1) It starts with realizing that you are broken. You can't fix something if you don't know it is broken.

2) You then need to stop letting your ego run the show. Let go of it. Thinking "If I don't do something about (insert thing that you see as a problem), who will?" is your ego talking. You aren't that important. The world does not pivot on your actions. If worrying about that problem is making you sick, let go. It isn't your problem and it isn't your responsibility. Do the small things that you can, but don't expect yourself to solve these things alone. You cannot shoulder the burden of the worlds problems single-handedly.

3) Let go of holding in your emotions all the time. You can't be afraid of feeling sad, angry, etc. Suppressing what you want to feel will only frustrate you in the long-run and add more stress to your life. Don't be afraid to listen to a song/ watch a movie/ read a book that makes you cry. If that is what you want to do, just feel that and enjoy the release.

4) Let go of your fear of what other people think of you. Stop telling yourself "I don't care what other people think of me." while simultaneously expecting people to accept you for who you are. The two ideas are fundamentally opposed. Just stop caring if people will accept you or not. If other people have a problem with some facet of your personality, unless you also believe that that facet of your personality is a problem, then there is nothing you can do about it. What other people say, do, and think is not a problem you can fix (See step 2). You need to accept that that is a problem that you are not going to fix and it is not your responsibility to fix, and let go of it.

I'll add more steps as I find them for myself. To say the least, I have realized a lot about myself in the last few days and have built off of those realizations to change myself into a happier and more functional person. It's still a work in progress (I wouldn't say that I have changed my true name yet), but it is progress.