There are other variations of that same question, such as "Am I good in bed?" And it is a question that is nearly impossible to get a straight answer to. Okay, you might get an honest answer if it's from a partner in a long-term relationship, but outside of that, 99 times out of a hundred, people are going to say "yes". Maybe it's true, maybe not. Very few people will tell you you're a lousy lover unless they're trying to say something hurtful, in which case it could just as likely be false for the opposite reason.

So here's a different idea. Virtually no one is such a phenomenally talented lover that they couldn't possibly do any better. And virtually no one is such a lousy lover that you can't possibly point to something they did right. So if we ever have an occasion to be lovers, don't tell me if I'm a good lover. That way I won't have to wonder if you're telling the truth, and you won't have to lie to me if I'm not. Instead, tell me something about it I did well and something about it I should try to improve upon. I'll gladly do the same for you. We can repeat as many times as we're comfortable with. That way we both get our egos stroked while learning something in the process.

If you agree with the above, feel free to repost it to your own journal.