Sometimes I wonder why we gay bears/cubs manage to stay single and yet, complain about it.

I was looking back on some old messages from last year and I realize that a good 75% of men fail to respond back. Now, some background, I am a husky Asian guy who loves nerdy chubby guys. Naturally, I run into bears and found them to be the hottest part of the gay community. As a fat Asian guy raised with self esteem and body issues, it s refreshing to know that there are men who have a problem with the "Perfect Adonis" body image.

Then came Growlr. An app where I can find nerdy bear men?! Sign me up! But a vast majority of them do not want conversation or even express in meeting outside of this online world called Growlr.

I am a friendly guy, and even though I have a boyfriend, I like meeting guys that have similar interests because I expanding my social circle. If men want just hookups, then tell me so and I'll respect your intentions. But abruptly ceasing conversation is just RUDE.

Look, love is a numbers game. The more people you meet, the likelihood of meeting the right guy goes up. You just don't meet Mr. Right Bear by sitting at home and play Guild Wars 2 (which is a great game, by the way) all night. Go out, meet friends, and for God's sake, message me on Growlr!

Even if you don't find the guy attractive, say hi anyway! You never know if your new friend have really hot friends that could be your future Mr. Right! So stop jerking off and take a risk, because no one finds true love and friendship by playing it safe!

- Jopaa Kumaneko