I never wanted to go through this sort of thing. I had always felt that someone who could actually understand me would last in a relationship for at least a year. Things didn't work out, and now I'm having a dissolution of my marriage. I'm not going after any special custody of my son, and she is going to have him living with her. To be somewhat considerate of schedules and gas, I voiced out that I wouldn't be too big on visits at least until she's out of college. We're at least on speaking terms, we can laugh a little, but we just need to move on.