PLEASE READ!!! I'm in need of guidance >.<
13 years ago
So, here's my dilemma. For starters, I'm currently living with my parents and have been for the last few years since I've had to move back home. Anyways, on Sunday, my dad and I had a big blowup over who does what with the laundry (which is is only real job around the house). Now I know this may seem trivial but there is reason behind it. For years, this man has pawned off nearly everything he has to do around the house onto me. Now, if I wasn't paying anything in rent or something, I could understand taking on the work in lue of payment but that's not the case. I pay rent, I pay for my personal bills, food, gas, etc. in other words, I pay my way. He's just a lazy fuck who will take any chance to not do anything but drink beer and watch tv.
So anyways, we had a big fight, he kicked me out for the night and basically told me to pack my shit and leave for good. Well, my mom smoothed it over enough for me to come back home but my dad and I haven't spoken a single word to each other other than needed.
Ever since that night, there has been a heavy air of hostility in the house and I can't take it anymore. I must get out of that house. It's no longer a home. But here's my problem. I have no where to go in my area. All my friends either don't have the space for me or are such douchbags that they won't give up the space. So I'm left with two options.
1. Move down to Texas to move in with my mate.
2. Find a studio apt and tough it out till my mate can move up to me.
With moving down to Texas means I have to start over completely. I have never lived outside the SE Wisconsin area. Also, I have to leave my job which took me a long time to find a job I like. Also, I have never lived with someone whom I'm romantically involved with. So this whole situation is incredably frightening to me but at the same time it could be just what I need.
The other option is to stay here and get a studio apt (cause it's all i can afford on my own) and hold tight till my mate can come up here which was our original plan. But I know what studio apts are like around here and they are FUCKING RATHOLES!!! I should know, I work on enough of them.
But all in all, the only things keeping me in Wisconsin is a decent job, my best friend and my stained glass store. Other than that, there ain't much else.
So what I ask all of you is to not tell me what to do but more what would you do? I just need some unbiased opinions right now.
Also, to all whom I promised badges to, they are on indefinite hold till I figure out what the hell I'm gonna do.
So anyways, we had a big fight, he kicked me out for the night and basically told me to pack my shit and leave for good. Well, my mom smoothed it over enough for me to come back home but my dad and I haven't spoken a single word to each other other than needed.
Ever since that night, there has been a heavy air of hostility in the house and I can't take it anymore. I must get out of that house. It's no longer a home. But here's my problem. I have no where to go in my area. All my friends either don't have the space for me or are such douchbags that they won't give up the space. So I'm left with two options.
1. Move down to Texas to move in with my mate.
2. Find a studio apt and tough it out till my mate can move up to me.
With moving down to Texas means I have to start over completely. I have never lived outside the SE Wisconsin area. Also, I have to leave my job which took me a long time to find a job I like. Also, I have never lived with someone whom I'm romantically involved with. So this whole situation is incredably frightening to me but at the same time it could be just what I need.
The other option is to stay here and get a studio apt (cause it's all i can afford on my own) and hold tight till my mate can come up here which was our original plan. But I know what studio apts are like around here and they are FUCKING RATHOLES!!! I should know, I work on enough of them.
But all in all, the only things keeping me in Wisconsin is a decent job, my best friend and my stained glass store. Other than that, there ain't much else.
So what I ask all of you is to not tell me what to do but more what would you do? I just need some unbiased opinions right now.
Also, to all whom I promised badges to, they are on indefinite hold till I figure out what the hell I'm gonna do.
But I look at it this way, I have a very steady job that keeps me busy with different stuff everyday. Plus, I'm allowed to wear my headphones at work (very rare for factory work). I have steady hours (plus the outlook of over time) benefits (which I've never had before) and decent pay. This has been what i've been looking for ever since I joined the working world. It's ain't glamorous, but I like it and there's much growth potential.
Also, I'll leave behind my glass store if I move to Texas. and I have no idea where I'll be able to find supplies around there and even if it's close to where my mate lives. If I got to drive 50+ miles just to find supplies, I may have to give up my craft at that point.
Now I don't say all this to denounce what you've said. I'll just simply playing Devil's Advocate and placing counterpoints out there.
A change of scenery does a man good and to have your mate just sweetens things