Speak away.

first ever boyfriend and not even 3 days since we decided to date and suddenly he's fawning over someone else and not only that but as soon as I try to start a conversation he suddenly ignores me. We've know each other for 3 years and they barely knew this person for 2 days and then suddenly mutual posts everywhere about how they're such best friends and how happy they make each other.

so I ignore him for this whole week, and I realize how much better I feel accepting I no longer hold feelings for him but then nope out of no where he says he wants to talk and I was hoping he'd get the hint I just don't feel the same for him anymore.

gosh I really needed to get this off my chest for a while

If you have moved on, then I don't see the problem. Tell him you've moved on, that you don't want to be part of his drama, and let that be that. If, however, you are interested in talking to him, maybe there is another side to it. People like new things. You say you were friends for a long time, but then this other person is brand new to him. She's new, and intriguing, and there's lots about her to find out. After that blows over, he may find he's still more interested in you. My point is, hear him out if you have any doubts about being moved on, but stand your ground if you are certain you are better off without him.

I still doubt he's more interested in me but seeing as I know how predictable his train of thought is he's gonna put all the blame on me then on himself and back to me. God I hate his vicious cycle of blaming people and disguising it as self loathing. I'm way better off without him but ugh I don't know why I even put up with his emotionally greedy ass. Not even once did we ever have a conversation where it wasn't about sex or he didn't make me cry over something I think I did wrong. I'm sorry I'm dumping this all on you jsdfasdfhsd I never actually told anyone any of this, because he's so afraid of his mom and sister finding out we're dating because they know me, that should have been the first hint he was gonna a be a pompous ass. But gosh thanks for listening, the next time I talk to him he's either gonna have to change his act or we're through for good, already as a couple and as friends because even then I was treated like crap.

I'm not going to discourage you from rekindling a broken friendship. But it sounds like you are definitely better off without him romantically. Don't let yourself get pulled into something bad for you just out of the want for stability or comfort. I have, and it doesn't end pretty.

Don't worry about dumping things on me. I'm a good listener, and I like to be able to be a shoulder or ear for anyone who needs comfort, consoling, or just someone to listen and agree with them.

Truth is that I don't really expect to break off the friendship, I'm too easy on him anyway but chances are he'll want nothing to do with me afterwards, all his relationships end badly, I kind of regret going out with him in the first place.

Maybe it will be different this time. Talk to him, and see if you can make things go back to the way they were before you dated?

hat's the best case scenario but I'm gonna hope for the best!

thank you so much for this really!♥

Any time, hun.

I hope everything works out okay for you. :)