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13 years ago
This is sort of a strange place to post this, but I do consider at least some of you to be friends and right now it would be very difficult for me to go through and tell people individually.
Also, I feel like I need to explain, because I know that I'm going to be emotionally in a rough spot for a bit and may need to cut back on the number of commissions that I take for at least a few weeks while I get my head together. I also sort of expect myself to be irritable and while I don't think that's an excuse to be rude to anyone, I guess I'm asking for patience if it seem a bit abrupt.
My mom died on friday night/saturday morning. I say both because she actually died on friday, but doctors kept her on a ventilator for about an hour and she wasn't officially dead until shortly after midnight.
I am currently in NY handling funeral arrangements, The funeral is tomorrow morning. Well, 8 hours or so from now. I will probably go home to NC on friday or saturday, not sure yet. I need to work and whatnot, but am reluctant to be away from my friends and family here.
I am very close to my mom. She's one of my best friends and a very important part of my life. I miss her very much. She was only 54 and her death was very sudden and unexpected. She basically got sick and tired and then her heart gave out.
I understand that a lot of people turn to religious or spiritual things for comfort in times like this but she and I are both atheists and I'd prefer not to hear about it, even if you have the best of intentions. I can handle it coming from my grandmother but not from strangers or casual acquaintances. It's over, she's gone, her life speaks for itself.
Thank you for the time you took to read this.
--Owen
Also, I feel like I need to explain, because I know that I'm going to be emotionally in a rough spot for a bit and may need to cut back on the number of commissions that I take for at least a few weeks while I get my head together. I also sort of expect myself to be irritable and while I don't think that's an excuse to be rude to anyone, I guess I'm asking for patience if it seem a bit abrupt.
My mom died on friday night/saturday morning. I say both because she actually died on friday, but doctors kept her on a ventilator for about an hour and she wasn't officially dead until shortly after midnight.
I am currently in NY handling funeral arrangements, The funeral is tomorrow morning. Well, 8 hours or so from now. I will probably go home to NC on friday or saturday, not sure yet. I need to work and whatnot, but am reluctant to be away from my friends and family here.
I am very close to my mom. She's one of my best friends and a very important part of my life. I miss her very much. She was only 54 and her death was very sudden and unexpected. She basically got sick and tired and then her heart gave out.
I understand that a lot of people turn to religious or spiritual things for comfort in times like this but she and I are both atheists and I'd prefer not to hear about it, even if you have the best of intentions. I can handle it coming from my grandmother but not from strangers or casual acquaintances. It's over, she's gone, her life speaks for itself.
Thank you for the time you took to read this.
--Owen
If there is anything you need, let me know, anything at all.
Whatever pain your mother was suffering can't harm her anymore. Never forget that she loves you.
All my friends' parents seem to be ill or dying... it makes me worry at times.
PEACE BROTHER
*hugs tights*
We are here if you need us, and will help you as best we can should you need it.
Do what you must.
I'm a grave digger in NYC, just curious which cemetery you've got a plot in.
Good luck grieving, Owen. <3
If there's anything I can do to help, let me know; and I'm always around to listen if you want to talk, of course.
Deepest condolences. If you need to talk, I'm always available.
I'm sorry like everyone else, and however you feel is completely understandable given your situation. Best of luck getting through it and coming out of it a better, stronger person.
I have a friend who went through a very similar experience, his own mom with whom he was very close died suddenly and unexpectedly. It's a period of time that's full of unanswered questions and attempts at making sense of the situation but having trouble. I'm not religious myself either, I hear you on not wanting to hear the heaven jibe. It kind of cheapens the grieving process.
I wish I knew you better so I knew what to say or whatever, but from a sort-of stranger on the net... *HUG*
Ah well.
I hope you feel better soon badgerface. Believe it or not, you're probably a bit lucky here. I had to go through my dad dying of brain cancer, and I'd rather have had a quick, unexpected death than that lingering horribleness any day.