Sexual orientation and gender identity.

Please stop confusing the two.

I admit, it is confusing, especially with all the jokes that like to be said about being a "lesbian trapped in a man's body". These jokes are made so often that people seem to be unable to grasp the idea that this is, in fact, possible. You can be both transgender and homosexual, transgender and bisexual, nullgender and homosexual, etc.

On that note ... I am bigender. I feel both male and female, some days more male, some days more female.

I am also homosexual.

Now here's where it gets confusing. To say I am only attracted to those of the same sex is a bit of an oxymoron ... I am attracted to both men and women. However, the thought of heterosexual intercourse actually disgusts me in some ways. In order to be in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex, that person would have to treat me in almost every way, shape, form, and most especially in our bedroom life, as if I were of the same sex. Since I've yet to meet someone that open-minded, I'm not going to change my ways. I'm proud of being bigender and I'm proud of being gay and I dream of a world where your sex and gender don't matter so long as you love the person you're with.

Bottom line ... Gender is in your mind. Sex is in your pants. Both determine who you're attracted to, but sex determines who you're comfortable with.

tl;dr: Don't tell me what my sexual orientation is.