Just something happened to me, and I was overwhelmed with mad. Sorry let you worry.

o3o?

Just something happened to me, and I was overwhelmed with mad. Sorry let you worry.

its k *hugs*

Because Humanity is getting worse...

yep... *sighs*

-holds the big dragon close- it's ok hun

^ ^. Thank you, pal.

所谓的生存法则吧
【对自己家人冷眼相对，却对陌生人推心置腹】
也许早就忘记了怎么去微笑，那都是“幼稚”的，只有六岁前可以做得到吧

對陌生人推心置腹，但他卻對你說了謊。...這我不知道該說什麼

怎么回事？留言又不能写上去了？

We are one of the few creatures with a complex language, complex enough to even be able to lie.
Animals just send signals: Danger, food, come here... not a huge vocabulary. Look up someone who's cataloged wolf language for example.

Now if I were to say I bought a blue sweater today, I am lying. I bought a blue sweater so long ago I can't tell you when. And its shade of blue you're thinking about isn't the shade I'm thinking about, so already you have a distortion of my information because I cannot communicate the image in just a few words (a picture is worth 1000 words, remember?). So you probably don't know that it had a V-neck, either. I probably had to add that because your common thought is round neck. And you may think wool by default when it was a synthetic, and so on.

So I'll tell you about my sweater, and someone may ask you about it for details, and instead of you saying "I don't know, he didn't say" you might, like a lot of people do, especially if they were told long enough ago that they don't even remember IF they were told details, make them up from their default image of a sweater in their memory. This is another way lies happen. False memory.

Another is we are deathly afraid of what we think of each other, and use "little white lies" to save face (you're asian, right? you must understand this better than I do) and as well save someone's feelings. All these things are "walking on eggshells" "being tactful" and "pretending to be civilized" depending on whom you ask about the behavior. They all are a thin veneer of being polite in one form or another because we'd rather not say, "that lipstick looks cheap on you," and so on.

There comes a time with saving up all these unsaid truths with someone that people keep this subconscious debt. And when they become upset with that same someone, this debt comes to the conscious all of a sudden. "Well I've been meaning to tell you about your cheap clothes and makeup!" and these other petty comments that come out during a quarrel or spat, because they were initially held in, but when upset with someone, it's like a dump truck that held all these little withholdings comes back from the mental landfill and BEEP-BEEP-BEEP unloads its back end full of these withheld comments in insult form, all little truths now used as ammunition to try and win an emotional war.

It all would be so much easier if we were totally open and honest and never withholding any thought from each other. But then again, if we did that at the state department and military, we'd all be glowing in the dark by now by Plutonium's green light.

After reading your comment, I felt better now. Thank you, man.

Yeah, my situation was that I found that he was telling a lie. But he didn't find that I found this truth. I'm disappointed, why he would say the lie to me. *sighs*. I know that it is a "little white lie" to me. But... well, I know it's necessary to tell a lie when it needs. I think I just couldn't control myself when I realized it.
I will deal with it. Thank you so much, bis Iksar.

Yes, I'm sorry when discovered lies come painfully. hugs
People close to us lead 2 lives, and we lead 2 lives with them. There's the person we perceive them to be, and the person they actually are. And vice-versa. Sometimes we actually effort to be their lover, friend, co-worker, whatever role or "facade" we want to put on around them. Masks we all are taught to wear because of civilization. Ways to behave because it's appropriate to respond that way in a business (or family, or personal, or intimate, etc.) relationship with someone. Just look at the various ways you have to address someone in Japanese for example, depending on your relative station and relationship with that person, and honorific!

Anyhow, we maintain these masks at a cost, which often means there's some deceit involved. Anything that isn't the raw, actual you has a cost. Often you have to choose whether to maintain a facade OR drop it and go ahead and confess something that spoils your perfect image, may upset someone's sterling reputation or feelings about you, or of course lie to cover it up and keep going on, hoping you can get away with being a two-timer or what have you without confessing that you need extra-relationship affairs, etc.

Anyhow, you're welcome. Confrontation is difficult, but it brings values into the open. That of wanting better communication and honesty, less deceit and skullduggery.

I agree, sometimes mask is necessary. But it is important to wear it in a suitable situation. Moreover, it is not just for your laziness or malice to be in mask toward your friends, but as you said for "white lie" is proper.

Anyway, Thanks again, pal. ^^

*pats you on the shoulders and back* I try to comfort and love my dragons

唉，真實世界就算了，連這裡也是。