My best advice I got from a very wise friend. Just start by being a friend to a few people. You'll find someone as you look carefully and get to know them. I tend to be naturally very selective about who I'm with and trying to find just anyone I'm okay with talking to is hard enough. And honestly, those who just want casual sex or random flings, tend towards the slightly shallow I've found. Just be very, very careful.

no advice have I. sorry! I've never dated anyone so i'm in the dark!

Gosh, you and I are in basically the exact same situation, minus the dead end job. (I make less money as I am unemployed :/ ) Conservative town, check. Living with parents, check. Dated a girl in high school and is now into guys, check. Has no idea how to hit on guys without being ridiculed or beat up, check. Is lonely and sick of it, check. I've even signed up for websites with limited success. I guess I'm really the lest helpfull commenter you'll read because I'm seeking the same advice.

It's nice to know I'm not alone.

I'm kind of the same

Conservative/catholic town, in the back of beyond, a 6 hour trip to get to the nearest city unless I get a plane.
I have a job, it has good prospects but I've tried going the management route before and the amount of BS you have to put up with is depressing.
I have met a couple of guys through online dating sites, but they were really just quick fling, it was when I first started experimenting with guys a couple of years back.
I still live with my mother, she knows that I'm bi... That was an awkward convo, lol. I didn't come out to her she just happened to notice a message on Facebook that one of my furry friends left, and actually came and asked me, 'are you gay?'
I have gone out with a couple of girls since, but I more or less just fell into that relationship and while we still get on really well the relationships just fell flat on their face due to... some personal issues on both sides.

I've never really been the type to just 'go for it' and see what happens, while I don't fear rejection and I'm more than happy to make an ass of myself in public, especially when I've been drinking; I don't want to make an ass of myself and then get rejected. You find that in small communities like mine all the good people you might like to have a relationship with, are already taken. But I've been going out a lot more fequently, meeting new people, finding out new things about people I already new. Found out last night that my neighbour is actually gay, I've known him for 2-3 years now, we aren't best buds or anything but you'd be surprised what you can find out about people, especially when your talking and your both half cut. He's a cute guy but... a little unusual. Might give it a go with him, but I honestly don't see a long term relationship there.

So while I'm no expert on dating, but I know exactly where you coming from my friend. I would love to meet another furry up here and I'd really try to make it work if we got along, it would save a very, very strange and awkward convo. Lol. But if it were me trying to see how the felt about it, I would act like you stumbled upon a site with a few pics of people in fur suits and what not and see just how the person reacted to it. Make sure to show them what you want them to see, just to get them into the idea and get a good judgement on the situation and then once you're sure their okay with I'd probably let it slip about myy furryness. Then take baby steps introducing them to it. I wouldn't force them into the fandom, but I'd like them to have accept that part of me.

Man this turned into a really long post, lol. Hopefully some of it will be useful to you, I just know I got a bit of enjoyment writing it.
-M

Open yourself more. Thinking positive. Making yourself being part of his life.

Personality taking part a lot in this. People always prefer guy who is funny and comfortable to talk to than a gloomy one.

Don't expect much of what you right man would be. Sometime your right person may stand on the opposite side of what you think of your perfect guy. All you need is time to understand each other.

In the end, we only want someone who we can share our life with, right?


PS.I dated a girl before and I clearly said that I like anthro and she just said 'Oh, those monster thing look cool'. Everything settle :P

be positive, open up some, show them love with little things.
go with feeling for person you like and might take time.
I had one serious relationship but last about 3 years i'm not going in to it. I been heart broken many times but doesn't stop me but still try and try.There is someone out there for you hun and always remember the good times had with them.

Dude have you tried maybe  gayfurries ? I talked to the admin there and would be happy to help and offer advice. I am also coming out that I might be gay and love guys only. I have never been in a relationship with a girl. I love having fun with guys in bed. I am scared of getting into a relationship with a guy. I don't know how to talk to a gay guy. What social cue do you use to talk to a gay? What could this guy bring into my life? Should I think of him as a friend or should I think of him as someone more? How do you ..find the one? I have never been in a relationship outside the fandom. I am afraid to ask if it is fine to add you on an IM you got it if you want to talk further. I am happy to help in any capacity possible and help each other since I am confused still who I am.

Also I don't know if my words help at all but I do what i can. Love is a hard thing to understand. Whether it be with a man or a woman I can assume. Just wish I could come up with the right answers for you dude. All I can really think is a phrase I know from a famous teacher that
"You must take chances, make mistakes and get messy."
I believe that is something to think about when life comes your way. Take the whole dating thing at a pace and within time you can find that special you are looking for.

Advice? Well, I've never dated before, but, two good skills to learn would be observation and perception. One thing that may blow meetings is a lack of perception due to little or no observation. Really, chance encounters are rare at best, so it's good to make your own. And trust me, even if you aren't a bar type of person... sometimes, it's good to break out of your comfort area. You never know, you might get lucky *winks*

You and I am in the same situation with the love thing and being lonely. All that. My suggestion is try being more out there and if you have feelings for people that don't already have mates. try getting to know them and let them to get to know you. then after awhile of knowing said perosn. Try hooking up with them.

After 8 years lonely, I've now got a potential girlfriend, she doesn't know about the furry thing yet, kinda tried to drop the hints but it isn't being noticed x.x;

Anyway, I think you are just gonna have to keep trying in your locale to find a partner, best thing is just to make lots of friends
friends end up knowing friends who are single and shit.

Now Artizek, I understand that you want more than just a friend, but why don't you cultivate some friends first? Both myself and MW would love to be your friends.

Also, you know I wasn't looking for someone, honey. He found me.

Hmph well i guess same situation here :\ in high school i never really cared much about love and stuff too even others already walk around with their bf or gf -.-
This feeling later sucks pretty much...im still in search for any advices too...and the person i like and well care about live far away from me -.- *sigh* nothing can be easy for us...but anyways Artizek ya not alone so dont worry

I think what you need is not necessarily a lover, but an intimate companion.

At boarding school, I felt no need to have a mate or lover whatsoever because I had friends who were like family to me. One of them even shared a room with me. I felt that I could confide anything with them, and they were more than willing to help me whenever I had problems. They were willing outlets to my creativity and sense of dry humor and more than willing to engage with me. Sometimes we would even go out to get coffee or play games or eat at a restaurant together.

My suggestion is to get together with a friend. Just call up someone you know, even if you don't know them that well, and invite them to go grab a bite sometime. Even if they're not terribly close, in this day and age people are eager to get out now and again. They'll be glad you're breaking up the monotony

Once you become more content and less needy, your aura will reveal you to be a happy stable person. This, somewhat ironically, will attract more potential mates to you. They come to you when you stop looking.

I have friends but not many that I've opened up with about my sexuality. They're good people, but I feel like I can't really talk things like this over with them.

Doesn't need to be someone you can confide in, necessarily. Just someone whose presence you find agreeable.

If all else fails, pick a friend who seems open-minded and trustworthy and just share with them. Chances are, such a person will already know or suspect, so it'll be nothing to worry about.

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This!

Can I borrow this and edit it to fit my situation? While I don't live with my parents (nothing wrong with that!), I'm shy to the point of awkward. I don't make the first move and when I do I generally fail. Look at the guy I'm currently getting over. It's definitely not a rebound as it's been over three years since my last ex and over eight since my friend and he seems to just want a quick fuck (not to mention we live 3000 miles away from each other). A good portion of my friends and colleagues are either married or involved. Plus my recent ex was female and she was that first that is always difficult to get over. Yet, the general thought I get is I should have just picked up and moved on years ago. So in the guy department, he'd bhave to deal with someone who is still somewhat new to this and at my age very few guys want to sit through the tutorial. Again. Which your going to have to do with me cause when I say stop, you're going to have to stop or get a fist to the face.

Two points to add:
1. The friend suggestion is great. I tend to cope with things on my own, so I don't seek out companionship. Hanging out with friends is great and is a wonderful tide-over, but at the same time I understand that it's definitely no substitute for a more intimate relationship.

2. Be careful if there are friends who would be willing to take things to a more intimate level. My ex-girlfriend is such a case. When we split, I didn't just lose a lover, a lost a best friend. I have a friend nearby that I worry about ending up with just by default. I value him as a friend and really don't want to ruin things. There's other minor issues as well.

I kind of want to tell this girl I dated in high school, "Look what you did to me!! I'm a bisexual furry now!!"