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Megan in Bondage - My Thoughts
13 years ago
As anyone who has been following me for a while has seen, I like to commission artists to draw Megan in bondage. There's something about the idea of being tied up that I find very appealing on several levels. I like the thought and the artistic flair of it. And I think there is an artistic side to bondage, in the careful way the restraints are placed and the way it showcases the human body, whether that body has been translated into a furry character or not. It requires a level of thought and attention to your partner, or yourself, that you rarely see in any other activity. You cannot tie someone up, or be tied up by someone, without being very much aware of them and thoughtful of them. In that way, I think it can be a very tender and romantic act.
I will admit that, yes, I do get a thrill out of it, too. It's a very sensual act, too, and it's probably one of the most intimate things you can do with another person.
However, where I think I may diverge from the beaten path is that I'm not really interested in bondage as an act of submission to another person. When I commission pictures of Megan in bondage, I do not actually imagine her being tied up by someone else, even with the most blatantly sexual pictures in my collection. Rather, I imagine it as more a performance, if anything. That she's there to be admired and looked at, but not touched. It is, I suppose, a very peculiar form of narcissism, in that Megan is "me" and yet I enjoy looking at her as much as anyone else. That, and, I suppose I enjoy teasing people far more than is good for me. Especially since I have no interest in delivering on those promises, except for my darling boyfriend.
I suppose, in simpler terms, I'm a stuck-up bitch who is in love with herself. Sorry, guys.
I will admit that, yes, I do get a thrill out of it, too. It's a very sensual act, too, and it's probably one of the most intimate things you can do with another person.
However, where I think I may diverge from the beaten path is that I'm not really interested in bondage as an act of submission to another person. When I commission pictures of Megan in bondage, I do not actually imagine her being tied up by someone else, even with the most blatantly sexual pictures in my collection. Rather, I imagine it as more a performance, if anything. That she's there to be admired and looked at, but not touched. It is, I suppose, a very peculiar form of narcissism, in that Megan is "me" and yet I enjoy looking at her as much as anyone else. That, and, I suppose I enjoy teasing people far more than is good for me. Especially since I have no interest in delivering on those promises, except for my darling boyfriend.
I suppose, in simpler terms, I'm a stuck-up bitch who is in love with herself. Sorry, guys.
So basically you enjoy bondage without D/S? well that can get a bit complicated to say. you will always have to subjugate yourself to some one else to be restrained, which is still part of D/S IMO. they are in charge of your freedoms, you must trust that person, they must know your limits etc. your weaknesses and exposure are the focus of the act. to go on, when you post (fictional) pictures of yourself online in a situation of tasteful vulnerability, you open yourself up to the anonymous viewer. even further, you are subject to the people you pay to draw you in restraint. the ropework is not the only thing to be admired in such art, but that doesn't drop the context. You are not talking about nude art, you are talking about art of yourself restrained. so really, i personally view that as fetishistic.
not to bring up as an argument of course. that's just how i see this journal.
Bondage is an act of submission, yes, and yes you do make yourself vulnerable to people. But when I say I am not submissive, I mean that bondage is the only part of that subculture that I enjoy. When the ropes are put away, that's the end of it and it doesn't go any further than that. Also, yes of course you have to trust someone if this is something you do in real life. But I think you can trust someone like that without necessarily having to be interested in any more than being tied up, maybe as part of something more intimate but sometimes just for the sake of the act itself. As for art, you open yourself up to strangers when you post art no matter what the subject. Even the tamest art exposes some part of you to the outside world. With bondage art, I'm very well aware of how people are going to interpret that, and that some of them are going to get off to it. But, for the most part, it's such an impersonal thing that I'd hardly put it in the same category as submission to your partner. I've got over 1200 watchers, and there are I don't know how many thousands of people on FA itself, and I get comments from a tiny fraction of them.
Not a problem. I'd get pretty bored if people didn't post their thoughts on things. I don't expect everyone to agree with me on everything, either. That would be silly.
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I'm especially fond of ribbons, shibari, dainty chains and artisan leather work in bondage. It's also part of why I like leather pony/animal play, I'm not into it as a sexual fetish, but I am all over it from as aesthetic standpoint, especially really good, delicate work.
About how the knots are intricate, and therapeutic to tie and that even when they look simple, they're knot! (Sorry, I had to!) And I've said a few times about how they're a sort of safe haven for me, helping me out with my anxieties in places where I don't understand a lot. Rope is a form of comfort for me, and most people get confused when I say I don't find rope sexual.
What I mean by that, and where I usually have the most trouble explaining, is that I don't have any interest in my rope as a sexual object myself. That sentence doesn't apply to anybody else when I say it, and I'm completely okay with what other people enjoy. I can perfectly see the appeal of it, but for me the closest thing to sexual in it is the presentation of the body, and even that aspect of it can be absolutely beautiful and not sexual to me in any way.
The idea that an act of bondage is strictly submissive in any way baffles me a little, as there's a term from the BDSM communities I peek into every once in a while called 'topping from the bottom,' in which the person on the receiving end is still the one in the dominate position, whether they've told their partner to tie them up and the partner complies, or have ordered their partner to be spanked. I don't mean to be lewd when I say this, but being tied up at your own will is no more submissive than ordering your partner to please you with their tongue. You are still in the dominate position there, they are consenting to your request, and the act is there to please you in both cases. Sure, the act can please them, too, if they enjoy it. But it is you who are in control of whether that happens to you or not just as much as it is they who have control over whether they consent to the act.
And that's not even getting into the act of self-bondage! Who am I submitting to when I put myself in a karada for confidence? Myself? If I'm submitting to myself, then I must also be dominant! Submissive and dominant at the same time? Oh, no. I guess I'm just silly old me.
There is no consensual act that is strictly submissive, or strictly dominant. Anyone that claims there are do not understand what a dynamic is, and that your dynamic is different from their dynamic.
My apologies if I went overboard to too lewd with this post!
No need to apologize for anything you said here! I love what you've written, and I wish I could have written a lot of it, myself!
I love your bondage pix and never once thought of you as submissive because of them. Of course I know you better than some. =p