wrong to care at all. I get slapped in the face when I try to stand up for others or help them, yet I still do it anyway. Why is so easy to not care for everyone else?
if any of my friends did such stupidity, i wuld tell them to stop it right away... and if they continues, then ill leave them cuz ill know that they arent my friends cuz they dont respect my feelings/opinions (let alone the others own feelings/opinions)...
Older people don't act out as much in an obvious way, because their professors/bosses/etc don't tolerate that kind of behavior.
But they still feel the same way as they did as children/teens and it shows. Adults are just as judemental as children, they just don't act on it as loudly.
I mean, I wasn't taught to care about people in a direct way. It was only because of my experienced I gained empathy. If things have gone differently, I could have very well been just as ignorant as everyone else. I do feel it should be taught more often though. A lot of children are never taught that they are wrong in how they treat others, and so they grow up to continue thinking things like, fat people are all lazy, and depressed people just need to suck it up and stop being sad.
the only problem is that if we try to teach that to parents... well its a 50-50 the way i sees it... they can either say "sure, ill see what i can do to stop this and teach my children to respect" or "who are YOU to tell ME what to do with my children or HOW to raise them!"... sometimes you might get the "they're just kids... thats how they play... dont worry about them" talk from a few...
and as for adults... in my opinion, its harder for them to change cuz their feelings and thoughts are pretty well rooted into their minds... so its harder to get them to co-op and stop them from doing this... not saying that it isnt impossible or that children are much easier either...
It just weirds me out how fixated on weight society is.
I don't know why people are so cruel, it's not going to help people lose weight. It'll only make it worse. A lot of people are bullied in school because of their weight, which can cause depression, and with depression comes an extreme lack of willpower. Many people go the opposite I did, and end up eating more and gaining a lot of weight from depression, and then people criticize them more, so then they'd eat more, and it becomes an endless cycle.
The obsession with being thin weirds me out too. Being thin can be worse than being obese. It does a lot of damage to your heart too. Why would we idealize, pretty much the signs of dying? It makes no sense, and it isn't very good looking to me. But I think fat people can look good, and not necessarily be unhealthy either.
And even if they are the kind that just sits and eat ice cream all day, good for them, if they are happy. Sure they'll probably die very early, but if that's what they wanna do and if it's not hurting anyone, then fine. No one criticizes daredevils even though what they are doing can kill them too.
I remember you said people called you fat. Which is ridiculous because you are thinner than I am, so when people do stuff like that it makes me feel self-conscious too. A friend of mine keeps calling themselves fat, and they don't seem to realize that by calling themselves fat, they are also calling me fat, as well as pretty much everyone else around them.
I think the main issue is people just outright refuse to look at things from another persons perspective. Which is something I try to do about everything. Life would be a lot happier for everyone if people just considered what its like for others. Life is hard for everyone, no need to make it worse for others.
Obesity is unhealthy, but so is the opposite. What a lot of people don't realise is that to be fat enough to have health issues, you need to be pretty damn fat - and even then, if it's genetically out of your control, being mocked by people won't do anything to help.
My faith in humanity was somewhat restored when UK modelling agencies banned size 0 models from working for them. And then restored further when an old school friend of mine, who was always on the larger side by sheer fact of genetics, started, and is now running, her own fashion design agency expressly directed at creating fashionable clothes for "plus size women" - proving that you don't have to be a stick figure, or squeeze into a too-small dress, to be attractive.
The only thing that annoys me is when I encounter the occasional person who's overweight because they're lazy. By which I don't mean too lazy to exercise, I mean too lazy for work; benefits for morbidly obese people should only be for those who have a medical or genetic condition causing said problem, and not those who ate themselves fat to get out of doing any work.