I'm sure you look fine -- it doesn't matter what other people think. It matters how you feel. If it's that bad -- well, at least hair grows back. Wear a cap until then? *comforts*

ive been eying vombats rainbow caps ;x but I cant get one right now *sad

I know how you feel. I still haven't cut my hair yet (and I don't think I will. I love it long way too much. I like whipping people in the face with it in mosh pits) but you have to get into the habit of going in there with confidence, even if you're carded and such.

Confidence is habit forming, i've come to find. x.x

I love your hair and I will be slightly upset if you cut it all off!
It would certainly be a change though.

I WHIP MY HAIR BACK AND FORTH

Aww don't listen to other people... You dress and look how you want, you beautiful snake person!

Awww that sucks but she was old and obviously blind cause you're cute and handsome! You look great and I'd love to see a spiked hair shot ;O

I would like to know how the woman reacted after you were ID'd

the pharmacist stared at me oddly for a few minutes then merely handed me my medication.

Wait, so I'm confused... were you ID'd going into the restroom? Or ID'd picking up meds?

picking up meds from a pharamacist that has known me for the past two years. If I got ID'ed in a restroom id be confused and pissed off

Ah okay... since you mentioned that she has known you, then I can understand. Though, I get ID'd at the pharmacy every time I go (it is part of their job).

You look fine Muri dont let other people get you down. *hugs*

*hugs* I'm sorry to hear that!!! Although I would like to pics of these 'spikes' you say you can do xP

Today, a customer asked me if I was related to a co-worker. Said co-worker has a somewhat similar haircut, glasses & build.

This co-worker has a personality disorder similar to that of Asperger syndrome, in that he could be mistaken for autistic.

As a rational, empathetic human being, this shouldn't even faze me. A lot of people look like me and, maybe more importantly, being hurt by the remark actually means I look down on my co-worker.

I'm deeply disturbed by the remark instead. I spent the rest of my shift itching to leave so I could go home and shave my head. Dye my hair. I even considered taking off my glasses for the rest of the shift JUST so I wouldn't feel so embarrassed.

I keep telling myself it's not narcissism but it doesn't make me feel anybody about my feelings.

*wince* I know its not rational, I really do, and I regret having posted this journal mainly because it looks like im whining about nothing in particular bu narcissistic tendancies :x Really though I cant help it, I dont like being stared at and the main point is it does hurt, even when you dont want it to.

Being disturbed by that customers comment does not make you narcissistic in the least though. Its human nature to both want to look different and to fit in at the same time. If we look like others we cant be singled out and hurt or attacked, but looking like someone else, someone who may possibly have some tics that could be considered 'not normal' by the standards we live by, also makes us twitch. You arent a bad person.

Though I should point out, asperger syndrome folks are more normal then the average person on the street >.> I miss one of my school mates from high school who had a spectrum of it. He was hilarious, he was damn smart and on top of that he looked like a blonder version of brad pitt, but a brad pitt who liked marvel comics and disected the frog in science class for me because I nearly passed out at the very idea *wimp*

Either way I digress, I apologize for rambling and making no sense. Ill probably delete this journal soon ;x like I aid I dont want to look like im being whiny

I appreciate your sympathy and, to be clear, I wasn't responding negatively to your post at all. If anything, I'm really glad you did talk about it because it does make me feel a little better about my response, regardless of how kindly you try to justify it for me ;3

And you're absolutely right that he is more "normal" than the average person and I think that's what threw me off more than anything else because I never actually wanted to be "normal" but here I am being compared to exactly that image. Yet as I've gotten older, I've gradually let myself look more normal; shorter hair, glasses, no piercings. It's not even really about what I think of him; it's really that I look like a normal person. And I really hate it.

No need to apologize though. I would much rather have a meaningful response than some wisecrack or dismissal. And trust me, if you were being whiny, I wouldn't have bothered commenting at all because you wouldn't deserve the attention.

Good call. Asperger Syndrome is now considered part of 'autistic spectrum', in a variety of shapes or effects. And we're everywhere.

Wait, so you walked into the ladies room and the old lady thought you were a guy? Or you tried to go into the men's room and she redirected you to the ladies room?

I have a similar haircut at the moment (though soon to change if I ever get any calls back about a new job) My hair is quite long in the front, and very short elsewhere (not quite SHAVED, but very short comparatively). Used to be coloured, but haven't bothered since I'm job searching and will cut it off as soon as I got an interview, lol. But co-workers and customers gave me so much shit for it, but the point of the matter is, people just don't understand why people do things outside of their own spectrum of thought. Most people like to assume that people with female bodies and boyish looks are men by default, without thinking about what the person might actually be going though. As selfish as it is, society has wired people to be that way. I know it's easier said than done, but I try not to take offense to people like that because A.) They're probably ignorant in that such such people in society exist (and are more traditional, even though transgendered individuals are more open about themselves these days), and are under a blanket of unintentional ignorance, or B.) They're ignorant in the way that they're just and idiot.

People have asked other co-workers of mine how I have a job where I currently work with my hair how it is, and the answer is simple: I am who I am on the inside, and while other people are allowed to have their opinions, I could care less about what they think, I'll continue being who I am simply because that's all I can be. Though such comments can sting, try not to let it get you down. Your journey will be (and already is) a tough one, but once you make it through, it'll be so much better. ^_^

(though I feel like a hypocrite saying that without ensuring my own is better. >>; )