awww im sorri, but hey i was there too and sadly i didnt find any guys to make friends with also

The SF Pride was today? So was Toronto Pride. That's kinda intresting. Sorry about the burns and not metting any new friends though! That sucks!

-_- It was??? Awww.... well its not like I would have been able to go anyways. lol. To bad, well theres always next time.

Too bad Pride only screws things up for people like me. :I

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You see, saying "I'm gay" now carries a bunch of unwanted baggage with it. I try to keep my private life private when I've found someone or some people to bone with, but when things get boring it can be difficult to find someone new. Okay, so how do I solve that problem? I ask my friends and some acquaintances I've met if they know of anyone else who's into dudes (I'm bi, but I'm much too scared to have sex with a chick), but only if the person I ask seems remotely okay with it.

Not a big deal so far, right? But asking the question, especially to people I don't know too well, will often result in them chucking out some random stereotypes. "Oh, I know this beautiful hairstylist who I think is into BDSM.." as though every queer is into that sort of thing, openly and publicly, like its some kind of common pastime. Whether or not I'm into it is irrelevant, because people constantly think I must be some kind of supersubbybitchboi whenever I go home at night, that I have amazing fashion sense and care what other people wear, that I know all about fucking "chi" and interior house design, and that I have genital warts and am a cesspool of social diseases.

And I'm not. I'm entirely safe with my sex, I almost exclusively wear big sweaters and loose shirts with the word "NO" on them (for some reason), and I think the concept of chi and house design is a big waste of money. Yes, I am a bitchboi, okay, fine, whatever.. but I keep it to myself. :I

The problem is that the the majority of the various 'colourful' people who attend the fucking parade think they're speaking on my behalf, and they blurt out such stereotyping phrases like "We're here, we're queer, get used to it" to justify themselves to the multitude of idiots that watch these parades and think "Oh, those gays, they're so strong to stand up to injustice!" In turn, this makes it insanely annoying to deal with anyone, homophobic or homotolerant, and just adds a layer of complexity to making friends.

So what do I do? I hide my sexuality amongst the public, because to be anything other than straight endangers me of being placed into that awful "hivemind" mentality that is the Queer Movement.

Additionally, I also have a friend who has a natural lisp, and he's immediately labeled as the queen of queens wherever he goes. Here, take a look at his journal post for a big rant about why Pride is, at least to many of us, a load of bull: http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/411925/

I: Also, I don't mean to be angry at all. I'm just stating my opinion in a long-winded manner. No hard feelings towards you are meant; you're just enjoying yourself, which is fine and dandy. :3

Oh I definitely see some of what's wrong with the whole thing. One of the "Friends" I was with got completely drunk, as did all the rest of his friends, and then used the parade as an excuse to form a five person dance pile of grinding crotches.
I value any situation I can be open in though, even if I don't want to act like an idiot.

And I completely agree. :3 Nice, open events where you can be yourself are just fine and dandy. I just wish this whole parade thing wasn't being used as a stupid way to push stupid agendas.

I went to the pride parade last year. NOT where I would try to meet a guy xD

Yeah, they did seem pretty rowdy and slutty as a bunch :v but I'm sure there were one or two good ones in there somewhere.

But of course, we've been there right? :P

Besides us I mean!

puahahaha <3

well don't worry your little head... there arn't many cute guys that will talk to the gay comunity over here in the center of new englind... of corse or older then me too and are probably more capable of getting a boyfriend n.n;;

England or New England?

sorry... its after 4am and i doing have my barings... V.V new england

Darn, real England is so much better 3: British accents are <3

i am part british... >.> well my aunt says i am anyways... but i can talk like that sometimes n.n;;

Yes, I'm not a big fan of reinforcing stereotypes...

Huh?

you said, "Yeah, they did seem pretty rowdy and slutty as a bunch." I do not find that appealing either. I think that is a stereotype. But my opinions are typically uneducated and poorly expressed. However, I recommend some aloe vera for that sunburn or any cream or lotion with vitamin E, drink lots of water, and try to keep the water temperature low on your showers. :)

That's not a stereotype, it's an observation. At the parade the most evident behavior was a general sexual mood, people making a lot of contact, people smoking a lot of different things. I also stated that I'm sure there were some good guys in the lot.

Slap me some skin Bruddah!

I hope you had fun otherwise. What was it like? Some other people I knew went a few years ago also mentioned the heat and said they didn't know how those guys in leather could stand it. They also said that the pride parade is doing the opposite of promoting acceptance by shoving it down people's throats (so to speak). Especially, they said, with all the more extreme flamers and overtly sexual people and stereotypes that were there. What do you think? Are the guys I met just prudes?

It has it's pros and cons

Damn, i wish i had gone. My mate went and said it was fun.

Other then the no friends part how was it?

It was fun.

I wouldn't think of a pride gathering as a place to look for friends.

Well I like making friends, I'd hope to meet them most places I go.

I know what you mean, but in my experience Pride is more of a place for someone to try and pick you up.

But more friends are always good, no doubt about that :D

HAH I totally didn't go on purpose and people got mad at me.

We are two of a kind, only I didn't have anger directed at me O:

:D well then you have more sane friends, huzzah

I'm so mad at you :<

no not you, a guy was demanding that I HAD to go because of whatever, I think he was hoping I'd give him a super concrete reason why I wasn't going. All I said was I didn't want to because I wasn't interested, and he was completely shocked and trying to push me to go for like half an hour, giving tons of reasons ^^;

That's weird, s'your own choice.

I have never gone to one... but maybe that's cuz I am only 14. I would stick out like a sore thumb though... cowboy boots, blue jeans with a ginormic belt buckle, and of course, the ever popular wife beater and camo hat... Not your typical gay guy!

Lots of guys would pay attention to you xD

Yeah... but would it be in a good way? lol

Depends what you consider good xD

Well that suxks. Sucks even more that there's none I know of here in Vegas =<