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Getting bullied in college?
12 years ago
I always thought college was completely different from high school but it appears to be even worse. I was never bullied badly in high school but now this girl will not stop making fun of me. She knows my boyfriend, I've never spoke to her in my life. I didn't even know of her until I start the first day of my biology lab class.
Apparently even before that she was making fun of me though. She asked my boyfriend if I actually thought I was a fox and then made fun of the way I dressed. It makes me very anxious to go to this class so I decided I'd try to switch into a different one. But the next day wasn't so bad so I felt like I could stick it out. Plus going to get a class switched for bullying is quite embarrassing.
However, yesterday she sees my boyfriend at the gym and instantly the conversation changes to me. She keeps telling him I'm ugly and weird. She fucking asked if I drank wine out of a cup or a bowl. Seriously? I don't know what to do. I've NEVER been bullied for being a furry (or being myself) until now. I hate it and I am so dreading this class.
I am probably going to try and get switched into a different class. I feel like this is high school drama and I should deal with it but I just cannot...
tl:dr College sucks and girls can be so mean.
if your college has counselors, you can try going to talk to one of them about it. i'm sure they've dealt with issues like this before. i'm sorry you're going through this :(
Honestly, she can't do anything to you, except for what you allow her to do to you. And your boyfriend needs to stand up and be a man, and tell this girl off for making fun of you. If he allows her to speak like this about you and doesn't do anything to stop it, what's his problem? That'll just encourage her because she'll think she has an audience for her vitriol. From my experience, Women act like this when they want something you have: looks, friends, confidence etc. Your best option is to just ignore her, and show that she doesn't upset you. Bullies lose interest if they don't have good prey. However, If you really feel endangered and uncomfortable, the professors and administration will definitely work with you to make you feel more comfortable. Hell, most of the students will too. I know I wouldn't stand to hear anyone talk bad about another fur, and neither would my boy, Blue. Catch me on campus one day if you want, and I can see if I can give you a more personal hand than just this wall of text. Having a good social support system never hurts.
Now if it were me, personally, I'd give her hell just to fluster her. When she makes smart comments about drinking wine out of a cup or bowl I'd smile and wink and go "Bowl, duh. Good wine needs to be aerated. Classless ignoramus." I'm not usually the shy kind when it comes to standing up for myself. When bitches like that see that you aren't afraid to fight for your territory, they tend to back down. All bark and no bite.
Good luck handling this. And I know we don't know each other very well but Furs are a community and we protect each other. :)
Ignoring will probably work for now and I know my boyfriend should say more but like when she'd call me weird for wearing a fursuit, he'd say things like "it's cute that she wears it and it makes her happy." and things like that. I would honestly want him to tell her off but I don't want to say that or anything...
Also, I see Blue around often but I never see you! Also, thank you so much.
And I'd love to see your tail! If you want to take a chance and wear it one day I'll promise to wear my giant fluffy one with ya =^w^=
I've shifted to a smaller fox tail for the portability but I have a HUGE panther tail.
And Blue has more classes at earlier times than I do. I'm only on campus three days a week, and one of those days I don't have class until 6pm. I'm on campus Mondays and Thursdays. Would you want to try to catch up on either of those days? We can show off our fur xD
And no problem, you're welcome :)