So i begin the search!

I've been looking around and so far i've only seen a couple furry servers that are private and look legitimate. About six or seven ive seen seem to be full of greiving and destruction (as per one server owner who got mad and rolled back the server 3 days, destroying a good 10-12 hours of a buddy and mine's work because of someone else being stupid). So if any of you guys have either a private server (prefferably whitelisted) or know someone that does, send me a note or comment or something. I really want a good place to be able to work and not worry about anybody destroying work.