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In Mourning...
17 years ago
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"Si quid per iocum dixi, nolito in serium convertere."
("If I have said anything in jest, do not turn it into a serious thing.") -Plautus
"Si quid per iocum dixi, nolito in serium convertere."
("If I have said anything in jest, do not turn it into a serious thing.") -Plautus
Yesterday my grandfather passed away after a slow and very long death from dementia (a form of Alzhiemer's). As any of you who are in, or have been in this situation, or have a loved one suffering from this terrible disease knows that it is slow death in which the person's mind gradually deteriorates and every memory, every experiance he/she has of you and everyone else, including themselves, disapears forever, and the helplessness of knowing that it'll only get worse, and that there isn't a thing you can do about it! It's like their soul is dying, and leaving only a living shell behind. Life is more than just a heartbeat, it is living, feeling, experiancing, both the good and bad things. Merely existing, is not enough. I can't think of more worse way to go.
No matter how much you run the inevitable senarios in you head, no matter how much you dreadfully anticipated this day would arrive, no matter how much you counsole yourself that "his/her suffering is finally over, and that he/she is in a better place," nothing can ever prepare you for that awful news.
All that is left now is photographs and memories.
"...All those memories, gone,....like, tears in the rain."
Namu Amida Butsu and God Bless.
-EK Goya
No matter how much you run the inevitable senarios in you head, no matter how much you dreadfully anticipated this day would arrive, no matter how much you counsole yourself that "his/her suffering is finally over, and that he/she is in a better place," nothing can ever prepare you for that awful news.
All that is left now is photographs and memories.
"...All those memories, gone,....like, tears in the rain."
Namu Amida Butsu and God Bless.
-EK Goya
going slowly is very painful to all those around and then those left behind.
We are with you if you need us. If you want to you can hold are hands.
not sonding offensive or hurtful toward the deceased, but for your family's sake its a bit less pain and suffering for you all to not have him suffering the loss of more of his memories and emotions in that sense...because when ya realize yer not able to help at all it ties and drains a person more and more...am i wrong?
i wish your grandfather a good passage into his next life though....i'll not say anything like "he's in a better place " or stupid crap like that...as we're not ascertain of such, ne?.....but hope he his next life is not a difficult one or at least a fun one for him^_^....and who knows, maybe in his next life...you guys can meet again, even if not known ;)
....................okay i'm semi rambling now.....if ya need someone to chat with at al, feel free to pkoe my messenger anytime alright dude? *hugs tightly*
i'm usually around ;)
My Great Grandmother last year in February passed away, and a week or two before her death, she began to forget who I was, and it all pained me to go into her room and see her like that.
God, and she acted like shes never known me before, forgetting who all of my family were...
I'm going to give you my pride in you.
You showed love, character, devotion and strength by staying with him, helping, simply being there for him. For THAT, you should be commended, highly.
Its NEVER easy to loose someone, no matter the circumstances surrounding it. But you faced that long, hard, heartbreaking road in a manner well befitting the Man I'll bet Gramps always wished you'd be.
I'd say you did well by your Gramps... and if he'd known how you'd treat him in those later times, I'm SURE he'd've told you himself.
I know exactly how you feel, and have only seen my grandmother a few times in as many years... Know that your grandfather's passing cannot and should not take away the joy that your good memories of time spent with them. That is his legacy - how you have chosen to remember him.
My heart goes out to you.
I am here to help if you ever need or want it ^.^, please take care