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3 times in the past year and a half..
13 years ago
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You know, I try to be a nice person, I really do. I understand there are things that I do that are either annoying, or grating. I have my opinions, and maybe way too much knowledge ( I'm sure it will come in handy someday, Honest). But then there is some incident that estranges me from someone who i thought was a friend, or perhaps a close acquaintance. and now it starts to bother me that i have had three of such instances happen in the past year and a half it starts to worry me.
I am most certainly not trying to please every one, or be popular. I know that the former isn't possible, and I am quite happy the current crop of friends I do have. However, when what was once a good relationship withers and dies , and the other party refuses to tell me what exactly I have done wrong, it irritates me, gets under my skin. One has yelled at me, belittled me and accused me of "tagging along and trying to suck up", another has simple refused to acknowledge my attempts at reconciliation, and the third for some reasons has stated to want little to no contact, especially no positive support, from me. I don't understand the problem, i have tried my best to be kind and friendly to the people I interact with. The few outbursts you see on here are times at which my outlook slips and I give in to anger and stress. All I want is to get along, and fix my problems. By not telling me what I have done to upset you , I can't fix it.
TL;DR if you have a problem with me, be civil and talk to me. I'm willing to fix my mistakes and apologize
I am most certainly not trying to please every one, or be popular. I know that the former isn't possible, and I am quite happy the current crop of friends I do have. However, when what was once a good relationship withers and dies , and the other party refuses to tell me what exactly I have done wrong, it irritates me, gets under my skin. One has yelled at me, belittled me and accused me of "tagging along and trying to suck up", another has simple refused to acknowledge my attempts at reconciliation, and the third for some reasons has stated to want little to no contact, especially no positive support, from me. I don't understand the problem, i have tried my best to be kind and friendly to the people I interact with. The few outbursts you see on here are times at which my outlook slips and I give in to anger and stress. All I want is to get along, and fix my problems. By not telling me what I have done to upset you , I can't fix it.
TL;DR if you have a problem with me, be civil and talk to me. I'm willing to fix my mistakes and apologize
The only experience I can offer that worked for me, is to drop the issue, despite the feeling of rejection, as soon as you can and not try to find out what is wrong. Spending the emotional energy to get answers just drives them completely away from you. Then you're left empty handed and they believe you just want to invade their personal space for crazy reasons, even though your attempt is honest and sincere.